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... Oh it's been a while since I posted on here, life got in my way.

Anyway, I just hope I'm not the only one who has this thought issue, and maybe how anyone else combats it.

Now, I'm pre-everything, even diagnosis, but I had my mind mostly set on getting a meta done due to the less complications and more natural feeling side of things. I'm asexual, so needing length/girth for sexual penetration wasn't on the table for me.

But then, I'm in a long-distance relationship with an MTF, and we sometimes discuss what'd happen after we'd both had everything that we wanted surgery-wise, and it turned out that whenever I thought about that it was a lot more than just romantic attraction.

Which leads me to my two questions -

Has anyone else experienced their sexuality changing from asexual, or have I just 'labeled' myself wrong?

Does anyone ever have the irrational fear that they'll be left due to having a smaller penis?

I have a long way to go before I have to make that decision, but I just feel stupid over it.

Going out with my girlfriend (now ex) I used to think I wanted no sex with her whatsoever although I was romantically attracted to her. Then a year into the relationship I started having sexual feelings; so realised I was actually demisexual not completely asexual. Then after some time later the thought of penetration was a huge turn on. Not sure if I want meta due to penetration being unlikely to be possible; but like the thought of having a more usable penis than I do niw with the added bonus of keeping my female parts intact.

I don't think a lot of women think penetration is the thing to experience from a man. There are a lot of other things you can do in the bedroom that are a lot more satisfying to a woman.

Quote from: Elis on July 17, 2017, 03:11:11 AM
Going out with my girlfriend (now ex) I used to think I wanted no sex with her whatsoever although I was romantically attracted to her. Then a year into the relationship I started having sexual feelings; so realised I was actually demisexual not completely asexual. Then after some time later the thought of penetration was a huge turn on. Not sure if I want meta due to penetration being unlikely to be possible; but like the thought of having a more usable penis than I do niw with the added bonus of keeping my female parts intact.

I don't think a lot of women think penetration is the thing to experience from a man. There are a lot of other things you can do in the bedroom that are a lot more satisfying to a woman.

Like make the bed, pick up your socks off the floor, dust the top of the ceiling fan.... ;D

HRT alters the sex drive for a lot of people.

I had almost no interest in it previously. Can't say the same any more. Although I'm not interested in dating, it's another thing to contend with.

I'm asexual. I had considered pre-op that dysphoria was what was causing my low/nonexistent sex drive and was open to potentially exploring it after everything healed. But I had no change whatsoever to how I feel about sex post-op.

If your partner would end an otherwise healthy relationship because you have a small penis, you are probably better off not being with them.

Demisexuality--only experiencing sexual attraction to people you're already emotionally close to--is a thing. (And most people consider it a subcategory of being asexual.) Hormones are known to alter your sex drive, but if your partner is the only one you've experienced this with, then it could still be just the way you're wired.

As someone really into dick myself, I'm fully understanding of and prepared for the possibility that a lot of people won't be interested in my anatomy, and won't want to date me as a result.

But since your partner is also trans and has stayed with you knowing you're FTM, yeah, I don't think your fears about your current partner are likely to be justified.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 17, 2017, 06:17:48 AM
Like make the bed, pick up your socks off the floor, dust the top of the ceiling fan.... ;D

:D :D :D not quite what I was thinking off

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 17, 2017, 06:17:48 AM
Like make the bed, pick up your socks off the floor, dust the top of the ceiling fan.... ;D

Elis beat me too it, but....

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Little chance there, Devlyn. Expectations= much too high!!! LOL.

Just kidding. I pick my socks up off the floor and put them in my green, army-issued laundry bag. Mostly because if my NCO walks in my barracks room for a surprise inspection it wouldn't bode well to have dirty laundry everywhere.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on July 17, 2017, 06:17:48 AM
Like make the bed, pick up your socks off the floor, dust the top of the ceiling fan.... ;D

That's totally hilarious.  Lol