Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everyone I guess I'll start by telling my story. I am a 28 years old male and I grew up in a very conservative Christain home.  I am married to an asexual wife who came out to me a couple of months ago and since has left me questioning my own identity. My entire life I have never felt like I fit the masculine roll that my parents said I need to be in and have found myself since puberty picturing myself as female instead of male.  I thought maybe I just didn't have very much self confidence in myself and that was leading to me feeling regularlly depressed and have a very low opinion of how I look despite being in shape and very slim although not particularly masculine.  So after finally coming to the realization that I might be transgender  I am kind of in shock.  I am not sure how to explore these feelings at all as other than my wife I live in an extremely anti lgbq environment both with family and at work.  Looking back thiugh anything about myself that made me feel remotely female makes me feel good.  Like the fact that my name is bothering gender pacific or that I can never identify with male charcters in movies or video games.  Maybe I'll have more later but this is what I have for now.

Welcome to the forum. I'm Julia.

Hi and welcome [emoji5]. I think when one partner in a relationship questions,  shifts or opens up on a previously hidden gender identity,  it can understandably cause the other partner to question their own.
These may be temporary feelings or this sittutation has raised a genuine reassessment of who you are too.
My suggestion is to try and reach out to a therapist with experience in gender identities to dig deeper and talk through your feelings.
In the meantime we're here for any questions or thoughts you'd like to share. X

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Quote from: meganjames2 on October 13, 2017, 12:38:39 PM
Hi and welcome [emoji5]. I think when one partner in a relationship questions,  shifts or opens up on a previously hidden gender identity,  it can understandably cause the other partner to question their own.
These may be temporary feelings or this sittutation has raised a genuine reassessment of who you are too.
My suggestion is to try and reach out to a therapist with experience in gender identities to dig deeper and talk through your feelings.
In the meantime we're here for any questions or thoughts you'd like to share. X

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Thanks for the reply.  I may need to reach out to a therapist.  I have definitely had these feeling for a long time just always thought something was wrong with me and have always lived kind of in denial. 

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Welcome to Susan's Place. Starting out could be as simple as trying on a few items of clothing in your house. Some people feel more comfortable if they underdress and after you have a little experience, you could go somewhere else and try a little public exposure. It's mostly a matter of doing what you are comfortable with and you can explore that with a therapist. There are two links you might find useful at this point. The first is our WIKI  (https://www.susans.org/wiki/Transgender) where you will discover what transgender is. The second link is  "the transition channel"  (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfO3B57E6NpIn-KsVjvmLLw) where you will be asked questions that will help you understand yourself. Feel free to ask any questions you have and we will do our best to handle them.

Hello Confuseddude, welcome!

My parents always expected and pushed me to act and appear to match what was was written on my birth certificate, as their perception of the social standard was to aim for a traditional gender binary.  Fortunately that mindset is getting left behind in many parts of the world.  And much to my surprise, they are fine with my transition. 

Took me several decades to realize who I am.  After I realized what was really going on with me, time to move ahead.  We are each unique but my experience with this has been very positive so far - quite a contrast to my past.   

Great to see you here.

Kendra