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Title: Does that crowdfunding thingy really works?
Post by: Evolving Beauty on September 20, 2017, 02:25:54 PM
Post by: Evolving Beauty on September 20, 2017, 02:25:54 PM
Hey everyone,
Do those crowdfunding websites really work?
I can't whore anymore! :embarrassed: I'm married now and my husband would kill me definitely. :embarrassed: I'm so desperate of a full FFS 20,000€, Sigmoid 14,000€, Butts/hips 6000€ & voice surgery 8000€. This is an effing never-ending nightmare. I'm somehow passable but I honestly don't feel complete yet.
Before as escort I'd work a few months but now geez it's so hard to live as 'normal people'. Normal job makes me sick and bored with the routine.
I'm so desperate and dunno what to do anymore, did anyone try that crowdfunding thing? Does it really work? Any success story of anyone here in the forum? Give me ideas please. I'm gonna explode!
Do those crowdfunding websites really work?
I can't whore anymore! :embarrassed: I'm married now and my husband would kill me definitely. :embarrassed: I'm so desperate of a full FFS 20,000€, Sigmoid 14,000€, Butts/hips 6000€ & voice surgery 8000€. This is an effing never-ending nightmare. I'm somehow passable but I honestly don't feel complete yet.
Before as escort I'd work a few months but now geez it's so hard to live as 'normal people'. Normal job makes me sick and bored with the routine.
I'm so desperate and dunno what to do anymore, did anyone try that crowdfunding thing? Does it really work? Any success story of anyone here in the forum? Give me ideas please. I'm gonna explode!
Title: Re: Does that crowdfunding thingy really works?
Post by: Devlyn on September 20, 2017, 03:22:29 PM
Post by: Devlyn on September 20, 2017, 03:22:29 PM
I'd be really surprised to see you raise that kind of money. Assume every single person on your Facebook gave 25€, where would that put you? Now throw reality at it, only one person in forty on your Facebook is going to give that. Where are you now?
I don't like jobs either. But I go to one and paid for my own transition. It's a good feeling
Hugs, Devlyn
I don't like jobs either. But I go to one and paid for my own transition. It's a good feeling
Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Does that crowdfunding thingy really works?
Post by: Dena on September 20, 2017, 05:14:58 PM
Post by: Dena on September 20, 2017, 05:14:58 PM
I saw one asking for money to fund transgender surgery and it raised about $600. If you have the right story, some of them do well but for the most part I think they collect a fraction of what's wanted.
The trick with a job is to find something you enjoy doing so much that you would do it even if you weren't being paid for it. In my case I enjoyed the challenge of programming computers. I could spend endless hours at work and often I would mull over problems after work that I hadn't solved at work. Look around and see if the right job is out there waiting for you. It might be working with people, cooking, art or something out of thousands of professions but if you find that profession, money will no longer be an issue.
The trick with a job is to find something you enjoy doing so much that you would do it even if you weren't being paid for it. In my case I enjoyed the challenge of programming computers. I could spend endless hours at work and often I would mull over problems after work that I hadn't solved at work. Look around and see if the right job is out there waiting for you. It might be working with people, cooking, art or something out of thousands of professions but if you find that profession, money will no longer be an issue.
Title: Re: Does that crowdfunding thingy really works?
Post by: Sarah.VanDistel on September 20, 2017, 08:31:34 PM
Post by: Sarah.VanDistel on September 20, 2017, 08:31:34 PM
Hi there! I think that the way you put it makes the challenge even more challenging... First of all, you're probably not going to do all these procedures in one shot, so it would probably be wise to prioritize. If you're looking for passability, FFS and voice are definitely important. FFS can be done in parts, making your facial features progressively more feminine. This approach won't cost you less, but at least it would relieve your dysphoria a bit at a time. As for voice, since your considering surgery I suppose you've already tried (very hard) voice therapy, without success... because even if you do vocal surgery, you'll still have to do voice therapy.
I don't know if you're under HRT and for how long, but HRT does modify fat distribution and makes your hips somewhat rounder... So I think it's wise to wait some time (>1 year) under HRT before deciding for body contour surgery. And unless you absolutely wish to wear a mini-skirt or a bikini, hips & butt are usually concealed and you can use some fashion tricks or even special pads to create the illusion of a more feminine contour. At least until you get the necessary money to be operated.
As for the sigmoid, at least for me it has the lesser priority because it's not something people see, unless you're naked. You can always tuck in the meantime, if needed.
I do believe that all these interventions are important to you, but it would probably be helpful if you could see what are you priorities and focus on each one at a time, saving for each one at a time.
As for how to raise money, a secure (preferably interesting) job is generally accepted as a good way to succeed, but sometimes you have to go for a less interesting job... I will not criticize the idea of escorting, but it doesn't sound like the most secure job in the world, does it?
Last time I heard, crowdfunding won't get you nowhere...
Wish you the best!
Sarah
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I don't know if you're under HRT and for how long, but HRT does modify fat distribution and makes your hips somewhat rounder... So I think it's wise to wait some time (>1 year) under HRT before deciding for body contour surgery. And unless you absolutely wish to wear a mini-skirt or a bikini, hips & butt are usually concealed and you can use some fashion tricks or even special pads to create the illusion of a more feminine contour. At least until you get the necessary money to be operated.
As for the sigmoid, at least for me it has the lesser priority because it's not something people see, unless you're naked. You can always tuck in the meantime, if needed.
I do believe that all these interventions are important to you, but it would probably be helpful if you could see what are you priorities and focus on each one at a time, saving for each one at a time.
As for how to raise money, a secure (preferably interesting) job is generally accepted as a good way to succeed, but sometimes you have to go for a less interesting job... I will not criticize the idea of escorting, but it doesn't sound like the most secure job in the world, does it?
Last time I heard, crowdfunding won't get you nowhere...
Wish you the best!
Sarah
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Title: Re: Does that crowdfunding thingy really works?
Post by: Kylo on September 20, 2017, 08:55:47 PM
Post by: Kylo on September 20, 2017, 08:55:47 PM
From what I see, it's only likely to work if you have some sort of public presence. I.e. reach, and followers. Like if you happened to be a fairly popular trans youtube personality, you'd probably raise the dough. Or if you knew enough people through a Facebook page on the subject, or enough people were willing to put your story around.
I wouldn't even think about it - I just don't have an audience, or enough interested parties who care enough to give me their $$$.
I wouldn't even think about it - I just don't have an audience, or enough interested parties who care enough to give me their $$$.