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I just came out to everyone I know, a few weeks back. And I've been feeling a lot better everything. But one thing has been bothering me lately. I went from being a borderline sex addict to having zero interest is sex. I even tried but I couldn't get into it all. I mean nothing is good, movies, pictures, books. I have been more aware of the little guy below, could that be the reason? Or maybe that I feel more free? I'm not really sure. Has this happened to anyone else?

Are you on HRT? HRT will diminish your sex drive as it diminishes your testosterone. My libido is pretty much nonexistent but I've found that if I try I can actually do it and finish (by myself, haven't tried with anyone).

Nope I haven't started with HRT. Makes me wonder what would happen if I did lol.

Age has something to do with it too. When I hit my 40s, my testosterone started dropping and my libido started waning. I started HRT a week after my 43rd birthday, and now 8 plus months later I have zero sex drive. Zilch. Nada.

I do however have a strong desire to form relationships. I can't get enough BFF time. Daughter-in-law and a co-worker have been great allies, but they're both much younger than I am. I'm hoping to make more friends my age.

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    Within a month of starting hormones my libido was absolutely zero and is the same four months later I will be discussing this with my transition Dr at my next appointment in three weeks I am not concerned as i was prepared for the possibility that my sexual attraction might change this was not what I expected but I am happy to accept what comes It is too soon to consider this to be the final outcome I do still feel attraction to others just not in a physical way I am attracted to who they are not what they look like

    bobbisue :)

Everybody is different. Before hrt I was a lot like you. Thought about it non stop. Then it went away. But now I am horny most of the time. But in a different way. I really don't know how to explain it. Maybe someone who has experienced it could explain it better. Super horny. No erection while thinking about it. And not even wanting to touch down there but I can feel being horny. So it does come back for some. But in a totally different way.


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Quote from: Yakayla on November 14, 2017, 10:27:08 AM
I just came out to everyone I know, a few weeks back. And I've been feeling a lot better everything. But one thing has been bothering me lately. I went from being a borderline sex addict to having zero interest is sex. I even tried but I couldn't get into it all. I mean nothing is good, movies, pictures, books. I have been more aware of the little guy below, could that be the reason? Or maybe that I feel more free? I'm not really sure. Has this happened to anyone else?

Prehaps before coming out to people your sex drive was your way of expressing your identity to yourself?  Now that its out there, there is not the need....
Sex drive tends to ebb and flow, you may feel very different in a few weeks.
I noticed after coming out for a few weeks I was having less sexual release and sex but that has normalised now.
See how you feel in a few months.
I'm non hormonal btw so cannot offer any opinions on this.

My sex drive stayed with me until I started her but in the ~4 months leading up to starting hrt my ability to be sexual with my GF really disappeared. I was still interested in sex and horny but quite unhappy being asked to do penetration.

Estrogen really killed libido for 6 months, however starting progesterone brought back a lot and something much nicer. Now post op, I'm horny way more often than ever before in my life, like I think about sexual pleasure more often than I ever did, yet I'm less obsessive about it if that makes sense. I think it's that I now like my naughty bits and so they remind me during my day to be happy about that.

And I'm way happier about sex itself, be it exploring on my own or with my GF.

This actually happened to me. I wasnt on HRT AND THE Moment i came out is when my sex drive like disappeared and im not really sure why. Like i can force myself into it but that just seems awkward.  Im now on hrt a week later and i dont know whats going on because its still like that. Maybe its like a mental block that kicked in? I really couldn't tell you.

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My sex drive is still very hungry for attention. It's just, my triggers have dramatically changed. Before it was boobs/butts that triggered me into a release. Now I get off from seeing them passionately kiss, or show affection for each other, and am generally very aroused by intimacy rather than penetration alone. I love seeing two people whom are very into each other show that interest with their touch. I still get off just as much as I used to before HRT even though my T is very low and my E is very high. It just takes a different approach to get there.