Susan's Place Transgender Resources

On TDoR, I'd like to share a positive message.

Visibility and acceptance of trans* people is on an irreversible forward direction. Sure, sometimes society takes a step back, and some have further to go than others.

I have two young children, I will do anything I can to ensure they grow up in a safer and more tolerant world.
The biggest fear I have for my children is that they might be trans*. I would not wish the pain and repression I lived through on my worst enemy,  and never my children. I want them to feel safe and comfortable being genuine.

Many here at Susan's do much to promote acceptance and raise awareness,  just by being our authentic selves we show the world the bigger picture.
Whatever you are,  and wherever you are in journey through life,  I'd like to thank you all for making a difference in every way. X

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I can't truthfully say that I have made a positive difference but many on Susan's Place have, and that really is a positive message.  I hope that your children grow up in a more accepting world.

Quote from: MaryT on November 20, 2017, 03:05:11 PM
I can't truthfully say that I have made a positive difference but many on Susan's Place have, and that really is a positive message.  I hope that your children grow up in a more accepting world.

Mary,  you're being true to yourself and supporting others here giving them strength. Thank you. X

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I hope that I'm doing my part.  At the end of January I'll be presenting to a public forum Trans-101.  It's geared towards CIS individuals but those who question their gender benefit from this presentation too.

Thanks for providing a safe environment for your kids.

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Quote from: Denise on November 20, 2017, 03:47:32 PM
I hope that I'm doing my part.  At the end of January I'll be presenting to a public forum Trans-101.  It's geared towards CIS individuals but those who question their gender benefit from this presentation too.

Thanks for providing a safe environment for your kids.

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Fantastic, thank you. X

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Megan!!!

Thank you!!!...What a beautiful thread! 😀!!!!

I totally agree that we often can do the most good simply by living our lives in a positive fashion and being true to ourselves...My decision to transition was pretty much made on the spot when I met the first transwoman that I had ever known... I realized she was living her life happily and successfully in the manner she chose ... and I could do that too!!!

Denise!... Kudos to you sister for taking on an active part in speaking to educate!!! I have been a speaker for almost four years now for Rainbow Speakers Of Monterey and always get something out of the experience... it has been one of our busiest years yet!!!


Onward we go!!!

Ashley 😀

Quote from: Megan. on November 20, 2017, 01:49:17 PMjust by being our authentic selves we show the world the bigger picture.

This is how I feel, too. 

This summer I did an hour long presentation to the local astronomy society.  It wasn't about anything trans-related; it was about astronomy.  But the fact that I didn't make a big deal about being trans and that nobody else made a big deal about it helps normalize it for others.  Perhaps someone in the audience was undecided about how to behave towards trans people.  Or perhaps someone was trans themselves and wondering whether or not they could ever come out.  Seeing a (fairly obviously) trans person just going about her business and doing the same nerdy stuff that others do will help people realize that we are not monsters and that the majority of cis people aren't monsters either.

Thank you for the thread, Megan, and thank you to every one who is living their authentic live as a role model for others.

There are many here to thank, Meagan, you are one of them. I have gone from dumb and numb to insightful and understanding because we are able to share our stories. In a year and a half. I came here desperate for answers.  Now I feel comfortable advising others to help them avoid some of the rejection a lot of it self imposed. On the whole when I witness my support group, has been around for over 40 years and I never knew about it, and all those that cleared the path, I am now on. My appreciation is endless.

Oh I forgot to this one...
Last week we had some consultants in the office.  While out at lunch I learned that one of the spouses was a republican state representative in a very red state. 

I asked what do you think your spouse would think of me?  Their response "I think they would like you."

To which I responded with my business card with my personal cell and email saying have them call me if they what to talk about ANYTHING trans related or not.

Showing politicians that we are normal people living our lives happily is important.  My guess is few are exposed to our group in a personal sense.

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I agree!


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 This is a good thread  Megan. Thank you for doing your part. I would also thank everyone here at Susan's Place for sharing your lives with us and also all those here that go outside to help enlighten others.

Hugs,
   Laurie

There is hope, plenty of evidence reported here.  I'd like to add a couple of things that occurred today.  I dropped the wife off at a therapy session.  First time for her, I think it did her good to just get some stuff out of her system independent of me.  I've been talking with this person (male) for some time and he has refused to take a cent and refused to take anything for nearly two hours with my wife.  This is someone who cares and really wants to help. 
     I was dressed up, fitted blouse, skinny jeans, eye makeup, lipstick, earrings, hair tied back and pretty ball cap.  I had time to kill so I went to a jewelry shop, I wanted to get my fingers sized because my old rings don't fit very well anymore.  Went in and was approached by a nice looking woman and a young girl in training.  Couldn't have been nicer and spent a lot of time measuring left and right hand and writing it all down nicely for me.  Sure, they were looking for a future sale, but they were overly nice and we were laughing and it wasn't just business.
     Later wife and I went to Nordstroms bistro and ordered some coffee and a smoothie for me.  The young guy there looked at me and asked for a name and I said Toni, he asked with a Y or an I.  I said "I" and he just said OK and was as nice as could be, went out of his way to make me something a bit special I asked for and waved and said good bye when we left.
     I had to pee twice, I broke a taboo for me and just went into the ladies room at a busy restaurant by myself.  Ladies were in there when I went in and were washing hands along with me when I came out.  Just a polite smile and we all went about our business with no hurry, no concerns.  The second time at the mall I went in with my wife, again, just taking care of business and no drama what so ever.
     In all cases I was as pleasant and natural as I could be and just treated with the same respect as anyone would expect to be.  That's all I want, to be basically invisible with no real thought given to gender.  Even if they knew, I don't think I really pass fully, I was nice and they didn't care.  I hope if they think they knew, I left them with a feeling that trans people are just nice people like anyone else.  I certainly felt treated that way.  Toni

I absolutely agree.  The pain, repression and isolation, I wouldn't wish on anybody, much less our children.  Yes, if anyone young and old is trans, I want their support, acceptance and transition to be speedy, and loving.

I can't say I'm doing my part, I'm merely surviving.  If surviving helps the next generation of trans people so be it.

Bari Jo

The biggest fear I have for my children is that they might be trans*. I would not wish the pain and repression I lived through on my worst enemy,  and never my children. I want them to feel safe and comfortable being genuine.

     Megan  I  truly understand your feelings my oldest grandchild is trans as well as myself he is FTM and faces this life from the opposite direction but many of the challenges remain the same  he is part of the reason I have joined with others in our newly formed GSA in my home town even though he lives in a city with a great LGBT+organization now I hope my actions have a positive impact on his life as well as others


     bobbisue :)

A big thank you to all,  even those who might not think they are contributing,  you are,  just by being here.

And Toni, I'm glad you broke that taboo!

X.

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