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Title: A brilliant advice to those who recently recognized themselves as transgender
Post by: elkie-t on October 05, 2017, 07:26:45 PM
Post by: elkie-t on October 05, 2017, 07:26:45 PM
Imho - just brilliant - description of try before you buy approach.
https://www.quora.com/I-do-not-have-gender-identity-disorder-but-I-feel-more-comfortable-when-I-am-wearing-female-clothing-l-think-l-will-live-better-if-l-am-a-woman-Should-I-start-my-transition/answer/Naomi-Lauren
https://www.quora.com/I-do-not-have-gender-identity-disorder-but-I-feel-more-comfortable-when-I-am-wearing-female-clothing-l-think-l-will-live-better-if-l-am-a-woman-Should-I-start-my-transition/answer/Naomi-Lauren
Title: Re: A brilliant advice to those who recently recognized themselves as transgender
Post by: RobynD on October 06, 2017, 01:48:03 PM
Post by: RobynD on October 06, 2017, 01:48:03 PM
I think really decent advice and some practical ways in which someone could proceed in a slower way.
I will say though, that some people need a sort of momentum and even "burn the ships" sort of approach to make it work for them. Too slow of a test phase and that momentum will not happen.
I will say though, that some people need a sort of momentum and even "burn the ships" sort of approach to make it work for them. Too slow of a test phase and that momentum will not happen.
Title: Re: A brilliant advice to those who recently recognized themselves as transgender
Post by: elkie-t on October 06, 2017, 08:43:04 PM
Post by: elkie-t on October 06, 2017, 08:43:04 PM
It all depends on the person's level of disconnect to one's physical body and circumstances. Some people know and come out very loudly at age 4, others - start thinking about it much-much later. So - yes, this is not the only way around. But if someone isn't sure if he is or is not trans - that one approach might work for them.
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Title: Re: A brilliant advice to those who recently recognized themselves as transgender
Post by: Nevoxia on October 19, 2017, 12:44:37 AM
Post by: Nevoxia on October 19, 2017, 12:44:37 AM
Wow!
Thank you so much for posting that link!
That guide, in combination with her other articles that she links, provides quite extensive information and advice, some of which I have never seen despite having been researching this subject off and on for quite a long time.
It's funny how you can have a sort of epiphany when somebody else puts plain information in a slightly different way.
I've always wanted to transition just so I can have the body I want. I never really cared about being seen as female, referred to by a female name or female pronouns. I never even cared if people knew that I was transitioning, or needed to dress or act in a certain way to advertise anything to the world. I actually do care a lot what other people think, but I was just fine with them seeing me and treating me as a male. Yet I unconsciously was feeling pressured to go for the whole package because that's the standard of the transgender transition. Dress and makeup and coming up with a new name and insisting that everyone refer to you with the female pronouns Etc. While I realize these may be important to others, they were never important to me and I just assumed a had to have them as part of the whole package. I only just realized it was some sort of unconscious pressure I was feeling to go the extra step. But now I feel much more confident in going forward with my transition, because for me the transition will be strictly physical and that's all I want, with little or no attempt to change socialization or perception. I guess I could be like a tomboy. How come I never thought of this before?
Thank you so much for posting that link!
That guide, in combination with her other articles that she links, provides quite extensive information and advice, some of which I have never seen despite having been researching this subject off and on for quite a long time.
It's funny how you can have a sort of epiphany when somebody else puts plain information in a slightly different way.
I've always wanted to transition just so I can have the body I want. I never really cared about being seen as female, referred to by a female name or female pronouns. I never even cared if people knew that I was transitioning, or needed to dress or act in a certain way to advertise anything to the world. I actually do care a lot what other people think, but I was just fine with them seeing me and treating me as a male. Yet I unconsciously was feeling pressured to go for the whole package because that's the standard of the transgender transition. Dress and makeup and coming up with a new name and insisting that everyone refer to you with the female pronouns Etc. While I realize these may be important to others, they were never important to me and I just assumed a had to have them as part of the whole package. I only just realized it was some sort of unconscious pressure I was feeling to go the extra step. But now I feel much more confident in going forward with my transition, because for me the transition will be strictly physical and that's all I want, with little or no attempt to change socialization or perception. I guess I could be like a tomboy. How come I never thought of this before?