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So, I came out on social media a few days ago and it was liberating!

It was also extremely scary; I had my doubts about doing it right up until I pressed the 'Post' button. I recall tensing up as I clicked the mouse and having that "point of no return" feeling. There would be no going back...

I'm glad I did though, as something had to give - after a couple of years of figuring out if I was a crossdresser or someone who was transgender, or a potential transitioning person in the future. Having had the feeling that I was a 'girl on the inside' since the age of 5/6 though, I'm pretty sure where all this is going.

Absolutely everyone was supportive and sent me good wishes, good luck and commented on my bravery. If anyone slipped off my friends list, I didn't notice and wouldn't have cared if they did. The point was about 'walking with the truth' for myself. If it opens the door for others to follow, I'll be honoured and glad I played a part in that too.

As I'm a single parent, I have to consider the kid's reaction if I suddenly told them 'Dad was becoming a woman' and also the possible negative effect it could have in the school yard etc... and they've been through quite a lot already, due to a pending divorce. (Nothing to do with these issues.)

So, I may or may not transition in the future, but at least that door is now open to me and it won't be a major shock to anyone a year or 2 down the line. It feels like a first major step on the road at least...

Hugs & love,
Jenna xx

Congrats! It must feel so liberating. Good wishes on your journey.

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Congratulations Jenna
This is a huge step forward into the unknown and you should be proud of this major achievement. I could sense your anticipation and excitement once you hit the send button.
now you'll have the chance to talk about it more and feel more open and comfortable about it gaining confidence plus gaining other people's opinion and interacting is wonderful therapy.
plus you'll get to gain insight from others that are in a similar situation.
Certainly your child ads complexity to this equation.
I can see on one hand you don't want to affect your child's development by the ancient taboos that Society unfortunately still clings to. If you have to hold back your own desires for the betterment of your family  then I think that would be very honorable.
But then on the other hand all those feelings that you've been carrying since 5 or 6 years old could have reached a point of screaming to come out.
Everyone seems to have their own Tipping Point when they're inner identity can no longer be contained and must come out into reality.
I also had the same thoughts as you did at an early age but my Tipping Point took a half a century to come out.
I'm glad you've got the door cracked open now Jenna which implies you're going to go through it and whatever path you choose to go down I believe will be the right one because only you know your situation the best and I believe you will Choose Wisely.
I wish all the very best for you and your child's future love Tatiana

I did the same for much the same reasons. Though it was reaching the point that things would have become awkward anyway. It was very liberating, and scary! However as we meet and defeat these hurdles things get easier. :)

Congratulations and best wishes on your path to womanhood. I wish I had the courage to come out on my social media. You are so brave. Besides one of my siblings, the only other people or place anyone has seen my real identity and picture of me as a woman is here in Susan's Place. I figure if any of my family and friends see my identity on here then no big deal lol.

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you go girl! Im not even close to that stage yet, but im working on it. You are certainly brave for doing that post. And if people can't accept you, then they probably are not great friends to begin with!

Thanks everybody, that means so much ;-) xx

I did the same a few months ago and I agree it is very liberating. I too was scared to press the post button.  I probably spell checked and grammar checked it a dozen times. In the end I had a lot of support.  More than I thought.  Plus that first week I had about 20 friend requests. Rumors spread pretty quickly since I'm known as a practical joker at work. People that I didn't even know but see at work came up to say they were happy for me.  I guess we end up knowing more people than we think.

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Quote from: JennaBadgyrl on June 13, 2018, 11:11:22 AM
So, I came out on social media a few days ago and it was liberating!

It was also extremely scary; I had my doubts about doing it right up until I pressed the 'Post' button. I recall tensing up as I clicked the mouse and having that "point of no return" feeling. There would be no going back...

I'm glad I did though, as something had to give - after a couple of years of figuring out if I was a crossdresser or someone who was transgender, or a potential transitioning person in the future. Having had the feeling that I was a 'girl on the inside' since the age of 5/6 though, I'm pretty sure where all this is going.

Absolutely everyone was supportive and sent me good wishes, good luck and commented on my bravery. If anyone slipped off my friends list, I didn't notice and wouldn't have cared if they did. The point was about 'walking with the truth' for myself. If it opens the door for others to follow, I'll be honoured and glad I played a part in that too.

As I'm a single parent, I have to consider the kid's reaction if I suddenly told them 'Dad was becoming a woman' and also the possible negative effect it could have in the school yard etc... and they've been through quite a lot already, due to a pending divorce. (Nothing to do with these issues.)

So, I may or may not transition in the future, but at least that door is now open to me and it won't be a major shock to anyone a year or 2 down the line. It feels like a first major step on the road at least...

Hugs & love,
Jenna xx

Congratulations . Coming out is a huge step. You are braver then me. I closed my old account and made a new one. And I only wound up adding about 1/5 of the people from my old page.

Congratulations! It must feel very liberating. I will probably do the same today! Crossing my fingers.

Congratulations, educate your kids on trans issues and they will grow up supportive

Well I must admit, you coming out and telling us all seemed to have given me some courage because I came out to my Mom and two of my brothers today. Outside of being a bit shocked they all took it well. Better than I thought. Now to tell my only sister and one more transphobic/homophobic older brother. He never took it well when my little brother who is gay came out, although he does still love him and talk to him. Hopefully he'll eventually accept me as his sister. Thanks for giving me the courage to come out. Thanks to all the ladies here who help more than you know.

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Absolutely Wow Skylar! That's awesome and well done you!

I'm proud, honoured and grateful to have played a small part in your 'coming out' and moving forward on your path to being your true self. It does indeed take bravery, but the majority of people don't see it as a barrier and most said nothing had or would really change between me and them. I'm glad your family took it well. I guess we'll find out who the transphobes are further down the road, but they seem to be in the minority.

Great work!
Jenna xx

Congrats girls. I hope it lightens your load.

Another major milestone has passed - I've changed my pronoun to 'she' on Facebook. I've customised my gender setting as 'gender transcender' for now, as I'm doing this in small steps over a long period. I can change that to 'female' sometime further down the road. I've also requested a change in the spelling of my name to a more feminine version of my real name. All good, onwards & upwards ...

Quote from: JennaBadgyrl on July 08, 2018, 04:49:19 AM
Another major milestone has passed - I've changed my pronoun to 'she' on Facebook. I've customised my gender setting as 'gender transcender' for now, as I'm doing this in small steps over a long period. I can change that to 'female' sometime further down the road. I've also requested a change in the spelling of my name to a more feminine version of my real name. All good, onwards & upwards ...

Congratulations. It took forever for me to find out how to do that. And changed the URL address (which was facebook.com/malename). It sounds like we did it at very similar times, and when you press that button on facebook, and see there's no coming back, and see the first notification and notice that its a love heart its such a wonderful feeling isn't it! Good luck

Em