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Curious

I've been extremely lucky.  The vast majority of those whose opinions I care about accept what I'm doing with my life and approve of the direction I'm taking it in.  There is a minority who accept what I'm doing, but don't approve of it, but I don't see those folks often, so there's that.  I don't have anybody who's going nuts with "No you can't be trans/trans people don't exist/Jesus will make you cis" etc. 

As I said: lucky.

I, too, have been lucky.  Reactions have been mostly supportive, with some outliers from enthusiastically supportive to polite acceptance.  No one has been mean or nasty.

What usually happened was I would tell someone, they'd listen, they'd say ok, they'd ask me if I was sure, they'd go off and think about it for a few weeks or months and then come back fine with it. Or if not fine with it, just accepted it in a "I don't really care" sort of way.

Everyone have been supportive. Noone has been surprised. My brother said he has always seen me as a brother. Mom laughed and said "So it's time to come out of the closet now!"

My sister's friend suggested me a name...the same name I had chosen already.

My husband is accepting. But when I grow a beard and get a low voice there is a high risk of divorce. He is not gay. But we will part as friends.


Tony

Dad and brother tolerate it. Extended family accept it; but not sure if that's just because they think I'm going to be what they think an ftm/cis man is like or should be like. We haven't talked about it.

Everyone that I told has been supportive. Once they figured out I wasn't joking. I'm known for being a practical joker.

Almost unequivocally positive.  All my old friends, my wife, my kids, my colleagues, etc were very accepting.  In fact, the only people that weren't positive were my parents and sister.  Go figure.

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Wife and eldest daughter BADLY! The rest of the family and work colleagues/friends very supportive.

Some really good others passive aggressive and the ones I knew would be awful (due to past conversations) I just cut out on my own

I've been effectively disowned by my immediate family.  About half of my extended family is really supportive.  My partner's family has been really great about everything.  I'll take what I can get.

Incredibly supportive. At least at first. There's one friend that I'm pretty sure has decided not to talk to me anymore (though I was debating cutting him off, anyway). Plus my father, being the way he is, claimed support but really just wants me to be around to do stuff for him (he probably wouldn't recognize me now, anyway). It's the way he's always been, so I'm not surprised.

The rest have been incredibly awesome.

I just recently started to come out to the people I care about and I have honestly been blown away by out accepting and supportive everyone has been.  I knew I had some good friends, and I expected them to at the very least 'not care', but everyone has been super happy for me, and glad I'm figuring things out, and very authentically genuinely amazing.

What telling people has taught me is that you can usually trust your gut instinct.  As worried as I was that everyone was going to freak out, I was still pretty sure they wouldn't.  And After doing this a few times, each time they react better than I expect.  If you feel like someone might not be open to the fact your trans, then be prepared for them to not be.  but if you feel like you're surrounded by good people, then trust that they will be the people you think they are.  They might just surprise you in the best way possible.

Good luck with coming out, when you decide to.  It's tough, but it's worth it.