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I'm currently debating about trying dating apps and I want to know if anybody else had experience with them and if there any good like match.com?

Quote from: MSTR.LitaMacWolf on April 03, 2018, 06:50:50 PM
I'm currently debating about trying dating apps and I want to know if anybody else had experience with them and if there any good like match.com?

Hi cliffy here lots of different  types  online but i find if your open and honest it is better

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I am on Match. I signed up for a 3 month try. I put a lot of effort into one guy but he was fishing me. All he wanted was a text based relationship. There are others I could date there but I need to get over the let down from the last guy. He seamed to be awesome but turned out to be a dud.

If you don't have a bunch of money lying around just waiting to be spent, you could try free sites such as okcupid. I found my hubby there.

I tried match.com and okcupid.com

Match was weird, as there wasn't really a way to identify myself as trans in terms of tagging.  I did put it in my profile description, but apparently nobody reads those.  I did get some messages, which when I got access were not exactly positive or affirming.

OKCupid let me specify my orientation as lesbian, and tag myself as trans.  I set the profile so it would only be searchable by women.  I got several likes which when I paid turned out to be a 'bot and some people who registered as women but whose names, images, and profile data were remarkably masculine.  I understand that this is a 'thing' out there.

As a femme lesbian transgender person, I'd say they were a waste of time and money.  But that is just my opinion.

I've since deleted or deactivated my profiles. 🤮

Quote from: Michelle_P on April 03, 2018, 10:47:56 PM
I tried match.com and okcupid.com

Match was weird, as there wasn't really a way to identify myself as trans in terms of tagging.  I did put it in my profile description, but apparently nobody reads those.  I did get some messages, which when I got access were not exactly positive or affirming.

OKCupid let me specify my orientation as lesbian, and tag myself as trans.  I set the profile so it would only be searchable by women.  I got several likes which when I paid turned out to be a 'bot and some people who registered as women but whose names, images, and profile data were remarkably masculine.  I understand that this is a 'thing' out there.

As a femme lesbian transgender person, I'd say they were a waste of time and money.  But that is just my opinion.

I've since deleted or deactivated my profiles. 🤮

I agree.  With all of what Michelle said.

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I never tried match.com, but I met my partner a few years ago on okcupid. I had also met a few people prior using an app call Her (app for lesbians). I liked both quite a bit.


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I use OKCupid and Plentyoffish but neither have worked :(

I guess Susan's Place was in the end the better option [emoji23]

Quote from: Michelle_P on April 03, 2018, 10:47:56 PM
I tried match.com and okcupid.com

Match was weird, as there wasn't really a way to identify myself as trans in terms of tagging.  I did put it in my profile description, but apparently nobody reads those.  I did get some messages, which when I got access were not exactly positive or affirming.

OKCupid let me specify my orientation as lesbian, and tag myself as trans.  I set the profile so it would only be searchable by women.  I got several likes which when I paid turned out to be a 'bot and some people who registered as women but whose names, images, and profile data were remarkably masculine.  I understand that this is a 'thing' out there.

As a femme lesbian transgender person, I'd say they were a waste of time and money.  But that is just my opinion.

I've since deleted or deactivated my profiles. 🤮

I don't know what it would be like trying to find a woman on a dating site.
With guys it exhausting. I have had wonderful luck but it was very draining. Guys that just want sex was only a small part of the problem. One, you get inundated with responses, complete overload. I can't possibly respond to everyone so only men that write something to me. Then even more, only men who write in full multi word sentences. Then you have to winnow out the just in it for the hokey pokey men. Ugh! Then there is still multiple conversations going on at once. Going on dates it just goes on and on. I always asked them if they read my profile, saves time. I would get a couple of possibles then remove my profile till I got them sorted so I wasn't constantly getting new messages that I had to ignore. If none worked out then I would put my information and pictures back up again. I have had my current boyfriend for almost 2 years. It took a couple of weeks even though I met him like the second day. He is older and it just felt risky, but I had more fun talking to him than anybody else. I kept ignoring all the other guys and talking to him. Finally we went on a date and that was that. For me the whole process was extremely stressful, it was just too much. There were nice men, just too many of them. I was always ignoring at least two or three of them because I just didn't have the time to give them all attention. I am not sure that I would do it again if I found myself single.

Quote from: sarah1972 on April 22, 2018, 09:47:55 PM
I guess Susan's Place was in the end the better option [emoji23]

Funny, but true.  I'm a demisexual, meaning that I need a strong emotional or romantic connection to allow sexual attraction.  That means I would need to be friends with someone, and feel that connection or romance to do the usual dating stuff.  The rando strangers from a web site don't really stand a chance.

For me, the most likely 'dating partner' would be someone I was already friends with, and probably expressed a romantic interest at some point.   I found local groups like meetups, and communities, virtual or real, through which friendship could develop, would be the best sources for dating for me.

The lesbian meetups were interesting.  Many claimed to be accepting of trans folks.  It turns out the real acid test of whether someone accepts us or not is if they'll consider dating one of us. LOL