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Title: GD Triggers and how you overcome them
Post by: Bari Jo on August 31, 2017, 08:20:28 PM
Post by: Bari Jo on August 31, 2017, 08:20:28 PM
I have a few. One is facial hair on me. If I see it or feel it, I feel awful. My dog somehow loves it though. He is always licking it nibbling on it if it's grown out in the slightest. I know hes telling me he loves me, but damn, it makes me feel awful.
Another is a little girl voice like in anime. I know a couple of girls that have those here at my office. I will Never be able to duplicate their speech, but it doesn't stop me from dreaming of it.
Another is perfect flawless skin. It can be on the face, back, arm, I see it and it makes my stomach jump a little. For this though, I am looking forward to hrt helping. I know I will still have freckles as I've enjoyed the sun too much, but I might have smooth soft skin when all is said and done, whew, small rewards.
My GD though is nowhere near as bad as it was two months ago. Hrt does work wonders for that, at least for me. I was having cringes from the smallest things back then.
What about you ladies. Can I hear some things that give you GD, and how you are overcoming? It'll make me feel better, or worse, or both. Yes I can feel both at the same time:)
Bari Jo
Another is a little girl voice like in anime. I know a couple of girls that have those here at my office. I will Never be able to duplicate their speech, but it doesn't stop me from dreaming of it.
Another is perfect flawless skin. It can be on the face, back, arm, I see it and it makes my stomach jump a little. For this though, I am looking forward to hrt helping. I know I will still have freckles as I've enjoyed the sun too much, but I might have smooth soft skin when all is said and done, whew, small rewards.
My GD though is nowhere near as bad as it was two months ago. Hrt does work wonders for that, at least for me. I was having cringes from the smallest things back then.
What about you ladies. Can I hear some things that give you GD, and how you are overcoming? It'll make me feel better, or worse, or both. Yes I can feel both at the same time:)
Bari Jo
Title: Re: GD Triggers and how you overcome them
Post by: Nora Kayte on August 31, 2017, 09:44:03 PM
Post by: Nora Kayte on August 31, 2017, 09:44:03 PM
Omg!! The worst is the not the beard per say. It's when the wife touches it or comments on the goatee or sideburns. How much she likes the and so on. Drives me nuts. I know it's going to be one of those "steps" she will have to get used to. I've been hinting here and there. But if never been with out them so it's one of those aaarrg! Things. Lol.
Seeing my face and not seeing any femininity or my bald head. Those can set me off. You know if society could just accept everyone for who they are and what they want to wear we would not have those problems. If it was acceptable in society for men to wear women's clothes like women do men's. I don't think the GD would ever be that bad. At least for me. Because when at home and the outer clothes go with the under ones. I am fine.
lol I guess I could have just said mirrors.
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Seeing my face and not seeing any femininity or my bald head. Those can set me off. You know if society could just accept everyone for who they are and what they want to wear we would not have those problems. If it was acceptable in society for men to wear women's clothes like women do men's. I don't think the GD would ever be that bad. At least for me. Because when at home and the outer clothes go with the under ones. I am fine.
lol I guess I could have just said mirrors.
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Title: Re: GD Triggers and how you overcome them
Post by: KathyLauren on September 01, 2017, 06:55:14 AM
Post by: KathyLauren on September 01, 2017, 06:55:14 AM
Predictable things: facial hair, external plumbing, male pattern baldness, my voice.
My voice is gradually improving. I was able to find my "head voice", and I am working on inflections, etc. But it is still pretty deep for a girl.
I am doing sound for a local theatre production. The cast and crew are great with me, treating me as one of the girls. One of the required sound effects is a deep male voice reading a line. The director asked me to record myself reading the passage. Aaargh! Ain't gonna happen! I am trying so hard to not use that voice. There is no way I am going to have it booming over loudspeakers to a theatre full of audience members. She'll just have to get someone else to do it.
Those are dysphorias I have not yet overcome. The biggest one I have overcome, which was the biggest one I had when I started, was clothes and gender expression generally. It really bothered me as a guy that I was not allowed to wear nice clothes. I was trying to pass as male, and could not wear anything colourful or drapey in case it registered on someone's radar. I solved that one with the help of my "fashion consultant" (wife) and some good second-hand clothing stores. And spending a bundle of money.
My voice is gradually improving. I was able to find my "head voice", and I am working on inflections, etc. But it is still pretty deep for a girl.
I am doing sound for a local theatre production. The cast and crew are great with me, treating me as one of the girls. One of the required sound effects is a deep male voice reading a line. The director asked me to record myself reading the passage. Aaargh! Ain't gonna happen! I am trying so hard to not use that voice. There is no way I am going to have it booming over loudspeakers to a theatre full of audience members. She'll just have to get someone else to do it.
Those are dysphorias I have not yet overcome. The biggest one I have overcome, which was the biggest one I had when I started, was clothes and gender expression generally. It really bothered me as a guy that I was not allowed to wear nice clothes. I was trying to pass as male, and could not wear anything colourful or drapey in case it registered on someone's radar. I solved that one with the help of my "fashion consultant" (wife) and some good second-hand clothing stores. And spending a bundle of money.