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Oh Im so sick of people online elsewhere the last days most of all calling me a man demanding me to say I am. Like Im not a man, boy guy, his, him, he, sir or any other male. It's one thing to say it to me if one doesnt know. To openly say after I tell who I am is blantly rude. Im sick of being reminded of who Im not.

Trolls will do that and there is no shutting them up if you don't block them. May as well argue with a brick. At least a brick won't argue back.

You know better than anyone else what best represents your identity. If they don't know you personally, they have no ground to tell you they know you better than you do, so their opinion is moot.

I remember when "Man" was the kewl thing to say; like "Man, that's cool", Man, what's happening".....

Quote from: Lady Sarah on April 09, 2018, 05:57:27 PM
Trolls will do that and there is no shutting them up if you don't block them. May as well argue with a brick. At least a brick won't argue back.

Bricks don't argue back because they have already "formed" their opinion like it's set in stone.  I know this because I argue with them and the trees all the time. 

Sorry to say but "elsewhere on line" sounds like a good place to stay away from. A great attitude is
"Your opinion of me is none of my business"
Keeping that in mind may help shut out the negativity from some uncaring peeps.

Quote from: Cassi on April 09, 2018, 06:21:29 PM
Bricks don't argue back because they have already "formed" their opinion like it's set in stone.  I know this because I argue with them and the trees all the time.

Cassi....you're making me laugh! ;D have you ever watched Friends? You remind me of Phoebe's mom.

Quote from: Larisa on April 09, 2018, 05:47:56 PM
Oh Im so sick of people online elsewhere the last days most of all calling me a man demanding me to say I am. Like Im not a man, boy guy, his, him, he, sir or any other male. It's one thing to say it to me if one doesnt know. To openly say after I tell who I am is blantly rude. Im sick of being reminded of who Im not.

A-holes! Ignore them.

Quote from: Charlie Nicki on April 09, 2018, 07:36:24 PM
Cassi....you're making me laugh! ;D have you ever watched Friends? You remind me of Phoebe's mom.

Didn't watch friends.  Have the series somewhere digitally because of the late wife but not one to watch it myself.

People who intentionally misgender a trans person are only showing how small and ignorant they are. Don't waste any more of your time on them. In the beginning of my transition my mom would call me He and Him out in public. But actually it made people look at her like she was a total idiot or not right in the head. Once she kept calling me He at target. This woman was looking at her like she was nuts and I started saying " ok mom" in the tone of voice you would use with a child or a mentally ill person. Then I just shrugged and shook my head with a sad look while my mom was looking the other way. The woman's look turned to pity after that. I guess she thought my mom wasn't all there. Lol.

Quote from: Julia1996 on April 09, 2018, 11:29:28 PM
People who intentionally misgender a trans person are only showing how small and ignorant they are. Don't waste any more of your time on them. In the beginning of my transition my mom would call me He and Him out in public. But actually it made people look at her like she was a total idiot or not right in the head. Once she kept calling me He at target. This woman was looking at her like she was nuts and I started saying " ok mom" in the tone of voice you would use with a child or a mentally ill person. Then I just shrugged and shook my head with a sad look while my mom was looking the other way. The woman's look turned to pity after that. I guess she thought my mom wasn't all there. Lol.

Aha!  The Munchkin doesn't have to use her x-ray laser eyes :)

Quote from: Larisa on April 09, 2018, 05:47:56 PM
Oh Im so sick of people online elsewhere the last days most of all calling me a man demanding me to say I am. Like Im not a man, boy guy, his, him, he, sir or any other male. It's one thing to say it to me if one doesnt know. To openly say after I tell who I am is blantly rude. Im sick of being reminded of who Im not.

WoW.   Sorry

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Quote from: Larisa on April 09, 2018, 05:47:56 PM
Oh Im so sick of people online elsewhere the last days most of all calling me a man demanding me to say I am. Like Im not a man, boy guy, his, him, he, sir or any other male. It's one thing to say it to me if one doesnt know. To openly say after I tell who I am is blantly rude. Im sick of being reminded of who Im not.

Some people dont play fair and rudness is all they know these are the people who dont play well with others their the ones who flunked sand box as children and dont know how to let others be.their bullies and their boring the best way to combat their rudness is to ignore them their opinion has no value

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some people like to  use the word "man" at us mtfs.  They weaponize it and is a way for  them to bully us, and claim power. 

I should also add that you should refrain from letting these people anger you, since this will only make things worse. It will only make them try to claim victory more, since you would have to acknowledge that he or she got a reaction out of you and that this in and of itself gives validation to their bullying (this is what they would claim).

Whatever you do, stay calm and let them expose themselves for the bullies they are.

Quote from: Lady Sarah on April 09, 2018, 05:57:27 PM
Trolls will do that and there is no shutting them up if you don't block them. May as well argue with a brick. At least a brick won't argue back.

It used to be that the comments were a place where you might read something confrontational but clearly just someone trying to be funny or get some amusement out of it. Now I think the comments are a minefield where some people with serious evil political agendas, some of whom are possibly even being paid, are saying things about us that aren't true. It hurts like hell. I assume you like to be connected, and be informed and maybe, like me, you want to try to "take the pulse" of society on trans issues but I find I am much happier if I stay the hell away from comment sections.

Quote from: deannabirdwell06 on April 10, 2018, 07:45:23 PM
Some people dont play fair and rudness is all they know these are the people who dont play well with others their the ones who flunked sand box as children and dont know how to let others be.their bullies and their boring the best way to combat their rudness is to ignore them their opinion has no value

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