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I wouldnt mind some advise on coming out please, atm it feels like 80% of my anxitiy is coming from keeping the secret and hiding and to be honest its getting to me, stress and anxitiy is effecting my job and family relationships, i can see this but it still doesnt make the conversations any easyer.

Edited out info to remove personal stuff. Thanks for the replys all

Any adivse is very welcome here!

Love you all xx

Shambles,

I can only speak from my experience and offer it as a template.  I wish I had thought of this before the first person but alas it was between#2 (my wife) and #3 (work friend).

I saw two therapists.  Both diagnosed gender dysphoria.  At that point I was sure and armed with facts.

I would tell people that I've been diagnosed with gender Dysphoria which is the clinical diagnosis for people who are transgender.

It turns the "coming out" from a choice to a "condition" that can be treated.  The treatment is transition.

I came out to about 100 people in person mostly one at a time.  I had no negative responses.  They get hung up on diagnosis and gender Dysphoria.

Good luck

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My own experience. I came out to my doctor first then my wife. She let her family know with permission and then I let my family know after( due to travel to tell mom)  I had talked to my employer. Everyone else finds out as they see me. Today I change my Facebook photo and description. Now everyone else will know. Any questions I just answer with
"I decided to change sides"

In my case, I told my wife first, because not being the first to know would have been unacceptable to her, and it was important to me to have her on my side.  For everyone else, it came down to how much I could trust them not to blab.  I very much wanted to be the one to tell people, not have them hear by gossip.  So people I trusted got told earlier. 

I made sure to map out possible connections where gossip could spread.  For example, someone in the concert band was also in the dance class.  So those groups had to be told at about the same time, or everyone would find out by gossip.

Thanks, its intersting about the not blabbing side too

Its got be my parents 1st. Ether both together or one at a time i think.

Thanks for all your commens, im going to edit down the info in the opening to remove personal stuff x

Quote from: KathyLauren on March 19, 2018, 08:51:20 AM
In my case, I told my wife first, because not being the first to know would have been unacceptable to her, and it was important to me to have her on my side.  For everyone else, it came down to how much I could trust them not to blab.  I very much wanted to be the one to tell people, not have them hear by gossip.  So people I trusted got told earlier. 

I made sure to map out possible connections where gossip could spread.  For example, someone in the concert band was also in the dance class.  So those groups had to be told at about the same time, or everyone would find out by gossip.

@ Kathy:  Very good reply post and great advice.   When I went full-time I relocated and started living in a very small conservative town and when it finally becomes town gossip I have already been preparing myself and lining up key individuals that I will personally tell about my transition. 
***Another issue: I have been approached by a male suitor and have even gone out on casual dates with him... and once those dates go beyond "casual" it is only fair to the him that I reveal my past and tell him directly... obviously if the date goes bad after that, the town gossip may start and it would be all over town in a matter of a couple days...  I am preparing for that day. 
Thank you KathyLauren for your insights on this matter.
Danielle

Best of luck with the dating Danielle. Hope all
Goes very smoothly and you have a great time.
Your cute as a button so I'm suprised there is only one person in line.
Lol