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Title: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2017, 08:16:32 PM
Post by: stephaniec on July 12, 2017, 08:16:32 PM
I live near the LGBT center in Chicago and see a lot of trans people everyday. Just courious if given the opportunity would you explore more association with trans people
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: AnonyMs on July 12, 2017, 08:29:36 PM
Post by: AnonyMs on July 12, 2017, 08:29:36 PM
Yes and no. I'd like to but apart from being trans we probably don't have much in common. After a while I don't think that would be very satisfying.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: I Am Jess on July 12, 2017, 08:30:04 PM
Post by: I Am Jess on July 12, 2017, 08:30:04 PM
I do all of the time.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: HappyMoni on July 12, 2017, 09:22:20 PM
Post by: HappyMoni on July 12, 2017, 09:22:20 PM
I fear being around trans people, I am afraid I will catch it. Oh wait, I already have. Seriously, I have met trans folk I have nothing in common with and trans folk I absolutely love. It is definitely nice to share experiences with someone who knows what it is like. So yes!
Moni
Moni
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: Michelle_P on July 12, 2017, 10:12:52 PM
Post by: Michelle_P on July 12, 2017, 10:12:52 PM
I do all of the time. I'm in a trans social group that does regular meetups, lunches, BBQs, etc. I have made some good friends in this group, some nice folks.
It also is an opportunity to help others just coming out.
It also is an opportunity to help others just coming out.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: Gertrude on July 13, 2017, 07:45:04 AM
Post by: Gertrude on July 13, 2017, 07:45:04 AM
Yeah
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Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: Rae anne on July 13, 2017, 09:21:58 AM
Post by: Rae anne on July 13, 2017, 09:21:58 AM
Yes. That would be nice.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: elkie-t on July 13, 2017, 10:10:02 AM
Post by: elkie-t on July 13, 2017, 10:10:02 AM
Probably not more than with any other groups... Some members of LGBT community are a great aspiration, others (majority) are scaredy cats too afraid to be out, and not even caring about your friendship as much as their fears.
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Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: arice on July 13, 2017, 10:14:49 AM
Post by: arice on July 13, 2017, 10:14:49 AM
Definitely. I do spend time with other trans people at group. Some of them I would hang out with outside of that, others I wouldn't. It's like any other group of people, some you have more in common with than others. The nice thing about trans people is that they understand gender based issues in a way that cis people can't.
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Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: SophiaBleu on July 13, 2017, 10:33:01 AM
Post by: SophiaBleu on July 13, 2017, 10:33:01 AM
Yes! I need to put myself out there more!
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: natalie.ashlyne on July 13, 2017, 10:34:47 AM
Post by: natalie.ashlyne on July 13, 2017, 10:34:47 AM
yes I do want to but there are non in my area
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: JillianC on July 13, 2017, 10:45:54 AM
Post by: JillianC on July 13, 2017, 10:45:54 AM
Probably not. Besides being trans I haven't had much in common with other trans individuals.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: Charlie Nicki on July 13, 2017, 11:42:47 AM
Post by: Charlie Nicki on July 13, 2017, 11:42:47 AM
Definitely.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: Wanda Jane on July 13, 2017, 12:09:08 PM
Post by: Wanda Jane on July 13, 2017, 12:09:08 PM
I already do as much as possible. My bff is trans. You would never know we were 55 and 25 when hanging out. I go to my support groups, gay AA meetings, and any other events like Pride I can. Yes in some cases we only have our identification in common, but I have found that that makes us much more alike than it would appear on the surface. I have struggled with my beliefs and values through this and it helps to have others that feel the same to talk to. The love, support, advice, fellowship and tips I get from my trans community is priceless. I can't imagine trying to do this on my own, I'd be basket case.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: Shy on July 13, 2017, 01:21:55 PM
Post by: Shy on July 13, 2017, 01:21:55 PM
Support groups, definitely. It's good to feel connected to a bigger community, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'd want to socialise with other trans folk outside of the group unless we had other things in common.
Peace and love and all that good stuff,
Sadie
Peace and love and all that good stuff,
Sadie
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: I Am Jess on July 13, 2017, 02:30:38 PM
Post by: I Am Jess on July 13, 2017, 02:30:38 PM
I've had the opportunity to meet trans people from all across the country. I've been in a relationship with another transwoman and my current roommate is a transwoman. I've had a number of transwomen stay at my house and I've attended numerous events that are trans specific. I've had a few get togethers at my house where I have invited trans people to attend. It's important to share our experiences and knowledge with each other. I like meeting others and listening to transition stories. I really haven't been to support groups because I had a fantastic therapist and I haven't had very many issues that I've felt the need to get support from others. When I did go to a few meetings the people there were resentful because I didn't face any of the typical transition related problems and so I wasn't seen as being "trans" in their sense of the word. There are some amazing trans people out there and it is a blessing to be able to know so many.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: swatch on July 13, 2017, 04:28:02 PM
Post by: swatch on July 13, 2017, 04:28:02 PM
After some time IRL, I concluded I had not much in common with them except dysphoria, and I felt an horrible hivemind mentality.
Susan's been the best place for me to "keep in touch" with a trans community.
Other forums I tried were not for me.
->-bleeped-<- I cannot say for sure.
Susan's been the best place for me to "keep in touch" with a trans community.
Other forums I tried were not for me.
->-bleeped-<- I cannot say for sure.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: davina61 on July 13, 2017, 04:33:09 PM
Post by: davina61 on July 13, 2017, 04:33:09 PM
Wouldlike to but cant find any groups local to me
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: coldHeart on July 14, 2017, 07:35:32 AM
Post by: coldHeart on July 14, 2017, 07:35:32 AM
I,ve just started, wished I had done it sooner
Sara
Sara
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: warlockmaker on July 14, 2017, 09:54:53 AM
Post by: warlockmaker on July 14, 2017, 09:54:53 AM
Living in Bangkok I do not feel the need to gender people so I just hang out with people I like. 90 pct of my friends are cis. Keep in mind I'm gregarious by nature and have many friends.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: AlyssaJ on July 14, 2017, 10:39:20 AM
Post by: AlyssaJ on July 14, 2017, 10:39:20 AM
Yes I would like to do more, sadly in my area there is a definite lack of support groups. So I'm left to find people through friends, Facebook and forums like this one. I try to find people in my immediate area but end up doing some traveling sometimes too (for instance I leave on a trip Monday to go spend most of the week hanging out with one of our sisters from this very forum). Also now that I'm a little more connected with people, when I travel for work I usually send a shout out to find any of my acquaintances that live in the area I'll be in to see if anyone wants to meet up.
Right now there are a few trans friends I have across the North American continent that I consider very close friends. Unfortunately I only have a couple loose friends that are local enough to see on a regular basis.
As far as setting out to find trans friends, it's not because I don't want to associate with CIS people anymore. The reason I specifically would like some trans friends is definitely the support aspect. People who have direct experience and understand what we're going through. People who can share tips with me and who I can also share advice with as well. Most of all, people I can feel safe with and not have to worry that I'm being secretly judged for being trans (they might judge me for other reasons :D )
Right now there are a few trans friends I have across the North American continent that I consider very close friends. Unfortunately I only have a couple loose friends that are local enough to see on a regular basis.
As far as setting out to find trans friends, it's not because I don't want to associate with CIS people anymore. The reason I specifically would like some trans friends is definitely the support aspect. People who have direct experience and understand what we're going through. People who can share tips with me and who I can also share advice with as well. Most of all, people I can feel safe with and not have to worry that I'm being secretly judged for being trans (they might judge me for other reasons :D )
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: Michelle G on July 14, 2017, 11:50:32 AM
Post by: Michelle G on July 14, 2017, 11:50:32 AM
I have a couple local trans friends, a transguy in his late teens (I know his mother) and a trans girl a bit younger than me, we rarely bring up trans issues or discussions, we just see ourselves as regular friends and yak about all sorts of things.
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: Anne Blake on July 14, 2017, 02:23:18 PM
Post by: Anne Blake on July 14, 2017, 02:23:18 PM
Both my wife and I enjoy interacting with others in the transgender as well as the broader LGBTQ community. While most of our friends and social contacts are CIS, we are steadily and purposefully adding to our transgender network.
When we first began our journey into our new world just 2 or 3 years ago we sought out support groups to help us learn and avoid so many of the problems that strain and sometimes destroy relationships. We were a pair of old lady newbies to this world and learned a lot from many and during that time have made many dear friends. We grew quickly and now have enough experiences under our belts to be able to help others in their journeys. Sometimes it is talking to and perhaps mentoring young searchers, other times it is just spending time and as Michelle G says "just see ourselves as regular friends and yak about all sorts of things". Tomorrow evening we will be gathering with two other couples we love dearly, we will be sharing a meal and just yak away the evening. Trans topics may show up but probably not, it just feels good spending time with folks that "Understand".
Anne
When we first began our journey into our new world just 2 or 3 years ago we sought out support groups to help us learn and avoid so many of the problems that strain and sometimes destroy relationships. We were a pair of old lady newbies to this world and learned a lot from many and during that time have made many dear friends. We grew quickly and now have enough experiences under our belts to be able to help others in their journeys. Sometimes it is talking to and perhaps mentoring young searchers, other times it is just spending time and as Michelle G says "just see ourselves as regular friends and yak about all sorts of things". Tomorrow evening we will be gathering with two other couples we love dearly, we will be sharing a meal and just yak away the evening. Trans topics may show up but probably not, it just feels good spending time with folks that "Understand".
Anne
Title: Re: if there was more opportunity would you associate with other trans
Post by: anne_indy on July 14, 2017, 03:06:53 PM
Post by: anne_indy on July 14, 2017, 03:06:53 PM
Quote from: Anne Blake on July 14, 2017, 02:23:18 PM
We grew quickly and now have enough experiences under our belts to be able to help others in their journeys. Sometimes it is talking to and perhaps mentoring young searchers, other times it is just spending time and as Michelle G says "just see ourselves as regular friends and yak about all sorts of things".
I am one of those "others" who has been helped immensely by Anne and her wife. I live in a location where I don't dare reveal to anyone my trans nature. My occasional forays back to her side of the world are the only opportunities I have for direct interaction. Anne and her wife, plus another mutual friend from the same region have played essential roles in my recent journey. I am blessed to have such relationships.
Another Anne.
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