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So I've decided to get my haircut as a first step. Tonight I showed my stylist, who is also a friend, what I wanted. She kind of freaked out because it's a guy's cut. She kept trying to find pictures of similar cuts on women, and I was like, no, I want This. She was like, well I just want you to see it on a woman, so you know you'll like it. I'm like, I do like it. I want This. Obviously couldn't go into why. So I'm having a friend photoshop it onto my pic, just to show her. Which then when I asked him to do it for me, he was like, having gender issues? He's actually a former boyfriend and now super good friend, and probably knows me as good as anybody, and is Super open minded. So I was like, well aren't you perceptive. He was like, Uh, kind of obvious with the hairstyle. LOL. So I was like, well you've got me, what do you think? He was super cool about it. He said he'll always remember me the way I was when we were together, but people change and that's cool. So I guess now someone knows! (And he's going to do the picture for me. So hopefully that will solve that.)

Sounds like she's not customer oriented. Either that, or biased. Either tell her why or maybe better is to go to someone that doesn't know you.


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That's too much work to get a haircut you're satisfied with. I'm glad growing it out I could avoid hairstylists/salons for a little while. It's actually been great for my mental health so far.

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 It's such a pain. Are used to have to argue with stylist all the time. I'd still end up with a cut that looked like you know that grandmotherly short haircut. I finally found an awesome stylist I told him to drag to and they were super cool and that was awesome.

whether they are friends or not, you are there as a client. Sure, they can express concerns but ultimately when you confirm what you want, it's up to them to do they're best. Maybe allay fears by saying: It'll always grow back out. ??  My hairs grows real fast, I've recovered from lots of bad haircuts in short times (week or two). Now I don't get it cut at all. Soon I'll have to decide what style I do want.

You should find another stylist. I do understand why your friend might have been hesitant to give you the cut you asked for but after you told her it's what you wanted she should have done what you asked. I have clients that ask for cuts I don't think would look good on them and I gently suggest something else but if they tell me they want the cut/style they asked for then I do it. All that really matters is that they like it. It is their hair after all.

It is good to get a good stylist.

One I went to cut out so much weight in my hair that it took months to get it back to the way I prefer.  After two times of that nonsense, I did not return for a third visit. 

Chrissy