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My boyfriend of 6 mo (I am a cisgender heterosexual female) recently came out to me as having gender dysphoria and wanting to transition from male to female asap. This came as a shock to me, having never suspected she had any emotional strife about anything at all. Since she has told me, I have gone through stages of depression and frustration with the situation but the strongest conclusion that I've come to since has been that the love I have for her means more to me than what she has between her legs. I love her as a person much more than I am afraid of the fact that she is transitioning.

However, I still feel unsure of how things are supposed to unfold for us from now on. When I tell people about our relationship, most are supportive but seem to think that eventually the dynamic between us will become strange and we will end up being more friends than romantic partners. Is this the reality?

Also, what can I do to support her in the best way possible through her transition? All I want is her to be happy so anyway I can make that happen, I'll do.

Your relationship,  can be anything you want it to be, there are no rules,  despite what other people may suggest. Your feelings toward each other may change over time,  they may soften,  or even get deeper.  Keeping an open and honest dialog between you is key.
Supporting her is probably a case of letting her move at a comfortable pace with things,  but honesty is key. Do focus on your own needs to though,  it's a transition for you as much as her.  I wish you both the best .  X

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Hi MissMadi

Welcome to Susan's. I hope you enjoy your time here.

I admire your total acceptance of your spouse and for me personally I have been with my partner for 30 years and am so far a couple of months into fulltime living and been on HRT for awhile. I think it will be a tough time for you both but for my wife and I we made a promise to keep the lines of communication open between us in all things no subject was ever off the table. Our relationship has bee fairly celibate over the last 10 plus years so sex is not an issue for either of us. We continue to plan out lives as two women now instead of Husband and wife. It is strange but in a really nice kind of way...we share way more than we used to and are probably closed now than we ever have been.

I am sure there will be many others along to make suggestions  but for now Welcome and I hope we can be of some help. You are one of those special people whom I have great admiration for. You can see the beauty of the soul in someone else.  :D


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Quote from: MissMadi on May 08, 2017, 02:58:40 AM
When I tell people about our relationship, most are supportive but seem to think that eventually the dynamic between us will become strange and we will end up being more friends than romantic partners. Is this the reality?

i feel like this could happen to any relationship, not just cis/trans ones :P