Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: 4A-GZE on April 08, 2018, 06:22:31 PM Return to Full Version

Title: Has anyone here comfortably come out at a particularly masculine job?
Post by: 4A-GZE on April 08, 2018, 06:22:31 PM
One of the things I'm dreading is coming out to my coworkers. I work in junk removal, and they're all fairly tough, manly men. To be honest, they're the textbook definition of toxic masculinity. I pretty much have to keep a straight face and never admit when something is too heavy for me. The thing is, though, I LOVE the job itself. It's just my coworkers that I'm worried about. I know a few of them are pretty blatantly transphobic anyway, so there's that.

I feel like my only options are to either never come out and just wear a binder if and when I transition, or to move to a new area and start out as a woman at a different location. Losing this job is not something I would like to consider.
Title: Re: Has anyone here comfortably come out at a particularly masculine job?
Post by: Gertrude on April 08, 2018, 06:31:06 PM
What are the policies where you work RE harassment and discrimination? What about where you live?


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Title: Re: Has anyone here comfortably come out at a particularly masculine job?
Post by: Donna on April 08, 2018, 06:31:33 PM
It's a tough thing to deal with. I work in building maintenance, snow removal and pressure washing services these all require hard heavy work and I've had no issues so far and the people in charge don't care as long as the work gets done. If your coworker are transphobic that may prove difficult but it could also be just macho talk. I was the same way just to hide my true self and I've know others that did the same. I don't know about you but i know there is no way I could go on living on both sides of the line. Worse comes to worse maybe a new job is in your future but don't write anyone off yet. Good luck
Title: Re: Has anyone here comfortably come out at a particularly masculine job?
Post by: heather3791 on April 08, 2018, 06:49:19 PM
Hi Lyra. I'm in the same boat. Well sort of. I work with a bunch of macho rough guys as well. However I'm actually their boss. If I ever come out to them it will be interesting to see how many bolt for another gig or choose to stay on with me. I know in your situation it will be more challenging dealing with co-workers and gaining their acceptance. I wish you the best of luck with everything...I'm sure you'll be fine. Please keep us posted on your progress!

-Heather