Community Conversation => Youth talk => Topic started by: Randi Just Is on October 25, 2017, 02:54:44 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Bit of an upsetting thing...
Post by: Randi Just Is on October 25, 2017, 02:54:44 PM
Post by: Randi Just Is on October 25, 2017, 02:54:44 PM
Parents, we all have them or had them. Some of them are separated.... Mine are.
For the most part, my dad knew something was up, of course he would. Pretty clear something was happening when I cut off all my hair and wanted it shorter still. My long hair became a bob, which soon became a undercut and I almost went for a crew cut. Either way, he knew I had a secret I wasn't telling. I identify as transmale agender. A bit contradictory but the gist is that I'm fine with going as he or they.
My dad and his wife have accepted me fully! As well as most of my schoolmates! Which is amazing and I am very thankful for them all. Unfortunately, I have a grandmother who's disowned me and a mother who doesn't understand. She calls me my birth name and is refusing to allow me to go on T. I came out over facebook and in a powerpoint riddled with puns- just how it happened. My dad was very supportive and tried to get me a binder(it was too small so I decided to just save up for a gc2b binder anyway) and asked a lot of questions.
I'm asexual so there was some confusion about who I liked. XD
My mom hasn't asked any questions what so ever, which worries me since this was kind of a big deal- Even the kids at school asked a few questions. :'( I live with my mother, btw. I've got a little more than a year before I'm 18 and you can guess what shot I'm gonna go and get(testosterone)! ;)
I know I'm not the first one out there to not have accepting parents but there's a point to this. Even if your parents don't accept you as trans*, you need to find someone who does. Cause, yeah! It's a pretty big deal! That and it's not very easy to do on your own.
Have a beautiful day everyone, and good luck at whatever stage of transitioning you're at! ;D
For the most part, my dad knew something was up, of course he would. Pretty clear something was happening when I cut off all my hair and wanted it shorter still. My long hair became a bob, which soon became a undercut and I almost went for a crew cut. Either way, he knew I had a secret I wasn't telling. I identify as transmale agender. A bit contradictory but the gist is that I'm fine with going as he or they.
My dad and his wife have accepted me fully! As well as most of my schoolmates! Which is amazing and I am very thankful for them all. Unfortunately, I have a grandmother who's disowned me and a mother who doesn't understand. She calls me my birth name and is refusing to allow me to go on T. I came out over facebook and in a powerpoint riddled with puns- just how it happened. My dad was very supportive and tried to get me a binder(it was too small so I decided to just save up for a gc2b binder anyway) and asked a lot of questions.
I'm asexual so there was some confusion about who I liked. XD
My mom hasn't asked any questions what so ever, which worries me since this was kind of a big deal- Even the kids at school asked a few questions. :'( I live with my mother, btw. I've got a little more than a year before I'm 18 and you can guess what shot I'm gonna go and get(testosterone)! ;)
I know I'm not the first one out there to not have accepting parents but there's a point to this. Even if your parents don't accept you as trans*, you need to find someone who does. Cause, yeah! It's a pretty big deal! That and it's not very easy to do on your own.
Have a beautiful day everyone, and good luck at whatever stage of transitioning you're at! ;D
Title: Re: Bit of an upsetting thing...
Post by: Mira June on November 01, 2017, 08:20:20 PM
Post by: Mira June on November 01, 2017, 08:20:20 PM
Hey, I can relate all the way. I am MTF trans, and my parents are divorced. My mom refuses to accept me, but my dad is okay with it. Since I live with my mom and I am just 16 years old, I probably will not be able to get my hormones for 1 and 1/2 years. It is rough. I got alienated by my mom because I wear makeup and go by Mira now. It feels so bad to wake up every morning knowing that someone will never learn to accept you. Oh well. Just was sharing. I hope everyone else is having a good time in their transition, or in their journey with those transitioning ;)
-Mira
-Mira