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Title: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: Mikka55 on April 15, 2017, 06:28:52 PM
Post by: Mikka55 on April 15, 2017, 06:28:52 PM
So today I was trying on this style with the top and the leather jacket. Both pieces of clothing were ladies section. It looked nice on me. But why did I feel like ughhhh I look such a male. Or.... could this look could actually be my non-binary androgynous look. ??(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170415/a196444d28db4900741172818e3c650c.jpg)
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Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: KathyLauren on April 15, 2017, 07:05:23 PM
Post by: KathyLauren on April 15, 2017, 07:05:23 PM
That is a pretty androgynous look.
I pay less attention to which side of the store a piece of clothing originated on, and more to how it looks. I have a couple of flamboyant men's shirts that I am keeping because they actually look quite girly. And there are lots of clothes in the ladies' section that I won't even consider. My style is quite girly. An item of clothing has to have nice colours or a swishy fabric or something feminine to attract my attention. I don't want to wear anything a male might wear.
If the look you are going for is androgynous, that outfit will do nicely. But it sounds like it wasn't working for you.
I pay less attention to which side of the store a piece of clothing originated on, and more to how it looks. I have a couple of flamboyant men's shirts that I am keeping because they actually look quite girly. And there are lots of clothes in the ladies' section that I won't even consider. My style is quite girly. An item of clothing has to have nice colours or a swishy fabric or something feminine to attract my attention. I don't want to wear anything a male might wear.
If the look you are going for is androgynous, that outfit will do nicely. But it sounds like it wasn't working for you.
Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: Mikka55 on April 15, 2017, 07:40:56 PM
Post by: Mikka55 on April 15, 2017, 07:40:56 PM
I feel its because of the pants i was wearing. If I was wearing leggings ill prob see my self differently.
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Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: Brooke on April 15, 2017, 08:10:39 PM
Post by: Brooke on April 15, 2017, 08:10:39 PM
I would agree that you look androgynous in the photo. If I saw you in person I would be looking for additional cues, such as mannerisms, posture, accessories/purse and voice.
Even after zooming in on my phone, I couldn't tell for sure.
Basically I think you could push it one way or the other.
Still- I love the look!
~Brooke~
Even after zooming in on my phone, I couldn't tell for sure.
Basically I think you could push it one way or the other.
Still- I love the look!
~Brooke~
Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: Mikka55 on April 18, 2017, 10:22:14 PM
Post by: Mikka55 on April 18, 2017, 10:22:14 PM
I "think" I know why i'm getting these thoughts, yeah at time im can try on feminine cloths, I have never really tried girly girly dresses or clothing yet, most of my "new" wardrobe is androgenous. I "think" I found myself a bit more too, while​ trying on clothing. Girly girly, I still need to experiment witj that more, but lately, I have been seeing myself as "The Tough Chick" if you know what I mean. That's... kinda my style. If any of that makes sense.
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Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: Mikka55 on April 18, 2017, 10:29:52 PM
Post by: Mikka55 on April 18, 2017, 10:29:52 PM
The "Rocker/Rebel" look
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Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: staciM on April 18, 2017, 10:33:15 PM
Post by: staciM on April 18, 2017, 10:33:15 PM
IMO, fit is a big gender indicator. What you are wearing is very baggy and therefore comes off non-female in my eyes.....not necessarily masculine, just not female.
Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: Mikka55 on April 18, 2017, 11:28:42 PM
Post by: Mikka55 on April 18, 2017, 11:28:42 PM
A bit better... but yeah i'm starting to get it. (https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170419/c990082a36b83db0d69dee39b6a321a0.jpg)
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Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: Mikka55 on April 19, 2017, 08:40:49 AM
Post by: Mikka55 on April 19, 2017, 08:40:49 AM
I mean yeah i guess i can do that look above, if I am having one of those agender feminine days. Don't see why not.
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Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: JillianC on April 19, 2017, 09:03:46 AM
Post by: JillianC on April 19, 2017, 09:03:46 AM
Quote from: staciM on April 18, 2017, 10:33:15 PM
IMO, fit is a big gender indicator. What you are wearing is very baggy and therefore comes off non-female in my eyes.....not necessarily masculine, just not female.
Thanks for describing it that way. Made something click for me.
Mikka, your second look does appear feminine to me.
Title: Re: Wearing women's clothing made me gender dysphoric
Post by: Mikka55 on April 19, 2017, 06:21:17 PM
Post by: Mikka55 on April 19, 2017, 06:21:17 PM
Thanks Jcsacc
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