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I've talked about this with my cis girlfriends and they seem to agree that this is something all women do: Lately I've started to realize that the more I care about someone, the more I overanalyze and overthink about everything they say or do. Like "what does that really mean? Why did he say it like that? Does that mean he loves me? Ok he's totally breaking up with me...Awww he actually cares about me, ok no I'm being annoying and he hates me". Also thinking that guys are pretty much walking rocks lacking all sorts of basic emotions. Am I insane? Sometimes I feel freaking insane! And I didn't do this before, ever. I had an orchi 3 weeks ago so my T is pretty much dead and my E is probably very high (I'm due to a medical check in a couple of weeks)...Is this way of thinking hormonally induced? Before transition I never EVER tried to analyze every single word or speech pattern someone had or got worried about a random word that was said.

Does this happen to you after HRT? I told my girlfriends how I felt and they were like "welcome to womanhood".

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I have always been that way but it appears to have gotten worse after HRT. I have never known a guy to do that now that I think about it. My one girlfriend is horrible, call me up one day complaining and wondering what to do, the next day she calls to tell me it was nothing. When I get together with her family for a girls day her sister and daughter say that she does that to them too. I keep it in, worry at it, map out a conversation to confront him with, wait for him to screw up so we both know that I have the priority until I am satisfied then sit him down and explain my fears. If I don't wait to have the upper hand he can and will find an excuse to weasel out of the conversation and my fears are not alleviated. Kind of awful of me huh?

I am overthinking everything and I am really attentive. During my group - therapy sessions I always had to go through any kind of thoughts the others could possibly have, before brining out a word. This week I will have my T checked, because I am taking part of a investigation. They try to analyse how T affects male to perceive emotions. Later they will send me the study results.

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To be honest I was always like that, but it's been cranked to 11 on E... To the point where I actually know how they feel and that eliminates the over thinking because well, I came to the correct conclusion, which never used to happen, and I'd be sitting with 2 or 3 possibilities instead of 1 just like you're describing. My advice, of your 2 or 3 possibilities, pick the most positive one and act on it, but without stepping out of the bounds of your relationship with that person, maybe they're feeling something for you, but they probably don't want their relationship with you to change suddenly from friends to more than friends, everyone moves at a different pace in that regard.

Quote from: Daniellekai on April 23, 2018, 01:18:15 PM
To be honest I was always like that, but it's been cranked to 11 on E... To the point where I actually know how they feel and that eliminates the over thinking because well, I came to the correct conclusion, which never used to happen, and I'd be sitting with 2 or 3 possibilities instead of 1 just like you're describing. My advice, of your 2 or 3 possibilities, pick the most positive one and act on it, but without stepping out of the bounds of your relationship with that person, maybe they're feeling something for you, but they probably don't want their relationship with you to change suddenly from friends to more than friends, everyone moves at a different pace in that regard.

This is a good strategy... I'll try to use it because feeling this way is so exhausting!!

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Yes I always have been like this and I had an even shorter fuse than I do now... it was pretty pathetic but I didn't know what to do. I'd talk to one or two of my friends and they'd say I'm overthinking, I'd talk to a therapist, then another and another...but nothing really changed much at all until I decided I was done. That's when I started hrt.

My point in saying all that is to say that you're not crazy. You're going through a LOT and your emotions are valid.

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Quote from: Allison S on April 23, 2018, 08:36:48 PM
Yes I always have been like this and I had an even shorter fuse than I do now... it was pretty pathetic but I didn't know what to do. I'd talk to one or two of my friends and they'd say I'm overthinking, I'd talk to a therapist, then another and another...but nothing really changed much at all until I decided I was done. That's when I started hrt.

My point in saying all that is to say that you're not crazy. You're going through a LOT and your emotions are valid.

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Thanks girl!