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Title: My nerves are shot and Anxiety High but Coming Out At Graduation. Any Thoughts?
Post by: Corrina on March 21, 2018, 10:29:07 AM
 I am still in the closet but have thought this over. I would love to just get this over with and come out to everyone at once. I have thought about wearing a nice dress and going as myself to the commencement ceremony breakfast. In front of my family and class. Does this week to grand of an idea? I know half my family will accept this but my mom and 3 brothers (no sisters) will freak out! Any Thoughts of ideas? Should I wait until after I move and begin hrt? I am nervous!!
Title: Re: My nerves are shot and Anxiety High but Coming Out At Graduation. Any Thoughts?
Post by: AutumnGurl81 on March 21, 2018, 02:01:38 PM
I have to start by saying I'm not sure I really have an answer here, and don't know if I or anyone can necessarily give you a solid choice as this is a big life decision for you. I feel as though sitting down with people closest to you and letting them know how you feel may be a better approach, and here's why. If you come out at a large event like this people will obviously have mixed reactions, but I would be more concerned with having my family in my corner, and also have given them a fair shot at knowing before I came out. If your family knows, whether they like it or not, at least they're not getting blindsided and then asked a million questions about something they had no clue about. Of course, only you can make the right decision for yourself based on your conditions. If you're going full time, more power to you. In my situation, I let family and close friends in on who I was over several months. Before the end of this year I hope to be full time. Good luck with everything!
Title: Re: My nerves are shot and Anxiety High but Coming Out At Graduation. Any Thoughts?
Post by: Alanna1990 on March 21, 2018, 02:14:14 PM
Quote from: Corrina on March 21, 2018, 10:29:07 AM
I am still in the closet but have thought this over. I would love to just get this over with and come out to everyone at once. I have thought about wearing a nice dress and going as myself to the commencement ceremony breakfast. In front of my family and class. Does this week to grand of an idea? I know half my family will accept this but my mom and 3 brothers (no sisters) will freak out! Any Thoughts of ideas? Should I wait until after I move and begin hrt? I am nervous!!

I would suggest for you to wait, if you choose to come out at a special date like that things might not go your way, and you may end up with sad memories about it, I know that feeling of needing to tell everybody, but I honestly think you should choose another date for it.
Title: Re: My nerves are shot and Anxiety High but Coming Out At Graduation. Any Thoughts?
Post by: Lilith.lupe.tamayo on March 27, 2018, 07:56:38 PM
In my opinion I don't think you owe anyone s big coming out, and I would be concerned that the situation could escalate and turn ugly, but maybe im just a chicken, so whatever you choose best of luck