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There's a local TG group that does get-togethers, I attend some of the dances if they're renting a hall. Events at clubs I don't usually go to. I've gone to a couple support group meetings, it's like staying signed in here.  :laugh:

Do you socialize with other TG people? In what context?

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on March 02, 2018, 07:58:21 PM
There's a local TG group that does get-togethers, I attend some of the dances if they're renting a hall. Events at clubs I don't usually go to. I've gone to a couple support group meetings, it's like staying signed in here.  [emoji23]

Do you socialize with other TG people? In what context?

Hugs, Devlyn

I'm not that social  of a person in general, but I'm working on that. Eventually I would do that.... Still kind of scared of people at the moment.

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Did I miss your name somewhere? Or is Ids98498 good enough?  :laugh:

The group I associate with has a come as you are policy. No judgment if people show up anywhere on the spectrum. We all start, and finish, somewhere.  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on March 02, 2018, 08:07:41 PM
Did I miss your name somewhere? Or is Ids98498 good enough?  [emoji23]

The group I associate with has a come as you are policy. No judgment if people show up anywhere on the spectrum. We all start, and finish, somewhere.  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

My name is Laurel, I'm not sure how to change it on here yet.

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I would there is one that comes to Niagara Falls which is 15 minutes away but it is basically a sex orgy

Quote from: lds98498 on March 02, 2018, 08:18:15 PM
My name is Laurel, I'm not sure how to change it on here yet.

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Laurel, I love that name! You have to ask the Staff to  change it for you.  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,196460.0.html)

Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on March 02, 2018, 08:20:39 PM
I would there is one that comes to Niagara Falls which is 15 minutes away but it is basically a sex orgy

That happens after the dance if you know the right hotel room.  >:-) :laugh:

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on March 02, 2018, 08:25:42 PM
Laurel, I love that name! You have to ask the Staff to  change it for you.  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,196460.0.html)

That happens after the dance if you know the right hotel room.  >:-) :laugh:

Hugs, Devlyn

Lol have you been there

Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on March 02, 2018, 08:28:52 PM
Lol have you been there

No. Maybe. Don't put me on the spot!  :laugh:

not that there is any thing wrong with it. I am just trying to be a good girl now

So would you prefer more of a social setting (without the orgy) or more of a support group?

can be the same thing just with out the orgy see I was told that the hall they rent is like an orgy room it gets blocked off and ya that is what I was told I was asked to go and said no. What happens normally in them ? I am really curious and would love to go

It's at the Best Western usually, they rent a big conference room and cater some food, bring in a TG DJ and set up a small bar. Each event has a "Queen"  elected by the attendees that gets a sash, tiara, and flowers. There is a professional photographer who will take free photos of you. Some folks stay upstairs at the hotel, some go home. I'm a hotel girl, that thing runs way past my bedtime!

Ok well that sound cool ya I would totally like to go.

The group is called Fish-N.E.T.S. on Facebook. Their next event at the hotel in Marlborough is in April, the Spring Bling Dance.

I went to a group once a week that was mixed spectrum for 6 months .the groups ran in segments of 6 months thenformed a different group. It was interesting , but no one said anything about motel rooms

I attend a monthly support group meeting. And we also have several friends that are in various places in the rainbow alphabet spectrum that we like to meet with for dinners or gatherings. I have learned to really value the opportunity to spend time with folks that you don't have to explain things to so I can just relax and have fun with friends.

Tia Anne

We have a T-Girl dance party at a club the first Saturday of every month in Long Beach.  There are a couple of other places that are starting to have events at some other clubs. I go every now and then and it's always a fun time. It's a great way to get out and meet other trans people. I've gotten to know so many people from the community.  It's great to see so many people in different stages of transition and others who aren't sure of transition. I always learn something new when I'm meeting new people.

As I've had the opportunity and never have I'd have to say no.

I hadn't heard of the group you mentioned however Tiffany club, aka TCNE is closer and I've never been interested. I've met a few of their members and nice folks, also TCNE as far as I know has grown past it's origins as a cross dressing group, still I generally don't seek out people in transition.

My "family" is queer/lesbian/leather and in those contexts as well as in my work I meet lots of trans women. I've never found I share many interests with people just because they're transitioning.

I would go to the social events. The events I would choose though would be more mundane.  Afternoon tea, knitting circle, shopping, going out to dinner, that is more my style.  Being normal doing normal things I find so much more fulfilling.

I wouldn't.
I like to talk to other trans people online but in real life I don't want to be around other trans people. I want to live my life as a woman and not as a trans woman. All I have in common with other trans people is that we both are trans and we had no say over that. It's not because both of us are trans that that instantly makes us friends, IMHO.

I want to live as a cis woman despite being a trans woman.

Having been victimized via the trans support group I attended when I lived in San Fran, I think I learned a lesson. I presently live where there is no such thing. I'm with transfused when it comes to living as tho I am a cis woman.

Quote from: Lady Sarah on March 03, 2018, 10:51:03 AM
Having been victimized via the trans support group I attended when I lived in San Fran, I think I learned a lesson. I presently live where there is no such thing. I'm with transfused when it comes to living as tho I am a cis woman.

Exactly Sarah,

I have a feeling that where two trans women are in the same room there are trouble.
I try to avoid other trans people as much as I can offline.

No, I wouldn't.

Probably no.  Since I've started transitioning I've noticed that I have become more of an introvert.  Plus I would only go if my wife would go and I don't know how she feels about those kind of things.  Besides where I live in Texas being transgender isn't the best option to display.  While I haven't had any issues thus far I tend to be very cautious.

I have been to several trans social events, and enjoyed them.  Typically dinner at a restaurant, with 8-10 people, including some SOs.   The last one, we had about six trans women, one trans man, and three spouses.

I find that I am more outgoing since I started full-time.  Well, okay, "outgoing" may be the wrong word.  Less introverted would be more accurate.  I find myself longing for social interaction, and these events are a good excuse to get some.

Also, there are some people in that group who are not as far along as me, and some whose home situation doesn't allow them to express themselves.  Social events are a way of supporting them and providing an opportunity to present as their true selves.  For people who are uncomfortable in support groups, it lets them meet with other trans folks, helping them to normalize their situation.

And speaking of normalization, a table full of trans folks in a busy restaurant doesn't necessarily attract attention, but we are visible.  I think visibility is important, so that cis folks can see that we aren't freaks who hang out in the creepy parts of town.  They see that we are just normal folks out for a meal together, like anyone else.

Quote from: KathyLauren on March 03, 2018, 01:59:58 PM
I have been to several trans social events, and enjoyed them.  Typically dinner at a restaurant, with 8-10 people, including some SOs.   The last one, we had about six trans women, one trans man, and three spouses.

I find that I am more outgoing since I started full-time.  Well, okay, "outgoing" may be the wrong word.  Less introverted would be more accurate.  I find myself longing for social interaction, and these events are a good excuse to get some.

Also, there are some people in that group who are not as far along as me, and some whose home situation doesn't allow them to express themselves.  Social events are a way of supporting them and providing an opportunity to present as their true selves.  For people who are uncomfortable in support groups, it lets them meet with other trans folks, helping them to normalize their situation.

And speaking of normalization, a table full of trans folks in a busy restaurant doesn't necessarily attract attention, but we are visible.  I think visibility is important, so that cis folks can see that we aren't freaks who hang out in the creepy parts of town.  They see that we are just normal folks out for a meal together, like anyone else.

We had one of our dances the same time there was a big sports tournament in for the weekend. Everyone had a story about being in the elevator with the entire seventh grade girls hockey team, and one seven foot tall crossdresser in heels!  :laugh:

I agree it's important to be seen. I am very upfront about my status.

Hugs, Devlyn

There's two different support groups that meet at the Center for Inclusion in Kansas City. I've been to one of them several times, but not the other. I'd love to go to a purely social event, though. Probably not dancing. I've never danced & don't really have an urge to start. I haven't heard of any regular trans-only social events around there. There's a few drag bars, but I'm not much of a bar-goer, either.

I voted yes because since I am post-op, I feel a need to give back to the TG community. Others have helped me and now I really want to return the favor in a way that is beyond support groups.

I live in Miami area and we have several support groups but only one social group. We usually meet for dinner at a local TG friendly restaurant. Both men and women, cis and trans are welcome.

The conversations are one level above of what you hear at the local support groups. In support groups, we really like to stay on topic, but in a social setting, the conversations are free wheeling and any topic is fair game. It does not hurt that the alcohol consumed at dinner tends to loosen our tongues and liven up the discussions. Always a good time at these dinners.

It's a no from me, Dog.

I would absolutely go. In fact some of the best days of the last 15 years were at Gender Odyssey and the Ingersoll Sno  Ball.  For so many years I thought I was somewhat of an anomaly but finding out I am not alone has brightened my outlook and now I look forward to meeting and helping others. It's like any other sector of society. There are angels and aholes. You still have to choose which ones you want as friends. Sharing a bond via being trans is not enough to declare friendship.

Quote from: DawnOday on March 05, 2018, 01:34:13 PM
I would absolutely go. In fact some of the best days of the last 15 years were at Gender Odyssey and the Ingersoll Sno  Ball.  For so many years I thought I was somewhat of an anomaly but finding out I am not alone has brightened my outlook and now I look forward to meeting and helping others. It's like any other sector of society. There are angels and aholes. You still have to choose which ones you want as friends. Sharing a bond via being trans is not enough to declare friendship.

Good points.  I recently set up my Cassi facebook and have tried to connect with a couple of groups.  Not really into the flamboyant types and am treading slowly.

I went out Saturday night to the monthly T-Girl dance party at a club in Long Beach.  It was an Oscar's theme with a red carpet and photographs (which will be out later this month).  I got to see a lot of my friends in the community and had a great time.  I met a guy there who I really enjoyed talking with who is going to take me out.  It really was an amazing time.  It felt good to get dressed up and socialize with the people in my community.  This is what I wore:

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This coming weekend is the annual TEA Show here in LA and I'm going to the pre-show party on Friday and the awards show on Sunday.  This event is the awards show for people in the transgender erotica industry.  Being in LA I have gotten to know a number of the performers in the industry and they are some amazing folks.  I am not into what they do but because I know them I go to show support for them and the industry that provides them with an opportunity to make money to be able to fund their transitions.  I went last year and it was amazing to see all of the incredibly beautiful ladies and men involved in the industry.  I think the only other place that has as many tall and beautiful women is the WNBA all-star game..... ;) (https://flic.kr/p/23QmsLm)

Was just checking out your Flick'r pictures - just amazing comrade sister :)

I've socialized with trans people, but not expressly at an event for them. I can't see myself being at an event for any particular reason. But if I meet a trans person in everyday life, I have no good reason to be unsociable.

There aren't any where I live that I know of but I would take it into consideration if there was one

In 2 years I have been to two social events: Our local school districts "Pride" group is primarily trans focused and they have a summer picnic. First time I met another trans person!!

Second time I was invited to a trans Christmas party which had been  co-organized by a local church which has many offerings for transgender (group sessions, spouse groups etc.) and TGEA (Transgender Education Association).

Both have been pretty nice events. The Christmas party had me star struck since Danica Roem and Gavin Grim gave a speech :-)

Have not really been since but mainly I got too busy.

I wonder if there would be interest for meetings of Susan's members :-)

This weekend is the Transgender Erotica Awards Show. Friday night was the pre-show party in Hollywood, Saturday was a non-nude dance show starring some of the major players in the trans erotica world and Sunday is the industry's awards show. I've gone to the first two events and will be at the awards show tonight. There are some incredibly beautiful people that attend this event. While it makes me so sad that some of our brothers and sisters in the community have to rely on this industry to survive, I think it's important to attend and show support to them. I had a number of very interesting conversations with some of the people and have had an amazing time. Our community is made up of such a diverse range of individuals and I have learned so much from being involved in meeting them in these social events.

This weekend is also the Keystone Conference in Pennsylvania. I know there are a lot of trans people attending this event and are having an amazing time. Getting out and socializing with others in the community can be a very rewarding and educational experience. It has been for me.

I only attend to TG and LGBT social events. I don´t feel safe of going anywhere else, which doesn´t have Rainbow friendly people also.

Would love to go to restaurants, dances etc. to which cisgender people go, but I don´t know why I would like to hurt myself like that.

Perhaps in next life...

(And no, haven´t come across any sex parties yet)

Hello,

There was a time, in the mid 90's, when I went to a lot of support group meetings in and around the Los Angeles area.  I was pretty involved in low level political organizing in those days (a thankless task.) 

Since I moved to Portland, Oregon in 2000, I have been to almost no trans group meetings, neither support nor social.  I do miss having trans friends.  For many years I looked for trans friends in the Portland area.  (Obviously I looked in all the wrong places.)  I gave up the search around 2005.

I have a lot of friends, mostly competitive pool players and musicians.  As far as I know, there are no trans people among them.  I suppose my inability to connect in real life with other trans people is a large part of the reason that I've continued to return to Susan's Place year after year.  I don't often contribute to conversations, but keeping up to date on what you all are doing, and occasionally piping in, helps me feel that I'm not all alone in the world.

I've never heard of these sex parties either.  I guess I'm just not among the cool kids.  Some things never change.

Hugs,
Miharu