Susan's Place Transgender Resources

I have a wedding to go to, and my hair is starting to look shaggy.  I'm tempted to just show them my Avatar pict and say do it like this, but I'm well not presenting that way.  Would a stylist care that I looked like a guy?  Ideally I'd like to fine a stylist to continue the look and transition with, not sure how to cultivate that.  Tips?

Depending on the length of your hair, you should go  to Hair Finder (https://www.hairfinder.com) and pick out one or two styles that look like possibles. You might want a medium length style that you will wear before moving into your final length cut when you start transitioning. It's always best to bring a picture of the style you want so your cutter knows exactly what your goal is.

Something like a Dorthy Hamill/Wedge Cut (https://www.pinterest.com/explore/dorothy-hamill-haircut/) could be used if you  still need to present male but want the longer length. This style still works for me as I have a longer face that needs a short style in order to avoid a long face look.

I guess the best thing to do is to be sincere with your stylist and tell them you want a haircut that can be styles into both male and female looks.

I don't know how's your hair, but if you want to wear it long, you'll have to go through a phase in which it'll look untidy, until it grows long enough.  Tying and straightening helped me grow past that point.

Remember that most cuts can be turned more feminine with hair accessories. It's not the same tying your hair with a plain black hairband than with a colored one with a flower.

Quote from: Lady Lisandra on October 08, 2017, 02:46:51 PM
I guess the best thing to do is to be sincere with your stylist and tell them you want a haircut that can be styles into both male and female looks.

This.

When I started growing my hair out I went to a salon and told my stylist the truth. That I was growing it out in preparation of transitioning.

I did this for 2 reasons. 1 to find out if she was ok with having a Trans client & 2 so that
We could work together to grow it out in such a way that I could style feminine when I came out.

I wasn't presenting at the time but I'm really glad I told her as I left with a really feminine cute pixie that I could kinda style up in a semi masculine way when I needed to.

 The first hurdle of course is walking through the salon's door. I would have trouble with that.

I like the idea of being up front and honest about who I am and what I want.  I will be a bit emotional I'm sure, but knowing if I have an ally OR if I need to look elsewhere is valuable too.

This BTW, is the before,/after face app pict.  It's not crazy different hair wise beyond hairline, which I'm working on amending too.  My hair is straight straight straight:)

https://www.dropbox.com/s/tt6qf6wyidzk06w/1x1208.gif?dl=0

Bari Jo

I initially told my stylist I wanted a more 'female' style. But on my third appointment I spilled the beans,  she's been totally great. Early on she did a cut that I could keep neutral for work while growing it out. Then she's helped with colour,  and how to use straighteners etc..

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Quote from: Laurie on October 08, 2017, 03:39:53 PM
The first hurdle of course is walking through the salon's door. I would have trouble with that.

Laurie,  I've been to several salons and spas,  all the staff have been nothing but wonderful,  do it!

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Just be honest with your stylist. As long as you don't go to a barber shop I can't imagine any stylist being bothered with a trans client. From what I could see in the pictures, there really isn't much that can be done with it at this stage. It's not really long enough for a female style yet. The only possible cut you can get right now is back to a male cut. If you were my client my advice would be to leave it alone and let it grow. If you are worried about it looking shaggy at this wedding then gel it down. It's never going to grow out if you keep cutting it. I realize you're going to a wedding but if you keep cutting your hair everytime you have to attend a function you're  going to have to wear a wig when you go full time because your  hair will be too short to look female.

Quote from: meganjames2 on October 08, 2017, 04:24:11 PM
Laurie,  I've been to several salons and spas,  all the staff have been nothing but wonderful,  do it!

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Megan it would be easier and cheaper to just buy me some more.

I went in and told her I was a crossdresser looking to go full time and wanted colour and a feminine cut, not something unisex. We've been best buddies ever since.  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Julia1996 on October 08, 2017, 05:32:25 PM
Just be honest with your stylist. As long as you don't go to a barber shop I can't imagine any stylist being bothered with a trans client. From what I could see in the pictures, there really isn't much that can be done with it at this stage. It's not really long enough for a female style yet. The only possible cut you can get right now is back to a male cut. If you were my client my advice would be to leave it alone and let it grow. If you are worried about it looking shaggy at this wedding then gel it down. It's never going to grow out if you keep cutting it. I realize you're going to a wedding but if you keep cutting your hair everytime you have to attend a function you're  going to have to wear a wig when you go full time because your  hair will be too short to look female.

Thanks Julia, good advice.

Bari Jo