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Title: Hi everyone.
Post by: Julia1996 on July 01, 2018, 08:00:02 AM
Post by: Julia1996 on July 01, 2018, 08:00:02 AM
I hope everyone here has been doing well. I had GRS and I'm pretty much recovered though I still have some minor swelling. I can also pee pretty much normally now. I had no idea how difficult it would be to actually pee and have it go into the toilet rather than spraying all over. The surgery went very well. I was surprised by the fact I wasn't in a lot of pain. I was expecting a lot of pain after surgery but thankfully I didn't have a lot. My dad, Tristan and Tyler all came with me so I had my most loved loved ones with me which helped me not to be so scared.
Dilating is no fun and is still slightly uncomfortable but getting better. Dilating isn't fun but it's a small price to pay to be anatomically correct. It's also very nice that I can be completely nude in front of Tristan. We haven't had intercourse yet though. The Dr told me I needed to wait at least 6 months before I have sex. But I wouldn't have enough depth to take all of Tristan yet anyway. My grandparents came over as soon as we got back to Denver and my grandpa was very nice actually. Even my hateful uncle sent me flowers and a get well soon card. But no doubt it was his wife who was responsible. I totally can't see my uncle doing that. Of course every garden has to have one weed. My mom called my dad after we got back and asked him what the total cost had been. My surgery, airfare for 4 people, 2 hotel rooms and food expenses came to almost $28,000. My mom went nuts and asked my dad how he could "waste" that kind of money and told him he was an idiot and blah,blah until he hung up on her. Nice to know my mother considers something I needed to have a normal life a waste of money.
So that's what I've been up to for the last few weeks. I hope everyone here has been doing well.
Dilating is no fun and is still slightly uncomfortable but getting better. Dilating isn't fun but it's a small price to pay to be anatomically correct. It's also very nice that I can be completely nude in front of Tristan. We haven't had intercourse yet though. The Dr told me I needed to wait at least 6 months before I have sex. But I wouldn't have enough depth to take all of Tristan yet anyway. My grandparents came over as soon as we got back to Denver and my grandpa was very nice actually. Even my hateful uncle sent me flowers and a get well soon card. But no doubt it was his wife who was responsible. I totally can't see my uncle doing that. Of course every garden has to have one weed. My mom called my dad after we got back and asked him what the total cost had been. My surgery, airfare for 4 people, 2 hotel rooms and food expenses came to almost $28,000. My mom went nuts and asked my dad how he could "waste" that kind of money and told him he was an idiot and blah,blah until he hung up on her. Nice to know my mother considers something I needed to have a normal life a waste of money.
So that's what I've been up to for the last few weeks. I hope everyone here has been doing well.
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Charlie Nicki on July 01, 2018, 08:06:36 AM
Post by: Charlie Nicki on July 01, 2018, 08:06:36 AM
Hey Julia,
Glad to have you back. Congrats on the successful surgery.
Glad to have you back. Congrats on the successful surgery.
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Laurie on July 01, 2018, 08:23:55 AM
Post by: Laurie on July 01, 2018, 08:23:55 AM
Congratulations Julia! Glad the operation went well and that you are back home. I am also glad you returned here give us an update. Be well girl.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Hugs,
Laurie
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Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Charlotte F on July 01, 2018, 08:27:54 AM
Post by: Charlotte F on July 01, 2018, 08:27:54 AM
Congratulations Julia - I'm glad to hear it went so well
Charlotte x
Charlotte x
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Devlyn on July 01, 2018, 08:40:39 AM
Post by: Devlyn on July 01, 2018, 08:40:39 AM
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Congratulations, and speedy healing! :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Congratulations, and speedy healing! :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: zirconia on July 01, 2018, 08:43:36 AM
Post by: zirconia on July 01, 2018, 08:43:36 AM
Hi, Julia
I bet you must feel happy, and probably a bit relieved, even though it will still take a few months to fully heal.
It's nice to see you back. I've missed you...
I bet you must feel happy, and probably a bit relieved, even though it will still take a few months to fully heal.
It's nice to see you back. I've missed you...
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Northern Star Girl on July 01, 2018, 09:24:25 AM
Post by: Northern Star Girl on July 01, 2018, 09:24:25 AM
@Julia1996
Dear Julia:
Well wowzers!! You have returned... it is nice to see your smiling Avatar again and to hear that you are alive and well, and you are again sharing your life events with all of your followers and readers here on the Forums.
As we all know here from reviewing the various forums discussions, our own parents and immediate family can be the biggest difficulty and obstacle in acceptance of our transition goals. Please don't allow anger and resentment control your life. You can not control how they react but you have complete control of how you handle it.... unlike friends and acquaintances that can come and go, they will always be your mom and dad.
So, back to your welcome back..... you asked how everyone here is doing and what have we been up to.... well, we are still here, dealing with our own ups and downs... and we mostly have been doing well. Take some time, sit down on a comfy chair and with a cup of tea or coffee.... go though the member's threads that you have normally followed... and perhaps read some new threads too.
It is wonderful to see you again, and to hear your positive report about your medical procedures. Heal fast and please keep us updated.
Hugs and well wishes...
Danielle
Dear Julia:
Well wowzers!! You have returned... it is nice to see your smiling Avatar again and to hear that you are alive and well, and you are again sharing your life events with all of your followers and readers here on the Forums.
As we all know here from reviewing the various forums discussions, our own parents and immediate family can be the biggest difficulty and obstacle in acceptance of our transition goals. Please don't allow anger and resentment control your life. You can not control how they react but you have complete control of how you handle it.... unlike friends and acquaintances that can come and go, they will always be your mom and dad.
So, back to your welcome back..... you asked how everyone here is doing and what have we been up to.... well, we are still here, dealing with our own ups and downs... and we mostly have been doing well. Take some time, sit down on a comfy chair and with a cup of tea or coffee.... go though the member's threads that you have normally followed... and perhaps read some new threads too.
It is wonderful to see you again, and to hear your positive report about your medical procedures. Heal fast and please keep us updated.
Hugs and well wishes...
Danielle
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: sarah1972 on July 01, 2018, 10:41:16 AM
Post by: sarah1972 on July 01, 2018, 10:41:16 AM
Congratulations Julia! So happy for your successful surgery. Good to hear that it was somewhat painless and your recovery is going well. Hope the remainder of your recovery goes as well as everything else. So nice to see Tristan and Tyler being on your side through all this. Such kind of support is just outstanding.
Don't worry about your mom's comments. From the little bit you talked about your dad, he supported your surgery without any hesitation both mentally and financially. It is all a matter of how important such an expense is to anyone. We have spent almost $75k on non-trans related voluntary medical expenses and while it seems a lot, so far we have not regretted a single cent of it.
Good luck with the remainder of your recovery.
Don't worry about your mom's comments. From the little bit you talked about your dad, he supported your surgery without any hesitation both mentally and financially. It is all a matter of how important such an expense is to anyone. We have spent almost $75k on non-trans related voluntary medical expenses and while it seems a lot, so far we have not regretted a single cent of it.
Good luck with the remainder of your recovery.
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Jessica on July 01, 2018, 10:55:26 AM
Post by: Jessica on July 01, 2018, 10:55:26 AM
Congratulations Julia 🌸🌸🌸 I have missed you and it's wonderful things are going well for you!
Hugs, and hugs, and more hugs, Jess
Hugs, and hugs, and more hugs, Jess
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Jayne01 on July 01, 2018, 10:59:09 AM
Post by: Jayne01 on July 01, 2018, 10:59:09 AM
Hi Julia,
Welcome back. So glad your surgery went well and you are recovering with less pain than anticipated.
Hugs,
Jayne
Welcome back. So glad your surgery went well and you are recovering with less pain than anticipated.
Hugs,
Jayne
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: TonyaW on July 01, 2018, 10:59:29 AM
Post by: TonyaW on July 01, 2018, 10:59:29 AM
Congratulations and welcome back.
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Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: MissyMay2.0 on July 01, 2018, 11:32:47 AM
Post by: MissyMay2.0 on July 01, 2018, 11:32:47 AM
Congratulations😊
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: KathyLauren on July 01, 2018, 11:38:08 AM
Post by: KathyLauren on July 01, 2018, 11:38:08 AM
Congratulations, Julia! I am so glad that your recovery is going well.
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Ryuichi13 on July 01, 2018, 12:17:40 PM
Post by: Ryuichi13 on July 01, 2018, 12:17:40 PM
Don't worry about your mom. Maybe she's just jealous that your Dad spent that amount of money on his beloved daughter and not on her!
So glad everything went well for you and the family otherwise! Even with the aunt and uncle. So happy for you and Tristan too! Just take your time and heal well, okay? I know that kids your age seem to want to "jump into sex," but listen to your doctor. Do everything that they said to do, including the six month wait!
So thrilled that you're finally a woman "down there" and that your body matches you! :) Congrats!
Welcome back!
Ryuichi
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So glad everything went well for you and the family otherwise! Even with the aunt and uncle. So happy for you and Tristan too! Just take your time and heal well, okay? I know that kids your age seem to want to "jump into sex," but listen to your doctor. Do everything that they said to do, including the six month wait!
So thrilled that you're finally a woman "down there" and that your body matches you! :) Congrats!
Welcome back!
Ryuichi
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Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: davina61 on July 01, 2018, 12:26:28 PM
Post by: davina61 on July 01, 2018, 12:26:28 PM
Hi hon , nice to see you are doing well and it all went fine. Missed your witty posts and cooking. Big hugs from this side of the ditch XXXXXX Davina
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Megan. on July 01, 2018, 01:37:32 PM
Post by: Megan. on July 01, 2018, 01:37:32 PM
Congratulations Julia, I'm very happy for you, and glad those closest to you are supporting you, though they've already shown themselves to be great people.
I hope your recovery continues to go well. X
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I hope your recovery continues to go well. X
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Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: DawnOday on July 01, 2018, 03:06:21 PM
Post by: DawnOday on July 01, 2018, 03:06:21 PM
I am so happy for you I am starting to cry. So glad to hear from you again. You have a great family sans Mom. It's like when an angel gets it's wings and you can finally live life as the genuine Julia. Thanks for returning we missed you and hope you will continue to share your wonderful family experience with us.
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: StacyRenee on July 01, 2018, 04:30:03 PM
Post by: StacyRenee on July 01, 2018, 04:30:03 PM
Congrats, darlin! Good to hear you're recovery is going well. Keep us all updated on your progress.
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Janes Groove on July 01, 2018, 04:37:00 PM
Post by: Janes Groove on July 01, 2018, 04:37:00 PM
Congratulations. Very happy for you. :)
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: RobynD on July 01, 2018, 06:43:13 PM
Post by: RobynD on July 01, 2018, 06:43:13 PM
So awesome! Congrats
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: HappyMoni on July 01, 2018, 07:08:22 PM
Post by: HappyMoni on July 01, 2018, 07:08:22 PM
You were missed. So happy for you. You are an awesome young woman and I wish you much happiness.
Moni
Moni
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Michelle_P on July 01, 2018, 08:28:50 PM
Post by: Michelle_P on July 01, 2018, 08:28:50 PM
Hi, Julia! It's good to hear from you again. I was happy to read of your GCS success, and the very positive company you had of your dad, Tristan and Tyler. Support is so important in recovery.
Thank you for posting and letting us know. We appreciate it!
Michelle
Thank you for posting and letting us know. We appreciate it!
Michelle
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: steph2.0 on July 01, 2018, 10:45:27 PM
Post by: steph2.0 on July 01, 2018, 10:45:27 PM
Julia! It's so good to see you here again. You have definitely been missed. And joyful congratulations for becoming complete!
Wow! Such happy!
Stephanie
Wow! Such happy!
Stephanie
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: cargurl72 on July 01, 2018, 10:54:22 PM
Post by: cargurl72 on July 01, 2018, 10:54:22 PM
Congrats. So glad everything went well. Glad to see you're back.
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: pamelatransuk on July 02, 2018, 06:34:40 AM
Post by: pamelatransuk on July 02, 2018, 06:34:40 AM
I am so happy your surgery went well, Julia and that the pain was not so severe.
I am glad you have family support in the main and wish you a speedy recovery.
In your own time, you will have many threads on Susans to read as you choose.
Congratulations and Hugs
Pamela
I am glad you have family support in the main and wish you a speedy recovery.
In your own time, you will have many threads on Susans to read as you choose.
Congratulations and Hugs
Pamela
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: MaryT on July 02, 2018, 06:54:52 AM
Post by: MaryT on July 02, 2018, 06:54:52 AM
Hi Julia,
It's wonderful that your GRS went well.
I am so sorry that your mother thinks that something that makes you happy is a waste of money. I can understand you not wanting to forgive your uncle, either, after all of his harassment but perhaps he will let up now that he knows that it is too late to stop you.
It's great to have you back and I hope to read more when you have the time and energy to post.
It's wonderful that your GRS went well.
I am so sorry that your mother thinks that something that makes you happy is a waste of money. I can understand you not wanting to forgive your uncle, either, after all of his harassment but perhaps he will let up now that he knows that it is too late to stop you.
It's great to have you back and I hope to read more when you have the time and energy to post.
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Allison S on July 02, 2018, 07:15:12 AM
Post by: Allison S on July 02, 2018, 07:15:12 AM
I know we don't know each other, but it's a relief. Best of luck with the rest of your recovery [emoji173] nothing is sweeter than support when you need it most [emoji4]
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Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Andi H on July 03, 2018, 07:47:21 AM
Post by: Andi H on July 03, 2018, 07:47:21 AM
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Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Paige on July 03, 2018, 03:14:17 PM
Post by: Paige on July 03, 2018, 03:14:17 PM
Congrats Julia. We've missed you. I'm glad it went so well 😊 😊 😊 😊
Paige 😊
Paige 😊
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: annaleaver on July 03, 2018, 03:33:15 PM
Post by: annaleaver on July 03, 2018, 03:33:15 PM
Yay, congratulations :)
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Sonja on July 03, 2018, 06:50:13 PM
Post by: Sonja on July 03, 2018, 06:50:13 PM
Congratulations Julia! We all missed you but I'm glad it went well, awesome that you had support for this!
Are you back in the kitchen baking yet? Looking forward to seeing some of the strange & wonderful food you make!
Take care,
Sonja X
Are you back in the kitchen baking yet? Looking forward to seeing some of the strange & wonderful food you make!
Take care,
Sonja X
Title: Re: Hi everyone.
Post by: Artesia on July 08, 2018, 03:17:33 PM
Post by: Artesia on July 08, 2018, 03:17:33 PM
Welcome back! I'm glad you are doing well. Congratulations on your surgery! Take care.