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Title: 20 year friendship killing reaction.
Post by: JMJW on November 13, 2017, 05:12:00 PM
Post by: JMJW on November 13, 2017, 05:12:00 PM
Transphobia ahead.
My at the time best friend decided to throw away our relationship by messaging me out of the blue with this bile. We mutually blocked each other, I reported him to facebook and Stonewall (he claimed to represent them) and I will never speak to him again. The night after this conversation, I asked him to resign from whatever position he had with them, he refused, told me to get over it, and stop talking nonsense. So I said I will report it. He said that shows my true colours, and spoke as if he was the victim and I'm the one betraying him and throwing our friendship away. He blocked me on facebook first for being "too dangerous" as I told him I took screenshots, then I blocked him back.
He probably assumed he could say whatever he wanted to me and I would just take it as we go way back. But no, there are conversations that are friendship killers. This is one of them.
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%208.49.53%20PM_2.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%209.20.34%20PM_1.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.54.43%20AM_1.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.53.00%20AM_1.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.54.14%20AM_1.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.56.44%20AM_1.png.html
My at the time best friend decided to throw away our relationship by messaging me out of the blue with this bile. We mutually blocked each other, I reported him to facebook and Stonewall (he claimed to represent them) and I will never speak to him again. The night after this conversation, I asked him to resign from whatever position he had with them, he refused, told me to get over it, and stop talking nonsense. So I said I will report it. He said that shows my true colours, and spoke as if he was the victim and I'm the one betraying him and throwing our friendship away. He blocked me on facebook first for being "too dangerous" as I told him I took screenshots, then I blocked him back.
He probably assumed he could say whatever he wanted to me and I would just take it as we go way back. But no, there are conversations that are friendship killers. This is one of them.
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%208.49.53%20PM_2.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%209.20.34%20PM_1.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.54.43%20AM_1.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.53.00%20AM_1.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.54.14%20AM_1.png.html
http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.56.44%20AM_1.png.html
Title: Re: 20 year friendship killing reaction.
Post by: Charlie Nicki on November 13, 2017, 05:26:03 PM
Post by: Charlie Nicki on November 13, 2017, 05:26:03 PM
He was extremely rude and insensitive, has he always been like that? I don't know if it was some sort of -poorly executed- banter like some friends do or if he was actually trying to make you feel bad. But wow, I understand why you got upset. Did he apologize?
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Title: Re: 20 year friendship killing reaction.
Post by: JMJW on November 13, 2017, 05:29:53 PM
Post by: JMJW on November 13, 2017, 05:29:53 PM
I forgot the one where he misgendered me. the most important one, I added that in, but its here: http://s55.photobucket.com/user/Ayali_album/media/Screenshot%202017-11-07%20at%2011.54.43%20AM_1.png.html
He made passing mention before that I would make an ugly woman but that was when I was in male presentation and so I let it go as he had never seen me present en femme, but the idea that he was looking at my picture and laughing at it uncontrollably pissed me off and still does to some extent.
No, there was no apology at any point. Even if there was, I probably wouldn't have accepted it.
He made passing mention before that I would make an ugly woman but that was when I was in male presentation and so I let it go as he had never seen me present en femme, but the idea that he was looking at my picture and laughing at it uncontrollably pissed me off and still does to some extent.
No, there was no apology at any point. Even if there was, I probably wouldn't have accepted it.
Title: Re: 20 year friendship killing reaction.
Post by: Kylo on November 13, 2017, 05:33:53 PM
Post by: Kylo on November 13, 2017, 05:33:53 PM
This guy being a rep for Stonewall is not an encouraging thought...
Title: Re: 20 year friendship killing reaction.
Post by: Rachel on November 13, 2017, 05:43:44 PM
Post by: Rachel on November 13, 2017, 05:43:44 PM
He is an ->-bleeped-<-.
Title: Re: 20 year friendship killing reaction.
Post by: JMJW on November 13, 2017, 05:47:07 PM
Post by: JMJW on November 13, 2017, 05:47:07 PM
My therapist said I should grieve the loss. But hell I'm not grieving, I'm celebrating.
It goes to show that you can be fine with some people - as long as you conform to their expectations - the second you step out of it, they can turn suddenly and in a very abusive manner. This was a clear attempt to shame and manipulate me into not changing at all.
It goes to show that you can be fine with some people - as long as you conform to their expectations - the second you step out of it, they can turn suddenly and in a very abusive manner. This was a clear attempt to shame and manipulate me into not changing at all.
Title: Re: 20 year friendship killing reaction.
Post by: undautri on November 13, 2017, 06:54:35 PM
Post by: undautri on November 13, 2017, 06:54:35 PM
Seems like an a-hole to me.
Glad you're ok with this friendship breakup
Glad you're ok with this friendship breakup
Title: Re: 20 year friendship killing reaction.
Post by: Nora Kayte on November 13, 2017, 10:43:26 PM
Post by: Nora Kayte on November 13, 2017, 10:43:26 PM
You don't need friends like that. You are beautiful inside and out. Don't ever forget that.
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