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Title: Finally getting around to introducing myself
Post by: StacyRenee on June 09, 2018, 09:56:10 AM
Post by: StacyRenee on June 09, 2018, 09:56:10 AM
Hello all! I've been around for a few years now and finally gotten around to doing an introduction. So here goes!
After first learning about transsexuality from TV in the 80's (Maury Povich's "Born a boy or girl" themed shows) I knew this is what I needed to do. I had no resources to learn about how to go about it, though.
Then in the 90's, the internet came about and a wealth of knowledge was at my fingertips. But I came upon a stumbling block when I read that you basically had to be a gay man to be allowed to transition. I've always been attracted to women, so I assumed I would never meet the gatekeeper's requirements. I resigned myself to never transitioning.
Then around 2010, I started reading more online and discovered that sexuality was no longer tied to gender identity. I knew then I just had to do this. But like many of us, life got in the way. I got sole custody of my son, my mother died, his mother died, the company I'd been at for 10 years folded, etc.
In 2015, I finally got some stability in my life, came to terms with the need to transition, and started working on getting the nerve to come out. That finally happened in August of 2016. I came out to my step-son and his girlfriend (now wife) first. I was still scared to tell my son. Everything went so well, that evening I came out to my son.
He listened patiently to what I had to say. Afterwards, he just said that I had made so many sacrifices for him and his siblings that now that they are adults, I should do whatever I needed to do to be happy. He said he loved me and he supported anything that I wanted to do. I was in tears. All of that fear I had was gone. After that, nothing else mattered.
I started therapy the following month. I had a difficult time finding a therapist due to the fact that I live in a small conservative city at the western edge of the Bible belt. I've had to travel a hundred miles for my transition needs. After three months I got my letter to start hormones. February, I came out to HR. March, started HRT. August, came out to my coworkers after getting my legal name change. September, I went full time. December, received my new birth certificate. Boy was that a busy year!
This year has been much slower. I started voice therapy a few months ago. It has been difficult for me as I'm rather an introvert. Next step is to finally get around to laser hair removal. I've been putting money aside for an orchiectomy. The surgeon requires 30 days smoke free, but am having a difficult time quitting smoking.
It's now June 2018, and I will be going to pride for the first time. I'm excited beyond belief!
After first learning about transsexuality from TV in the 80's (Maury Povich's "Born a boy or girl" themed shows) I knew this is what I needed to do. I had no resources to learn about how to go about it, though.
Then in the 90's, the internet came about and a wealth of knowledge was at my fingertips. But I came upon a stumbling block when I read that you basically had to be a gay man to be allowed to transition. I've always been attracted to women, so I assumed I would never meet the gatekeeper's requirements. I resigned myself to never transitioning.
Then around 2010, I started reading more online and discovered that sexuality was no longer tied to gender identity. I knew then I just had to do this. But like many of us, life got in the way. I got sole custody of my son, my mother died, his mother died, the company I'd been at for 10 years folded, etc.
In 2015, I finally got some stability in my life, came to terms with the need to transition, and started working on getting the nerve to come out. That finally happened in August of 2016. I came out to my step-son and his girlfriend (now wife) first. I was still scared to tell my son. Everything went so well, that evening I came out to my son.
He listened patiently to what I had to say. Afterwards, he just said that I had made so many sacrifices for him and his siblings that now that they are adults, I should do whatever I needed to do to be happy. He said he loved me and he supported anything that I wanted to do. I was in tears. All of that fear I had was gone. After that, nothing else mattered.
I started therapy the following month. I had a difficult time finding a therapist due to the fact that I live in a small conservative city at the western edge of the Bible belt. I've had to travel a hundred miles for my transition needs. After three months I got my letter to start hormones. February, I came out to HR. March, started HRT. August, came out to my coworkers after getting my legal name change. September, I went full time. December, received my new birth certificate. Boy was that a busy year!
This year has been much slower. I started voice therapy a few months ago. It has been difficult for me as I'm rather an introvert. Next step is to finally get around to laser hair removal. I've been putting money aside for an orchiectomy. The surgeon requires 30 days smoke free, but am having a difficult time quitting smoking.
It's now June 2018, and I will be going to pride for the first time. I'm excited beyond belief!
Title: Re: Finally getting around to introducing myself
Post by: Northern Star Girl on June 09, 2018, 10:37:48 AM
Post by: Northern Star Girl on June 09, 2018, 10:37:48 AM
@StacyRenee
Hello StacyRenee
Thank you for coming to the Introductions Forum and writing your very informative and interesting introduction posting.
Yes, I do know that you have been around here for some time, I see that you signed up to become a member on Susan's Place at the end of June 2017 last year.
Please let me give you a belated WELCOME TO SUSAN'S PLACE As you have undoubtedly found by now, Susan's Place is a friendly and safe place to share your frustrations, your disappointments, and your successes with other like-minded members here. Also in the year that you have been a member you have undoubtedly made some new friends on the Forums.
Now that you posted your introduction you have made yourself known to many members here and you can expect more interaction and back-and-forth sharing of the issues that concern you.
Again, thank you for officially introducing yourself. Finally !!!!! Better late than never, as they say.
Just for the record I am also including the important and informational LINKS that will help you to continue utilizing the features of the Susan's site. If you have not done so lately you might give them a once-over to refresh your memory.
Again StacyRenee, thanks for being here on Susan's Place and thank you for sharing all of your past postings over this last year.
Hug and well wishes,
Danielle
Here are some links to the site rules and stuff that all members should be familiar with:
Hello StacyRenee
Thank you for coming to the Introductions Forum and writing your very informative and interesting introduction posting.
Yes, I do know that you have been around here for some time, I see that you signed up to become a member on Susan's Place at the end of June 2017 last year.
Please let me give you a belated WELCOME TO SUSAN'S PLACE As you have undoubtedly found by now, Susan's Place is a friendly and safe place to share your frustrations, your disappointments, and your successes with other like-minded members here. Also in the year that you have been a member you have undoubtedly made some new friends on the Forums.
Now that you posted your introduction you have made yourself known to many members here and you can expect more interaction and back-and-forth sharing of the issues that concern you.
Again, thank you for officially introducing yourself. Finally !!!!! Better late than never, as they say.
Just for the record I am also including the important and informational LINKS that will help you to continue utilizing the features of the Susan's site. If you have not done so lately you might give them a once-over to refresh your memory.
Again StacyRenee, thanks for being here on Susan's Place and thank you for sharing all of your past postings over this last year.
Hug and well wishes,
Danielle
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Title: Re: Finally getting around to introducing myself
Post by: V M on June 09, 2018, 01:20:43 PM
Post by: V M on June 09, 2018, 01:20:43 PM
Hi StacyRenee :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Finally getting around to introducing myself
Post by: Nova_Noelle on June 09, 2018, 01:36:15 PM
Post by: Nova_Noelle on June 09, 2018, 01:36:15 PM
Hi StacyRenee,
It's so nice to meet you!
Noelle
It's so nice to meet you!
Noelle