Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: blackcat on May 23, 2018, 07:07:06 PM Return to Full Version
Title: If you are a renter...
Post by: blackcat on May 23, 2018, 07:07:06 PM
Post by: blackcat on May 23, 2018, 07:07:06 PM
My partner and I are splitting before I start transitioning. This means I will be renting on my own.
This means I will be meeting a new landlord as female, but will later on be male. (I wish I could vacation at an all-inclusive resort on the moon for two years until my transition is sorted and I look great. ::) )
Most of what is available that is affordable to me is rented in a common house with private rooms/private bathrooms, which means shared space with total strangers.
I've had some very *colorful* experiences in the past with renting. But now throwing transition into the mix makes me feel a lot more vulnerable. I don't want to get locked into a lease sharing a space with someone who is crazy transphobic. There is a lot of backwards thinking in my area.
If I were already passing it wouldn't be an issue, but, unfortunately that's not the case.
What things do you consider when looking for a living space? How do you find one that's safe?
This means I will be meeting a new landlord as female, but will later on be male. (I wish I could vacation at an all-inclusive resort on the moon for two years until my transition is sorted and I look great. ::) )
Most of what is available that is affordable to me is rented in a common house with private rooms/private bathrooms, which means shared space with total strangers.
I've had some very *colorful* experiences in the past with renting. But now throwing transition into the mix makes me feel a lot more vulnerable. I don't want to get locked into a lease sharing a space with someone who is crazy transphobic. There is a lot of backwards thinking in my area.
If I were already passing it wouldn't be an issue, but, unfortunately that's not the case.
What things do you consider when looking for a living space? How do you find one that's safe?
Title: Re: If you are a renter...
Post by: Dena on May 23, 2018, 07:57:23 PM
Post by: Dena on May 23, 2018, 07:57:23 PM
I would look for a local LGBT center and see if there are others looking for a roommate. Once I had a roommate, both of us could search for an apartment that meets our needs.
Title: Re: If you are a renter...
Post by: Lady Sarah on May 23, 2018, 09:49:48 PM
Post by: Lady Sarah on May 23, 2018, 09:49:48 PM
Back when I was in the same boat, I rented a studio apartment, cheap. I started my transition, and the landlord seemed to have no problem with it. When I found a room mate at the trans support group, we got a better studio apartment.
I don't know if that route would work for you, but it's worth a shot.
I don't know if that route would work for you, but it's worth a shot.
Title: Re: If you are a renter...
Post by: blackcat on May 24, 2018, 07:35:20 PM
Post by: blackcat on May 24, 2018, 07:35:20 PM
Ooh, I didn't even think about networking with an LGBT center/support groups/etc. I have my first appointment at one in a little over a week!
Thanks. :)
Thanks. :)