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Title: Came out to my dad
Post by: Zquence on January 02, 2018, 04:42:02 PM
Post by: Zquence on January 02, 2018, 04:42:02 PM
It went as expected he is 90% logic 1% emotion, and 9% other. He asked me alto of questions all from a sustainability point of view, it costs lots of money, there is almost nothing for support out here, just identifying a bunch of potential complications. (something he always does.) I mentioned moving to either California or back to Texas, to that he responded with if you go back to Texas talk to "xxx" ( a family friend) he is just gay but apparently in the recent years he has become part of the community in Dallas, and in California he just mentioned how much easier it would be there due to how liberal they are.
The first question he asked was are you sure, then asked about srs, and as of right now I am not sure but I am leaning towards it (ill just miss how fast I can go).
Then again he asked if I was sure and of course I was like yeah for a while now but I decided to actually move forward with it in may (when I joined the site).
Had to explain the difference between, non-binary, transgender, and transsexual. But after about 30 minutes of talking I brought up the point that the biggest reason I have decided to move forward now is that well he remarried and has son now so I felt a huge burden lift (carrying on the name). And of course he was like you didn't have to do that, and im like yeah I did maybe not really but I felt like I did. Didn't really talk much more about it after that.
Also sidenote I scheduled my next therapy session, so next Thursdays I am going to tell my therapist to get me on hrt as fast as possible. I am done waiting I am out to all the people I want to be out until I show up one year as a woman rather than as a boy. That is going to be so much fun. (Is it bad that I find enjoyment out of making others feel awkward?)
Hugs and love to everyone
XO - Z
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The first question he asked was are you sure, then asked about srs, and as of right now I am not sure but I am leaning towards it (ill just miss how fast I can go).
Then again he asked if I was sure and of course I was like yeah for a while now but I decided to actually move forward with it in may (when I joined the site).
Had to explain the difference between, non-binary, transgender, and transsexual. But after about 30 minutes of talking I brought up the point that the biggest reason I have decided to move forward now is that well he remarried and has son now so I felt a huge burden lift (carrying on the name). And of course he was like you didn't have to do that, and im like yeah I did maybe not really but I felt like I did. Didn't really talk much more about it after that.
Also sidenote I scheduled my next therapy session, so next Thursdays I am going to tell my therapist to get me on hrt as fast as possible. I am done waiting I am out to all the people I want to be out until I show up one year as a woman rather than as a boy. That is going to be so much fun. (Is it bad that I find enjoyment out of making others feel awkward?)
Hugs and love to everyone
XO - Z
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Title: Re: Came out to my dad
Post by: Megan. on January 02, 2018, 04:47:42 PM
Post by: Megan. on January 02, 2018, 04:47:42 PM
I'm so glad that went well for you. Your dad seems alot like mine, not really understanding of your emotional needs, but still aware and caring of the practical ones!
A big hurdle jumped, congrats hun, and good luck with your therapist! X
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A big hurdle jumped, congrats hun, and good luck with your therapist! X
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Title: Re: Came out to my dad
Post by: Bari Jo on January 02, 2018, 05:17:30 PM
Post by: Bari Jo on January 02, 2018, 05:17:30 PM
Congrats, sounds like my dad too. I've tried to bring up the emotional aspects of this, but that falls on deaf ears. Anything else and he will listen and talk about. Anyway, congrats, good to have support!
Bari Jo
Bari Jo
Title: Re: Came out to my dad
Post by: Yakayla on January 02, 2018, 05:46:51 PM
Post by: Yakayla on January 02, 2018, 05:46:51 PM
Getting a guy like that to talk about their emotions is next to impossible. But it sounds like it went great, cause if he had his doubts about something, he would have brought it back up pretty quickly.
And no, I love making people feel awkward. It's almost down right adorable. Like some older lady was starring at me today. So I turn my head to side and give her a huge smile. She couldn't help but smile back, and I could see her later laughing at herself out of embarrassment.
And no, I love making people feel awkward. It's almost down right adorable. Like some older lady was starring at me today. So I turn my head to side and give her a huge smile. She couldn't help but smile back, and I could see her later laughing at herself out of embarrassment.
Title: Re: Came out to my dad
Post by: LJH24 on January 02, 2018, 07:46:23 PM
Post by: LJH24 on January 02, 2018, 07:46:23 PM
Congrats! I'm glad it went so well. <3
Title: Re: Came out to my dad
Post by: LizK on January 03, 2018, 02:02:07 AM
Post by: LizK on January 03, 2018, 02:02:07 AM
Wow that sounded like it really couldn't have been much better. What a terrific way to start. Congratulations I hope it all works out great.