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Title: Came out to a close friend yesterday
Post by: Shiratori on April 01, 2018, 07:50:01 AM
Post by: Shiratori on April 01, 2018, 07:50:01 AM
While I'm not ready to go public yet (and probably won't be for quite some time), I did my bit for TDOV yesterday and came out to a close friend.
After telling her I was trans her first question was "Wait. Which way?" (understandable as I present male so could easily have been FTM). :icon_lol:
She took it really well and had a few (non-invasive) questions but was really supportive. I feel so good to have told her. ;D
After telling her I was trans her first question was "Wait. Which way?" (understandable as I present male so could easily have been FTM). :icon_lol:
She took it really well and had a few (non-invasive) questions but was really supportive. I feel so good to have told her. ;D
Title: Re: Came out to a close friend yesterday
Post by: Northern Star Girl on April 01, 2018, 08:44:51 AM
Post by: Northern Star Girl on April 01, 2018, 08:44:51 AM
Quote from: Shiratori on April 01, 2018, 07:50:01 AM
While I'm not ready to go public yet (and probably won't be for quite some time), I did my bit for TDOV yesterday and came out to a close friend.
After telling her I was trans her first question was "Wait. Which way?" (understandable as I present male so could easily have been FTM). :icon_lol:
She took it really well and had a few (non-invasive) questions but was really supportive. I feel so good to have told her. ;D
@ Shiratori: Definitely count yourself very fortunate.
I had to chuckle when you stated that she said "Wait, which way?"
When I was first into my HRT I cam out to my parents and some of my very best friends..... 2 of my very best friends disowned me and won't talk to me and my parents still won't talk to me 3+ years later.
I called my mother on Christmas Day a couple months ago and she blew me away by calling me Danielle!! First time ever!!! My dad is still very put off and ignores me like I don't exist any more.... I guess that in his eyes that he no longer has me as a son.
So anyway, I live over 1000 miles away now so I don't see any of them much any longer... sad, but I have made lots of new and good friends here where I am now.
Thanks for your post, looking for updates as you feel comfortable doing.
Hugs,
Danielle
Title: Re: Came out to a close friend yesterday
Post by: Allison S on April 01, 2018, 08:52:49 AM
Post by: Allison S on April 01, 2018, 08:52:49 AM
Great reaction from your friend!! I thought her asking "which way?" is funny too lol
He's right Danielle. He doesn't have a son but a daughter instead
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Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on April 01, 2018, 08:44:51 AM
I guess that in his eyes that he no longer has me as a son.
He's right Danielle. He doesn't have a son but a daughter instead
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Title: Re: Came out to a close friend yesterday
Post by: Melanie Jean on April 03, 2018, 01:59:33 AM
Post by: Melanie Jean on April 03, 2018, 01:59:33 AM
Your friend's reaction gave me chuckle - thanks for that! :-*
I had a somewhat similar event, but had already been presenting for a week at the time. When my friend, who was visiting from out of state, asked if he could meet up for coffee. I paused for a moment, and then blurted "You should know that I'm not who you remember. I'm a trans woman." Without skipping a beat, he said that it was OK with him, and asked how I was doing, whether I was stressing about coming out to others and making certain I was in a good place. He then asked which place had the best coffee and what time to get together. A good friend who really cares - took a big load off. :)
Love to all.
~Melanie
I had a somewhat similar event, but had already been presenting for a week at the time. When my friend, who was visiting from out of state, asked if he could meet up for coffee. I paused for a moment, and then blurted "You should know that I'm not who you remember. I'm a trans woman." Without skipping a beat, he said that it was OK with him, and asked how I was doing, whether I was stressing about coming out to others and making certain I was in a good place. He then asked which place had the best coffee and what time to get together. A good friend who really cares - took a big load off. :)
Love to all.
~Melanie
Title: Re: Came out to a close friend yesterday
Post by: MeTony on April 03, 2018, 03:43:57 AM
Post by: MeTony on April 03, 2018, 03:43:57 AM
I Love the reaction!
My best friend had a similar reaction. She said "But you never wear womens cloths!" Keep in mind I'm a guy. Then we started laguging hysterically to that obvious statement.
Tony
My best friend had a similar reaction. She said "But you never wear womens cloths!" Keep in mind I'm a guy. Then we started laguging hysterically to that obvious statement.
Tony