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Title: Mental Checklist
Post by: Dayta on April 29, 2017, 09:22:57 AM
Post by: Dayta on April 29, 2017, 09:22:57 AM
I was making a kind of mental checklist of the things I have to do for my upcoming transition at work. We have a couple of appointments scheduled this week, one for some general makeup (at Sephora) and one to address my brows, which have been sadly under appreciated to date. I've also got two more zapping sessions on the next two Saturdays, and am getting closer and closer to clearing my face sufficiently to feel confident.
I talked to my HR rep, and she's briefed her boss, who's briefed the President, and now she's also briefed her whole team as well. She's working with my boss to set up a team meeting, including all of my coworkers (about ~40, I think?) and maybe the other area managers, which is tentatively set for next Wednesday. Next Friday is my normal day off (we're on an every-other-Friday off thing), so I'm going to talk to my boss on Monday about taking Wednesday pm and Thursday, giving me and everyone a few days to settle after the "coming-out" announcement and before my return to work.
As I counted these all out, I realized that I probably only have 2 1/2 more days posing as a man, IN MY LIFE! I have to wash a few of my old clothes this weekend, but their days are now numbered, and the number fits on one hand! My wife already trashed all of my ties, which was a little unnerving when I dug around to grab one last week for a potential executive tour (it didn't actually happen anyway, whew!).
I'm feeling so bouncy and jittery now, it all seemed so far away and now it's SO CLOSE! I just want to scream. Thanks to everyone here for your encouragement and advice. I hope that I can do the same for someone, as I'm feeling more grateful than anything right now.
Erin (forever :) )
I talked to my HR rep, and she's briefed her boss, who's briefed the President, and now she's also briefed her whole team as well. She's working with my boss to set up a team meeting, including all of my coworkers (about ~40, I think?) and maybe the other area managers, which is tentatively set for next Wednesday. Next Friday is my normal day off (we're on an every-other-Friday off thing), so I'm going to talk to my boss on Monday about taking Wednesday pm and Thursday, giving me and everyone a few days to settle after the "coming-out" announcement and before my return to work.
As I counted these all out, I realized that I probably only have 2 1/2 more days posing as a man, IN MY LIFE! I have to wash a few of my old clothes this weekend, but their days are now numbered, and the number fits on one hand! My wife already trashed all of my ties, which was a little unnerving when I dug around to grab one last week for a potential executive tour (it didn't actually happen anyway, whew!).
I'm feeling so bouncy and jittery now, it all seemed so far away and now it's SO CLOSE! I just want to scream. Thanks to everyone here for your encouragement and advice. I hope that I can do the same for someone, as I'm feeling more grateful than anything right now.
Erin (forever :) )
Title: Re: Mental Checklist
Post by: Megan. on April 29, 2017, 10:21:26 AM
Post by: Megan. on April 29, 2017, 10:21:26 AM
It's great having the realisation that certain bits of old clothing won't be needed any more ☺️. Last Friday was my last male day in the office, I got home that evening, took off my shoes and realised they could go in the recycling. Good luck with everything. X
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Title: Re: Mental Checklist
Post by: JeanetteLW on April 29, 2017, 11:01:04 AM
Post by: JeanetteLW on April 29, 2017, 11:01:04 AM
Quote from: Dayta on April 29, 2017, 09:22:57 AM
I was making a kind of mental checklist of the things I have to do for my upcoming transition at work. ..
I have to wash a few of my old clothes this weekend, but their days are now numbered, and the number fits on one hand! My wife already trashed all of my ties,
I'm feeling so bouncy and jittery now, it all seemed so far away and now it's SO CLOSE! I just want to scream. Thanks to everyone here for your encouragement and advice. I hope that I can do the same for someone, as I'm feeling more grateful than anything right now.
Erin (forever :) )
((Hug)) Erin,
Congrats Erin on your pending new life at work. It's is nice seeing you add you name to this list of ladies I've seen come out at work and in the rest of their worlds. The shedding of ones old shell and finally emerging as who you are is a wonderful sight to behold.
Ridding yourself of your past accouterments is a daunting action, for when you do you remove aspects of your life you have lived with forever. It can be unnerving in that the familiar is being put aside. But it can also be freeing as it will mean the donning of attire the fulfills your need to be yourself finally. No more hiding, no need to hide, you're free to blossom into the woman you are.
Hugs,
Laurie aka Jeanette