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   As I was waking up this morning, I heard someone scream in my neighborhood. We thought it was a neighbor who often squeals with delight. As it turns out, that neighbor had just learned that her son was killed by a hit and run driver. This is a young man who grew up with my kids. He would come into a room and his personality would just fill the room. I know this happens every day but I just can't believe it. As I write this my  partner has read that a coworker of ours has also passed away after a long illness. She was a wonderful person as well.
   So, what do you take away from a day like today. All I can say is we must try to live life to its fullest. Life is fragile, show your love to someone who needs it, and reach for being who you are, your authentic self. There is no guarantee that you can do it 'someday.' 

Monica

  Monica,

  My condolences for the loss of both of your friends. Life is indeed fragile and it is by no means a given. One must  make the most of what they have been given for it can be taken in a blink of an eye.
  Your words of advice are good ones to take to heart.

  Again I an sorry for your losses.

Hugs,
   Laurie

What a tough way to start your day, I will bet that that scream will echo in you heart for quite some time. One could speak of the transitory nature of life but that would be wasted air. Openly loving and expressing that love is the only way I could get through it. Hug your partner close and tell her what she means to you, then go and do the same for your neighbor.

HRT does amazing things for emotions, compassion and tears. They let us feel more joy and more pain. I believe that through feeling the pain more deeply you are able to comfort that hurting mother better and to help you and your partner get through the loss of your coworker better as well.

Get hold of me girl if you want to talk.

Anne

Monica I am so sorry.  A tragic but very real reminder to appreciate what we have, and to reach for our dreams without delay.

I'm sorry for your loss. Drunk driving is so awful. My dad has told both my brother and I about people who get killed by drunk driving and told us about the drunk drivers he has arrested.  There is something called a intoxilock. It's a machine they make people with DUI convictions install in their car. You blow into a tube and if it detects alcohol the car won't start. I think those things should be in ALL cars. It would save a lot of lives and suffering.  One of the worst things I've ever heard was the story of Jacqui Saburido. She was 22. She was riding with 2 friends and a drunk driver hit them. Her 2 friends died but she was pinned in the car and it caught fire and she burned. She lost her eyes, lips, nose, ears and fingers. She was very pretty and now she doesn't even look human. The 18 year old drunk driver that hit her only got 8 years.
Julia

Sorry to hear that Monica. Sudden death is always hard to take. My nephew was driving home from College at Humboldt state and ran into the back of a truck fifteen years ago. My Mom was murdered by a drunk driver in 1982.  It takes a long time to come to grips with the situation because it just is not expected.

Hugs - Peace - Love

Dawn

Quote from: DawnOday on August 16, 2017, 01:00:02 PM
Sorry to hear that Monica. Sudden death is always hard to take. My nephew was driving home from College at Humboldt state and ran into the back of a truck fifteen years ago. My Mom was murdered by a drunk driver in 1982.  It takes a long time to come to grips with the situation because it just is not expected.

Hugs - Peace - Love

Dawn

I'm so sorry. That's horrible.

It is so sad, he had talked to his Mom last night and talked about how happy he was. He had a baby on the way. Anne, you are right that scream is etched in memory. Thank you for your kind comments. Love you all.

Moni

I am so sorry to hear about these tragic events.

Life is indeed fragile. I was driving home on the highway last night after getting my second T injection. I felt very happy as I drove along. Next thing I noticed that the truck travelling some distance ahead of me had lost a plastic water tank that then rolled across the lanes and into my path. Because it was so dark, and the tank was a dark colour, I didn't see it soon enough to avoid it. Fortunately, there were no cars following too closely behind me and I was able to brake sufficiently to slow down safely and push the tank out of the road to the side. It could have turned out very differently in the blink of an eye.

Every day is a gift. Lets not waste this in fear but live boldly.

It is right, that people say these things happen everyday. But they often say this in attempt to lighten the load. But what they overlook is, yes these things happen everyday, but they don't happen to us everyday. And when they do, its completely different.

We are human and entitled to our emotions, we are allowed to feel them. However as time goes on we learn from our experiences and lean to handle these things better. Each person is a seed, and they grow and develop, sprouting branches as they meet people. And for each person our branches connect with, a new branch is formed on them as a result of us, as they talk about us with their impression, to another and so forth.

A person is not just a person, they are a pert of everyone they meet. And when they pass no matter how, they are missed. My condolences. Even I through all of you, feel sadness at your loss. I did not know them, but you did. I hope you have fond memories of them that you can look back on, and honour them as you remember they existed. And I hope this Brings a Smile as I know that you Exist.

That's why I take each day as it comes, never a good thing to happen and hugs from here.

My little sister got hit by a drunk driver who drove away like that. It totalled her car and somehow didn't hurt her at all.

I live in a rough place myself though and I've seen and heard a bunch of deaths. I hate my blood family but I'm currently mourning a surprise death there. I think most people don't pay attention to how serious life gets all the time.

I'm sorry about your people and I agree we should all remember to notice. Thank you and everybody else who commented :)

Sorry for your loss Felix. Does seeing deaths make us appreciate life?  I can do without it.
Moni

Life if fragile, and that's what makes it beautiful and worth living. If we were immortals, we would waste our time in meaningless things, and postpone the important ones for later, because "there will be time". We sometimes forget about our parents or grandparents because we don't expect them to die. We know they will, but "It won't happen soon". Imagine how isolated we would become if we knew for sure that they would always be there.

Death has it's own beauty, even though it can be hard to see. There can be life withouth death, they're both part of the same thing. Life leads to death, and death leads to life. Everything reborns, or is transformed.

Sorry, my inner filosopher took control of my hands.