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So I've recently decided transition is the path for me only person who knows is wife who is encouraging .. the plan  is to start transitioning slowly the first year with idk maybe a half transition does then ramping it up the second year to full dose.. the reason being is I have to take time to make surey family's well being is secure financially either get my company going g to a very profitable place or to work on schooling for a more trans friendly career as my job would be horrible to transition and come out in also I would like t have time for the hrt to do it's thing to save me a lot of time in the awkward dude in a dress phase I would like to have money saved up for any surgeries I may need..Then I will come out to the world go get surgery if needed and start living full time.. in the mean time I would be working on voice and all the other stuff I need to learn does anyone see any red flags in this other than the typical response as once you start her you may find it hard to continue living as male. And I know trying to hide breast growth and everything will be a pain but I'm willing to do it. I would appreciate any advice

Its not very common, but you can do the social transition at the same time as surgery.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,204651.0.html

The plan(for now) now that I told my wife is that I'm going to go to GT and get HRT. Probably low dose or half dose for 3-6 months. And tell my family around month 2-3 into it. That's probably when I'd tell close friends and my pastor who is a friend as well. Of course my original plan to tell my wife was completely thrown out the window but that's what I'm thinking at the moment. Still haven't figure out the job situation but I'm guessing that I'm going to lose it. But I want to go back to school anyways so that might be the time to do it.

If you can tolerate a slow transition, there is nothing wrong with the plan. There is one bit of advice and that is start on the things you can do now. These are facial hair removal, speech therapy, start constructing you look and do some part time passing. Should at some point discover the dysphoria has upset your schedule, you will have a head start on these items. In addition, working toward a goal will help control the dysphoria because your visions becoming reality will give you the feeling that you are approaching your goal. Nothing is worst that being stalled out unable to make progress. I had years of that and it wasn't fun.

When you start HRT with a plan of 1/2 the transition dose you may find that shortly after starting that you will want full dose.

Like Dena said, get started on the hair removal (facial especially) ASAP - it's a looooong process.
Personally, I couldn't do the slow transition. I've been suppressing this for far too long. It's going to take a lot of willpower for me to stay on the dosage the doctor prescribes.

Because it was so important to me to elicit female gendering (to pass as they put it) I waited six months before requesting HRT, so as to get a jump start on electrolysis... and more importantly, to retrain my voice.  I wasn't going to do this if I didn't sound right. 

And it was hard -- because proper voice training (imo) takes listening to recordings of your voice practice, and that can be very dysphoria inducing.  But then I found my one weird trick (a particular technique of maintaining laryngal tension) and suddenly my voice because my best asset. 

Quote from: Sarah_P on July 11, 2017, 05:38:44 PMLike Dena said, get started on the hair removal (facial especially) ASAP - it's a looooong process.

Personally, I couldn't do the slow transition. I've been suppressing this for far too long. It's going to take a lot of willpower for me to stay on the dosage the doctor prescribes.

Yeah, going slow is very difficult -- once I started getting gendered correctly, I never wanted to go back. 

One thing that helped was to compartmentalize -- I ended up full-time barely 3 months into HRT, with one very important exception: work.  I knew some women in transition without a stable income to pay for all the surgeries and electrolysis (that would be necessary to get new work in the proper gender), and their journey was a complete nightmare.  So I actually never came out at work, not until all my surgeries were complete (and then I changed careers, so I never had a "coming out at work" experience ever).  My therapists signed off on this after my careful explanations of my plan, and especially after facial surgery (which only required a letter stating I was in therapy, not full time).