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I'm really quite confused by what's happening to me. I've always identified as, and been comfortable being, a heterosexual female. All my romantic and sexual relationships have been with men. Then 3 years ago I met a man  , we became very close very quickly, we just seem to understand each other like no one else ever has. The thing is, in this relationship, we both take on 'opposite' gender roles. Not just in the bedroom but whenever we're alone together. We have new names for each other (which only we use), call each other husband and wife (me being the husband) and both feel very happy and natural with all this. Neither of us has had this happen before - both of us are in our 40s, been married, had kids etc. Neither of us feels any desire to transition or uncomfortable in the bodies we were born with. As a child I preferred to play with the boys, and most of my close friends are male but everyone sees me as a very feminine person. My partner has felt 'different' for a long time but couldn't pinpoint in what way. Has anyone else had this kind of 'BOOM' experience where suddenly everything changed?

Hi Angel,

  I'm Jeanette, A self appointed unofficial greeter for Susan's place. As such I want to let you know you and you SO are welcome here. (( Hugs)). Welcome. welcome Angel come on in. Can I get you a beverage? Coffee,tea, soda or water is all I have to offer you. Have a seat. Yes that one is a good choice. It is nice and comfy, because Devlyn has it all broken in already, Naw she won't mind I let lots of new folk use it.
  Have you had time to peruse the other forums or posts? There is a lot of good information here and a lot of good people too.. Feel free to comment on the ones that interest you and if you don't see what you are looking for just start another thread.
  I'm fairly new here also, I am 64, mtf and been doing HRT for a bit over 4 months now. I can't say that I have heard of a relationship like yours but hey it is reasonable and certainly withing the realm of this site. Others here may have experienced something similar. I am sure you will get other responses. I don't see where there is anything at all wrong with it. When I was married I preferred the more passive role in bed. But then in the privacy of our home I preferred other female assigned things not all of which were accepted by my ex. I think it is cool the you and yours have complimentary interests. I say go for it and enjoy.
  Well I hope you feel welcome here and hope you will take an active interest in the site.

  Hugs,
    Jeanette

Hi, Angel27!

I've heard of this sort of thing before.  People may just naturally slide into a role that they feel more comfortable in, and that sounds like what you have done.  It's perfectly natural to seek a comfortable spot in a relationship, and I'm glad you have achieved this.

You'll find an enormous range of folks here, some working through issues, some nicely settled in and happy, all of us together as we find our way through life.  It's a good place to ask questions, and learn about ourselves and others.  I hope you feel welcome here.

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Hi Angel  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

Thank you all for your kind replies. I feel at least I now have a place I feel I can be open about things, up to now the only people I feel won't find this 'weird' are my 20 year old son and his partner. I think I'm just going to enjoy the relationship and not worry what other people make of it 😍😍😍

I have a couple friends that are a couple and they do something similar to this. I don't think it's unusual at all. You do what makes you comfortable. You'll find plenty of people with a vast amount of experiences and stories here. I'm glad you are not going to worry what others make of it :) That's the way to go.

Hi Angel,

Confused? Don't be.
Sounds to me like you are both very happy.

The happiness and mutual understanding you have is a beautiful thing.
Bravo!!

Hugs
Steph.

Quote from: Angel27 on April 18, 2017, 03:13:18 PM
I think I'm just going to enjoy the relationship and not worry what other people make of it 😍😍😍

There you go!  That is how life should be.

Life.  You're doing it right.  😉

I don't see a problem, just be who you are.
My GF and I often switch roles, names, clothes.
Have fun with him (her)

Hi Angel27, Welcome.

Your relationship sounds very familiar, my partner and I have effectively swapped roles in many ways, and it was only through repeatedly being 'such a girl' that the penny eventually dropped.

Jump on in, the folk are friendly:)

Rowan