Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Well sisters, here I was within two weeks of my surgeries and have been going through hell with my wife.  So supportive at first,  Increasingly cool as V-day approached and finally informed me this is a no go this close to transition.  Felt like the bottom dropped out of one of my main supports and sent my head spinning in a dozen directions.  Had a talk with my therapist about all kinds of things running through my head and he said officially that we have to postpone and look for answers to some questions.  I agreed, since I was the one who called him about a few things I was thinking.  Although I know I have to have answers and was not afraid to ask the questions, I fear I have mortally wounded myself.  We have to be very brave to go through this and very brave to be willing to look for answers we may not like, after all, we are authentic and there is no pretense here, and I hate it sometimes.  I could have said nothing and it would have been smooth sailing, but I never lie to myself, too honest for my own damn good.  Now I am afraid that this will never happen.
     So thanks to all my wonderful sisters who helped me and made me laugh and cry, love you all.  I was really one of you for a while and did so love being a girl.  That's all for now, signing off.  Toni 

Did either your therapist or your wife tell you that you need to stop posting?  Putting on the brakes surgically might make some sense if the plan isn't fully resolved (I don't know enough to say if this is the case for you), but I'm not sure what to make of disconnecting from supportive resources.  I would hate to think that you felt your support anywhere, online or off, were contingent on where you were in your treatment course.

Quote from: rmaddy on January 26, 2018, 06:44:42 PM
Did either your therapist or your wife tell you that you need to stop posting?  Putting on the brakes surgically might make some sense if the plan isn't fully resolved (I don't know enough to say if this is the case for you), but I'm not sure what to make of disconnecting from supportive resources.  I would hate to think that you felt your support anywhere, online or off, were contingent on where you were in your treatment course.

I agree, no one here presses their beliefs as gospel here and you would have support than can help you find balance with both of your worlds of "need to do".

Toni...

I'm so sorry that the situation took a turn like that my dear sister!... I would also urge you to not give up completely on the resource you have here... if nothing else, we can provide a good sounding board as you work out options on how to proceed from here...

Wishing you all good things as you live this thing called life...

Hugs!!!

Ashley 😀❤️

Why do I all of a sudden have Doris Day singing Que Sara, Sara in my head?????