Susan's Place Transgender Resources

 I've been trans ever since I could remember. I came out last year and my foster parents weren't very accepting of it. I'm turning 18 soon and am starting my transition as soon as I can. My first step is the gender psychologist. I'm afraid that I won't meet their needs to become a man. I'm scared that I'll have to stay in this body forever. I just want to know what questions they will ask. I'm going to 100% honest, but I'm just scared that they won't let me..be who I want to be. Who I need to be. Anything will help calm my nerves. Thank you.

If you get a therapist that decides for you, you need a new therapist. Therapy is about drawing you out and you confirming what you need and helping you face your issues that are involved in it.

The therapist could ask anything and everything that will help lead you to your own answers.

Quote from: Aedan on February 05, 2018, 10:55:58 AM
I've been trans ever since I could remember. I came out last year and my foster parents weren't very accepting of it. I'm turning 18 soon and am starting my transition as soon as I can. My first step is the gender psychologist. I'm afraid that I won't meet their needs to become a man. I'm scared that I'll have to stay in this body forever. I just want to know what questions they will ask. I'm going to 100% honest, but I'm just scared that they won't let me..be who I want to be. Who I need to be. Anything will help calm my nerves. Thank you.

Hi Aedan,

Welcome to the site.

I totally agree with Faith. Therapists are not there to tell you, more to guide you. They help you through the maze and keep you from bad, irrevocable decisions.

I may move this topic into an introductions topic of our Youth Talk. I know you stated you are almost 18. However, we try to keep those under 18 in a spot where you can talk with others your own age.

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With warmth,

Jacqui

Both answers are spot on. With my gender therapist she asked general questions about my childhood etc; but for the most part I lead the conversation. Any qualified/reputable gender therapist will know that; same with cis people; not all fit into neat gender stereotypes.

Thank you all so much. This helps me a lot. <3

Welcome to Susan's Place. We often doubt that a therapist will find sufficient reason to treat us but unless there is some other complicating factor, we rarely have difficulty receiving treatment. Most of our fear is because we don't know what questions they will ask and we fear we will give the wrong answer. The questions aren't difficult or tricky but they are designed to help us understand ourselves. I have a link that might help you. It's  "the transition channel"  (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfO3B57E6NpIn-KsVjvmLLw) and the questions discussed in the videos are the same ones that were ask of me when I was in group therapy. I am sure that after the first visit or two your fear will be gone.

All the answers are great. As for being scared you'll stay in your body forever, don't worry so much about that. It sounds cheesy and I don't know how much it helps, but there's hope for all of us trans folk to transition even if it doesn't seem like it and even if it's just a little bit of hope. We're fighting towards a better future for us all and a future where our identities are more validated. Keep holding on <3