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1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?

Hey again *awkward wave*

1. Yep definitely. Works well; can have a lot if fun with it (more than if I was born with a conventional penis) aesthetically all looks good

2. Yep if a guy is doing it (I'm asexual so don't masturbate). Works better for me

3. Yep feels good and everything works great down there.

4. Yep I'm exploring my gay side currently.  No complaints; although gay men need more education on how those parts work  ;)

5. Makes myself feel more confident that those parts are desirable and that I am normal; not a freak bcos I'm trans and have a mix of different parts as it were. Sometimes I get slight dysphoria but nothing I can't live with.

1 No

2 No

3 No

4 Yes

5 Yes

Quote from: Viktor on December 07, 2017, 03:51:42 PM
1 No

2 No

3 No

4 Yes

5 Yes

Keep it simple  ;D!

Echoing Viktor . . .

1) No
2) No
3) No
4) Yes, and it was pretty painful, physically and psychologically.  Not a fan.
5) Yes

Elis we should hook up  ;D! [hope you can endure some humor]

1. Yes. Don't bother me!
2. Yes. There was a phase when I didn't... But I've discovered it feels good, so...! Why the hell not?
3. With sex toys, at least, yes.
4. Actually I haven't... weird, huh? Had a chance at 13 - but nothing became of it. My parents got involved  :police:! [E you wanna hear this one, I'm sure!] Soon after that transitioned and dated women since.
5. A little... but nothing insurmountable.

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)
im cool with it!!

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?
yeppers

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?
yeppers again

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?
no but i probably wouldnt mind it

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?
surprisingly, it doesnt. its my chest that causes dysphoria because everyone can see it. only my girlfriend gets to see my vagina and she respects me 100% so theres no worry

1. Nope, can't wait for bottom surgery to fix that situation. Only part I'm fine with is the clit, the rest disgusts me and doesn't feel good. I mostly have moderate to severe bottom dysphoria.
2. No, not vaginally. I used to like it but then a combination of increased dysphoria and atrophy made me hate it. I enjoy being penetrated anally with toys though.
3. Yes, but not vaginally.
4. Yes, in the past, but not anymore and I'd like to keep it that way. I enjoy other forms of sex with cis men. I like dick but not in there.
5. Yes, almost to the point of getting a panic attack.

No, not necessarily. It varies how much I dislike it. I'd prefer not to have it.

However, art communities who often portray that body type in NSFW art brought a sort of positivity to the fact that someone can still be a boy/man and have a V, so I've sort of grown to accept it more than not as part of me, even if my preference would be to have a fully functional, average penis. I find that body type attractive too now and I can see myself as attractive as well because of it.

I could have PIV or generally stuff like that because my mentality around that is more "Use what I've got", so I don't mind taking a bottom role in that area, but I also do very much enjoy being an active top, so it varies.

1. I'm very indifferent about mine
2. Nope! Penetration is really uncomfortable for me! :)
3. Nope
4. I have! It was a really uncomfortable experience for the both of us.
5. It depends on the day. Most of the time I'm very aware of it and indifferent. During sexual encounters is when I feel more dysphoric and self-conscious.

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)
no, but i have never had anything else, so i have accepted it for most of my life.  now that i'm old enough to understand what i'm "missing", i know i'd be more comfortable with that, but i don't have that option.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?
i used to, with the reasoning of "this is the only thing i have, might as well use it", but more recently it feels uncomfortable and has gotten harder to distance myself from it mentally

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?
i don't have sex.  i am not comfortable with anyone being physically attracted to my body.  in the past when i had a male partner, the answer was the same as #2.

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?
see #3.

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?
on a good day, i don't really think about it.  on a bad day, it feels like i've been "neutered", and all that's left is a hole and a nub from what was removed.  take that as you will, and refer to #1.

Quote from: meatwagon on December 09, 2017, 06:29:37 PM
on a good day, i don't really think about it.  on a bad day, it feels like i've been "neutered", and all that's left is a hole and a nub from what was removed.

OMG that was funny  ;D! I myself refer to myself as 'eunuch' sometimes... ::) (=body type/shape)

I try hard not to think it that way... (as female body parts) If I do I get that 'neutered' feeling also. I rather view the clit as equaling a penis = same organ, practically.

Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 09, 2017, 06:39:16 PM
OMG that was funny  ;D! I myself refer to myself as 'eunuch' sometimes... ::) (=body type)

I try hard not to think it that way... (as female body parts) If I do I get that 'neutered' feeling also. I rather view the clit as equaling a penis = same organ, practically.

yeah, that pretty much explains it.  i still prefer to think of it in male terms despite what it is/looks like, so that's what i'm left with ;v;

1. Heck no

2. Heck no

3. Heck no

4. Kind of-never made it past the "walls", though.  I was a kid, though so......

5. Heck yeah

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)
Certainly not! I hate it, I wish I never had to see that monstrosity down there and I find it disgusting and that it's there causes me aggression and extreme dysphoria every time I get aware of it. I can't wait for finally having phalloplasty.
Having something like that thing on your body as a man is only humiliating and feels degrading. I live my life dissociating that loathsome anatomy from myself as a person and a man since forever because otherwise it would drag me into constant misery. I can't feel any connection to those body parts whatsoever nor can I remotely associate myself with them. Hence, the title saying "your vagina" weirded me out completely and resonated in my head in an alien way.
2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?
Of course not! I would never use that thing the mere thought of ever using it repulses me to the core and makes me gag.
3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?
As I stated above the mere thought of using that thing repulses me beyond believe and I would never use it or even only humiliate myself as far as to show that disgraceful thing to anyone. Hence, I don't have the equipment for sex and have to wait for phalloplasty to actually have sex.
Beside that penetration is a horror scenario for me, thinking that someone would somehow penetrate me makes me incredibly aggressive and ready to fight as well as wanting to throw up at the same time.
4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?
No and I won't ever let anyone penetrate me even if the disgusting thing was already a thing of the past after phalloplasty. I am a gay man but I am a total top, that's what is actually natural for me and my brain. Plus, I would never take the passive, submissive part in a sexual relationship since I am active and dominant.
5. Does it cause you dysphoria?
Yes and a damn crazy lot.

Quote from: Corax on December 10, 2017, 04:07:15 PM
Hence, the title saying "your vagina" weirded me out completely and resonated in my head in an alien way.

Sorry  ;D!!! Tried to use the medical term... what else? [It's certainly not what I use either, can guarantee!!!!!!!]

Quote from: Corax on December 10, 2017, 04:07:15 PM
Beside that penetration is a horror scenario for me, thinking that someone would somehow penetrate me makes me incredibly aggressive and ready to fight as well as wanting to throw up at the same time.

Quote from: Corax on December 10, 2017, 04:07:15 PM
Yes and a damn crazy lot.

OMG you are so funny  ;D!!! Having a good laugh here!

Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 10, 2017, 04:31:08 PM
Sorry  ;D!!! Tried to use the medical term... what else? [It's certainly not what I use either, can guarantee!!!!!!!]


 
OMG you are so funny  ;D!!! Having a good laugh here!

I didn't mean the term itself, I don't actually care about that. You can use whatever words you want to for sure by the way.
I meant that the "your" used in regards to that thing weirded me out or sounded alien to me because I don't see that part as "mine" or something that would belong to me because I dissociate it from myself. When I hear the word "vagina" I don't connect it to myself in any possible way but I hear it as something that has nothing to do with me at all. Maybe I didn't word or explain that well enough though.


It's good to be funny xD But I actually meant this, I indeed have such severe bottom dysphoria which I assure you isn't pleasant to live with.

Quote from: Corax on December 10, 2017, 05:30:23 PM
It's good to be funny xD But I actually meant this, I indeed have such severe bottom dysphoria which I assure you isn't pleasant to live with.

I know you meant it 100%! I meant that the way you described it made me laugh (coz it sounded so accurate/real).

I like your use of language  ;D!

Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 10, 2017, 06:53:02 PM
I know you meant it 100%! I meant that the way you described it made me laugh (coz it sounded so accurate/real).

I like your use of language  ;D!

Ah, I see! It's always good to hear when people like my use of language and find my writing style appealing, so thanks man ;D

1. Nope
2. Nope (I said what what, in the butt...)
3. Nope, nope, nope, nope.
4. In some other life...
5. Yes

I call it "junk".
Siding with the WTF is in my pants club.

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?): Yep!

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?: Sometimes

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?: Oh, definitely.

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?: Absolutely!

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?: Not the vagina itself, it's the uterus that gets to me.

All in all, it took me years to be at this point. When I first came out, I was so sure I wanted to get full bottom surgery and would never EVER like my vagina, but over the years I actually found that I did. I think it had to do with the fact that I ended up with guys who only would date me because I still had a vagina, and my last two relationships were with people who saw me 100% as a man regardless of me letting them have sex with me vaginally. Those two relationships have helped shape a lot about how I see my body now.

Quote from: PidgeTPN on December 11, 2017, 11:11:42 AM
All in all, it took me years to be at this point. When I first came out, I was so sure I wanted to get full bottom surgery and would never EVER like my vagina, but over the years I actually found that I did. I think it had to do with the fact that I ended up with guys who only would date me because I still had a vagina, and my last two relationships were with people who saw me 100% as a man regardless of me letting them have sex with me vaginally. Those two relationships have helped shape a lot about how I see my body now.

I get that 100%! I'm in a LOONG relationship myself! So always been seen as a man... so sex is not a problem. Me too felt before that i'd totally get phallo 100% - but since looking into it, I'm not sure I could do it...(don't like surgeries etc.) Plus I like sex too much not to do it, so,  ;)! It's not like I like to have what I have - it's just the way things are. I compare it to being intersex..... You can't choose your genitals, you know... If I'm not getting bottom surgery - I MUST come to terms with it! Btw before didn't like to put anything there...... but I've grown to like it! Feels good, so...! Why not do it?

Pleasure before anything  :D!

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)
NO

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?
NEVER

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?
NEVER

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?
NEVER

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?
HELL YES

1. Definitely not.
2. Noooooo. No.
3. See above.
4. No, and I don't think I would like it at all.
5. So goddamn much that I do not look down when I am nude.

I cannot wait for it to not exist on my body anymore.

sorry for bumping an old topic but I think this is a good place to collect my own thoughts and who knows somebody on the front page might like to do the same.

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)

Meh? I mean pre-T I was cool with it. Now I'm pretty apathetic.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?
When the mood strikes, sure! It's barely ever. It's more of a physical thing my body craves sometimes, like the occasional chocolate bar.

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?
Again, meh. I kinda wish I didn't have that feeling of the occasional "....you know being penetrated might not be so bad" thoughts.

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?
My partner is AMAB so yes. It feels good sometimes but it's mostly umcomfortable without a ton of lube.

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?
Yes :(

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?) Well it's all i've ever had. I have moments where I desperately feel this ACHE for a penis instead but at the same time, a vagina can have a lot of fun. It's just kinda... there.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.? Never done it, I find penetration often quite physically painful (My gp in fact hates having to do internals on me because she's well aware of how painful i find it.) so i've never wanted to stick anything but a dick in there. I don't even put my own fingers in there lol.

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex? Yes, interestingly while i'm not sooo keen on fingers (they're small and pointy and hit sore spots unless he's really careful) a penis is fine because it tends to press in beyond the sore spot. After the initial "ow" it feels good. I don't NEED it to get off though as most of my sensation is external anyway. (tmi? lol. I get way more from clit stimulation than penetration)

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it? Yep. I've only ever had sex with one woman and she wasn't that giving I have to say. It was a pretty one sided experience.  I've had several male sexual partners and I have to say, it really does depend upon the guy. One was WAY too big and it was honestly pretty uncomfortable and aching, another was too small and I couldn't really work with it to hit the spots it needed to hit, it just hit sore bits or nothing at all. My current partner though? Ooooh yeah, it's good. Though I admit I generally crave the physical intimacy aspect more than the actual penetration. I mean I can get myself off if I need to... <_< So it's not the climax I want so much as I enjoy the exploration of eachother and the connection.

5. Does it cause you dysphoria? No. Least I don't think it does. Except when we're fooling around and i'm doing something to him and I get this ache in my soul that screams "I want a penis too!"
I mean I like being penetrated but I also want to do the penetrating... ahem.
The actual whole penetration thing doesn't cause dysphoria for me, but the "i don't want to have to use a damn strap on" aspect DOES.
So.. I suppose it's a bit 50/50 in that I don't HATE my vagina but i'd have preferred something else.

though as it stands, i'm actually suuuuper excited about clit growth and hoping I can get T so I can see some of that. I think that might, if I get a few cms be enough to curb that dysphoria a little.

Clearly i'm naturally a dirty dirty switch hahaha.

But of course, my general dislike for down there is because it's literally a shredded mess anyway and i'd rather not have to acknowledge it or look at it. It just grosses me out. I don't think that's because it's a vagina (though vaginas ARE wierd right?) but the damage which has made it pretty horrible. But I don't HAVE to look at it so I suppose it's easier to detatch from it. It's not staring me in the face like my boobs do, so I find it easier to just pretend it's not a horrifying mess of flappy mangled wierdness.

1. No, but I'm far more focused on my chest

2. Not really

3. Yes

4. Yes, it was actually very enjoyable

5. Sometimes

Making a new reply here cause my answers are way different nowadays, since my detransing.

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)
Yes, I love it and it's my treasure.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?
Yes, I like how it feels and it makes me feel more connected to myself and my body. I mean sometimes it's just masturbating, but other times it's more like therapeutic, almost transcending, internal massage.

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?
Yes, but depends what with.

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?
Yeah, I have, but I'm not into dick or men, as I've figured out I'm a lesbian. The physical sensation in itself was on occasion enjoyable, but I just kept getting put off by the cis men's bodies all the time, which was why I most often wasn't able to enjoy that kind of penetration at all. Like my vag just dried up like pouring salt on a snail whenever I focused on who or what was penetrating me... I'd much more enjoy being penetrated by a strap on attached to a cis female partner.

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?
No, I really love it. It makes me feel in tune with myself, and really connected to my body. Like it's this really amazing part of my body that can make me feel so good if I just let it do its thing. And since I have been on T, it feels to me like that got my vag a little empowered. I'm still very happy about my clit being bigger now. As the for the vag itself, it feels much better once I started pampering it with some extra estrogen (you know, menopause pills) like it's thriving on that and I'm thriving with it! So I really do love it, but I'm also very protective of it and careful with it, since I healed my dysphoria regarding it, about a year ago now. I'm also okay with getting periods, etc, although I'm still terrified of getting preg.

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? - It's not what I would have chosen if I'd been given a choice but we're pretty amicable.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.? - Sometimes.

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex? - No idea. Dysphoria for me is the ultimate cock-block

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it? - No. See #3

5. Does it cause you dysphoria? - No. I'm VERY dysphoric about my chest, name and general existence in the world but my vagina is one of the few things about my body that has ever given me joy or pleasure. So we good

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Hey hey hey hope your day's good.

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? - I'm fine with it, took a long time but it's ok. I don't want to see that anyway.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.? - Sometimes

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex? - Sure, when my dysphoria is on the DL.

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? yep don't like it now!

5. Does it cause you dysphoria? - Yup. Life gave me dysphoria and it gets worse as I get older but the older i get the better I can handle things.


I like seeing everyone's answers! It's nice knowing we aren't alone

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)  Eh, its okay.  I've learned to live with it.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?  Not so much anymore, to be honest.

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?  Not really.

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?  Yes.  It was pleasurable at the time, but now the thought makes me squick.

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?  Not really, I don't really think about it anymore, especially since I now have a pack and play that I use as my "stand-in penis."  My bottom growth also helps alleviate any dysphoria, since it looks like a penis.  So I'm good.

Ryuichi

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)

I don't like it. I don't like having it. It doesn't feel right.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.?

Not really...

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex?

Yes, I do.

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it?

I'm gay, so yes, I've been with a cis guy and I was penetrated. I have mixed feelings about it... It does feel good, but it makes me emotionally uncomfortable at the same time.

5. Does it cause you dysphoria?

Not as much as having breasts, but at some level, yes. It's a constant reminder of being biologically female. Makes me feel castrated.

1. Do you like it/or like to have it? (I mean: Is it okay to you?)
-it's fine. It's just that I don't seem to have the penis that my brain is telling me should be there.

2. Do you like to be penetrated with sex toys etc.? -yes it's extremely pleasurable.

3. Do you like to be penetrated in sex? -yes it's great when done well.

4. Have you been penetrated by a cis guy (or a dick no matter the gender)? How was it/is it? - yes. As I said if the penis wielding person is interested in giving both something to enjoy and crafty and can make it last until i climax it's lovely.  Additional simultaneous clit stimulus which i am absolutely willing to do myself is usually needed to climax.

5. Does it cause you dysphoria? Nope