Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Post operative life => Topic started by: Violet on August 09, 2018, 11:10:09 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Sitting at the Rainbow
Post by: Violet on August 09, 2018, 11:10:09 PM
Post by: Violet on August 09, 2018, 11:10:09 PM
Now that I am finally a Transsexual Woman and my Transition is complete I find myself faced with a difficult decision - Do I now bury my Past?
I dream of moving to a new town where nobody knows of my past and pre-transition. They would only know me as a Woman. I could possibly keep my secret as long as I never became intimately involved with someone. Should Cupid strike though I would feel obligated to disclose my Past.
Currently I am in a dead end relationship with a guy. He doesn't act like a man in love with me and we don't do very much together. In bed he is a hermit! I do not see a future with him. He admitted to liking me better when I had a Penis! What a D**K!
My Counselor seems to have lost interest in me a while back. The only thing keeping me here is my Church family, but the gypsy in me wants to move as soon as I am healed from last month's vaginoplasty.
I want to leave and start a new life, but the question remains - Do I bury my Past??
Your advice is much appreciated ♥ ♥ ♥
I dream of moving to a new town where nobody knows of my past and pre-transition. They would only know me as a Woman. I could possibly keep my secret as long as I never became intimately involved with someone. Should Cupid strike though I would feel obligated to disclose my Past.
Currently I am in a dead end relationship with a guy. He doesn't act like a man in love with me and we don't do very much together. In bed he is a hermit! I do not see a future with him. He admitted to liking me better when I had a Penis! What a D**K!
My Counselor seems to have lost interest in me a while back. The only thing keeping me here is my Church family, but the gypsy in me wants to move as soon as I am healed from last month's vaginoplasty.
I want to leave and start a new life, but the question remains - Do I bury my Past??
Your advice is much appreciated ♥ ♥ ♥
Title: Re: Sitting at the Rainbow
Post by: Jessica on August 10, 2018, 12:05:18 AM
Post by: Jessica on August 10, 2018, 12:05:18 AM
Hi Violet 🌸🌸🌸
There is a member here on Susan's Place that did exactly that. The only thing was only her hygienist knew for sure.
I can be done, considering hippa.
Hugs and smiles, Jessica
There is a member here on Susan's Place that did exactly that. The only thing was only her hygienist knew for sure.
I can be done, considering hippa.
Hugs and smiles, Jessica
Title: Re: Sitting at the Rainbow
Post by: Violet on August 10, 2018, 11:19:49 AM
Post by: Violet on August 10, 2018, 11:19:49 AM
Hi Jessica! I never considered the hygienist. Would that be the Dentist or Gynecologist? Even still perhaps a big city would be my best place to move. More anonymity I think and I am a City Girl anyways.
Love always seems to find me no matter how hard I try to stay single. Someone always comes along. Romance seems to be the biggest decision regarding full disclosure, but only if things become intimate. Tough choice isn't it?
Love, Violet
Love always seems to find me no matter how hard I try to stay single. Someone always comes along. Romance seems to be the biggest decision regarding full disclosure, but only if things become intimate. Tough choice isn't it?
Love, Violet
Quote from: Jessica on August 10, 2018, 12:05:18 AM
Hi Violet 🌸🌸🌸
There is a member here on Susan's Place that did exactly that. The only thing was only her hygienist knew for sure.
I can be done, considering hippa.
Hugs and smiles, Jessica
Title: Re: Sitting at the Rainbow
Post by: ShotGal on August 13, 2018, 03:17:13 PM
Post by: ShotGal on August 13, 2018, 03:17:13 PM
Unless it's a very small town you're in, just discontinue the circles you move in and get on with life without moving.
A new town would be good if you're going to always run into people who "know" - and you prefer to not be seen/labeled.
Of course with moving there's finding new employment - unless you're retired or self sufficient.
The way you phrased it - "finally...." - tends to make me say, give it time. A lot of time. Then decide.
I do think that "moving" should be for going to something - versus to get away from something.
Set some short and long term goals!
A new town would be good if you're going to always run into people who "know" - and you prefer to not be seen/labeled.
Of course with moving there's finding new employment - unless you're retired or self sufficient.
The way you phrased it - "finally...." - tends to make me say, give it time. A lot of time. Then decide.
I do think that "moving" should be for going to something - versus to get away from something.
Set some short and long term goals!
Title: Re: Sitting at the Rainbow
Post by: Violet on August 13, 2018, 04:41:53 PM
Post by: Violet on August 13, 2018, 04:41:53 PM
Good advice! Thank You ShotGal ♥ I have always been a Rambler, but it might be good to settle down here in my small town. Those that know of my past are alright with it. On the other hand I am retired and am so used to moving around, but I am older now with less energy! LOL
Quote from: ShotGal on August 13, 2018, 03:17:13 PM
Unless it's a very small town you're in, just discontinue the circles you move in and get on with life without moving.
A new town would be good if you're going to always run into people who "know" - and you prefer to not be seen/labeled.
Of course with moving there's finding new employment - unless you're retired or self sufficient.
The way you phrased it - "finally...." - tends to make me say, give it time. A lot of time. Then decide.
I do think that "moving" should be for going to something - versus to get away from something.
Set some short and long term goals!
Title: Re: Sitting at the Rainbow
Post by: Sarah1979 on August 16, 2018, 12:14:29 PM
Post by: Sarah1979 on August 16, 2018, 12:14:29 PM
I've thought about this a lot for my post operative life... seems so very far away... but anyway, I think it's largely up to what it will take for you to reduce your dysphoria to an acceptable level. If you can do that without having to relocate, it would be easiest to stay where you are, if you can't, rent a truck and move girl!
Title: Re: Sitting at the Rainbow
Post by: Violet on August 16, 2018, 11:29:36 PM
Post by: Violet on August 16, 2018, 11:29:36 PM
Dysphoria is all gone thanks to my SRS. Now with all the healing time that I need it looks like I will stay a while longer.🌹
Quote from: Sarah1979 on August 16, 2018, 12:14:29 PM
I've thought about this a lot for my post operative life... seems so very far away... but anyway, I think it's largely up to what it will take for you to reduce your dysphoria to an acceptable level. If you can do that without having to relocate, it would be easiest to stay where you are, if you can't, rent a truck and move girl!