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Got a message from a user who registered on the site just under a year ago, and subsequently made 33 posts.

They responded to the donation goal reminder message with:

QuoteNone of my #!$%@ (Profanity filtered by me) business
your trannies

I sent them a response back:

QuoteDelete your account and you won't receive any further messages. As for "you trannies" you really hate yourself don't you.

They responded:

QuoteSir .You are not a woman and you have never been and you will never be

Put all the makeup you like  you still a man 

have a lovely day

To which I sent them one final reply:

QuoteBelieve what you like. Have a wonderful life.

It's sad really... Insults have no effect on someone unless they allow them to do so. I do not. So instead of wasting your time doing that, simply ask for whatever it is you wanted in the first place.

I pity them really.

This will be an ongoing thread...

Wow sorry you had that and sorry that wasted your time some people just need to get a life

Poor soul, obviously very conflicted and unhappy. 

It's a shame they just couldn't hit the delete button and move on with their lives.

That's awful. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Hugs
Julia

Susan  Haters are gonna hate. Too bad ignorance rules the day. Too bad you can't b-slap them and show them what a lady you are. But we are better than that. Thanks for taking the high ground.

I find it fascinating that someone filled with such hate created an account here, knowing they didn't need to, just to read messages. Could the person have created the account just to send messages? Congrats on not feeding the troll.

Haters go to absurd lengths sometimes just to fire off silly messages packed with poor grammar and spelling.

I've had people fake the accounts of friends to try and contact me on Facebook Messenger, setting up a new FB account with the friends avatar and name spelling.  (I check the FB pages attached to the FB Messenger avatar.  They're generally empty other than the name and avatar image, which tells me that they are someone other than my friends.)

It appears to be some sort of mental illness, driving the need to go to extreme lengths and substantial effort just to try and insult someone.

I can't say I receive messages like this, but I think he best approach is to just delete and forget them. They say nothing about us, and reflect only on the person who sent them. They are not worthy of further consideration. By doing any more than that you waste time and emotional energy on something that at the end of the day is not worth it.

Wow. She really knows how to hit the right buttons.

I actually feel kind of ambivalent about her. On the one hand she's being a total jerk and lashing out with wanton cruelty.

On the other hand she is mentally unbalanced, in a lot of pain and has made a return trip to the closet.
Sad.

+ 1, Susan.  :)

Quote from: Jane Emily on June 28, 2017, 11:57:32 PM
Wow. She really knows how to hit the right buttons.

I actually feel kind of ambivalent about her. On the one hand she's being a total jerk and lashing out with wanton cruelty.

On the other hand she is mentally unbalanced, in a lot of pain and has made a return trip to the closet.
Sad.

Some people don't like fresh air and sunshine.

Hugs, Devlyn

I am sure if we examined her/his posts it would tell us all we would ever need to know about the member...

They are trans and are in the middle of a denial stage. They will really need the site again eventually so I didn't ban them.

I understand it is still sad and hurtful though it is like  five stages of grief, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance I deal with these every day with people where I work.

That is disgusting. Good on you for keeping your head up and your cool on. Like someone said, why would anyone make an account here if they are just going to be hateful. What a troll.

Love-Ashley

Quote from: Susan on June 29, 2017, 08:47:55 AM
They are trans and are in the middle of a denial stage. They will really need the site again eventually so I didn't ban them.

The level of compassion and open mindedness you show is amazing. Bravo <3

Quote from: Susan on June 29, 2017, 08:47:55 AM
They are trans and are in the middle of a denial stage. They will really need the site again eventually so I didn't ban them.

You're very kind.  I would have banned them.

Quote from: Susan on June 29, 2017, 08:47:55 AM
They are trans and are in the middle of a denial stage. They will really need the site again eventually so I didn't ban them.

Ow!  I wonder if they got red-pilled by some TERF or alt-right group.  I've seen that happen with a member of a social support group, where it has led to a year of misery (so far) for the poor soul.

That's kind of you to leave the door open for them.  Thanks for that, and I hope they are eventually able to take advantage of that.

Quote from: Susan on June 29, 2017, 08:47:55 AM
They are trans and are in the middle of a denial stage. They will really need the site again eventually so I didn't ban them.

Or someone else got a hold of their computer and posted using their account.  I am sorry you had to deal with that, Susan.  I think you handled it well.  You are a classy lady.

Quote from: Michelle_P on June 29, 2017, 10:10:54 AM
Ow!  I wonder if they got red-pilled by some TERF or alt-right group.  I've seen that happen with a member of a social support group, where it has led to a year of misery (so far) for the poor soul.

That's kind of you to leave the door open for them.  Thanks for that, and I hope they are eventually able to take advantage of that.

From Wikipedia:

The red pill and its opposite, the blue pill, are popular cultural symbols representing the choice between:

    Knowledge, freedom and the (sometimes painful) truth of reality (red pill)
    Falsehood, security and the blissful ignorance of illusion (blue pill)

I think you mean blue pilled my sis <3. There was a time i fell for something like this, heck there was this person i was friends with in grade 7 who was planning to transition female to male last year and then all of a sudden, became a self proclaimed right wing radical feminist who thinks trans people are just unstable. So her solution? basically live like and look like a male while denouncing trans* people. I would assume she bacame hateful due to her new girlfriend who likes things like ' Feminist current' , an anti trans website and other similar things... Aw well, her loss. I thought that when she decided to spit her venom at me and call me names and then get rid of me I would reminise alot about the good times and miss her, but honestly I lost all feelings about her. No hating, just completely indifferent now. Still, she is a great example of an unstable and lost person.

Btw Kathy, Nice picture. You are beautiful <3

Quote from: SailorMars1994 on June 29, 2017, 11:07:24 AM
Btw Kathy, Nice picture. You are beautiful <3

Aw, thanks, hun!  :)