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Title: Nothing I Wear Feels Right
Post by: Reyes on October 26, 2018, 01:56:29 PM
Post by: Reyes on October 26, 2018, 01:56:29 PM
Okay so I'm going crazy here, I've been on hormones now I think a year and 7 months, and I've been wearing women's clothing this whole time, but even now, NOTHING ever feels right.
Well, not nothing, I know I like jeans, and I know I like boots. But when it comes to a top, I just, I'm going crazy here. I have tried every style of clothing I would actually wear, cause anything revealing or sleeveless is just a no for me, don't like that. Don't like girly clothes either I guess I should mention.
But like, I've spent so much money on tops this whole time, and I hate all of it. I don't know why. Some days I like what I'm wearing, but more often then not I just get this dysphoric feeling and I'm changing my shirt over and over trying to find one that feels right and none of them do.
Honestly I'm kinda at a lose here, how am I supposed to find my style if nothing works??
Well, not nothing, I know I like jeans, and I know I like boots. But when it comes to a top, I just, I'm going crazy here. I have tried every style of clothing I would actually wear, cause anything revealing or sleeveless is just a no for me, don't like that. Don't like girly clothes either I guess I should mention.
But like, I've spent so much money on tops this whole time, and I hate all of it. I don't know why. Some days I like what I'm wearing, but more often then not I just get this dysphoric feeling and I'm changing my shirt over and over trying to find one that feels right and none of them do.
Honestly I'm kinda at a lose here, how am I supposed to find my style if nothing works??
Title: Re: Nothing I Wear Feels Right
Post by: sarahc on October 26, 2018, 02:50:16 PM
Post by: sarahc on October 26, 2018, 02:50:16 PM
I'm way behind you in transition, but I've done some experimenting, and I am like you in that I am very picky about tops.
What I've come to conclude is the instead of trying to find the perfect top, I have had more success sticking with a simple top and then accessorizing it. So I'll take a very simple (but high quality) 3/4 white cotton jewelneck tee (I also keep arms covered) but then I'll add a scarf or a tailored cardigan or a shawl. Add a simple necklace it looks really nice with either jeans or dressier pants or midi skirt.
So that's what I'm kinda transitioning my shopping to: shifting largely to basics for tops but then using accessories or partial covers to make it interesting.
What I've come to conclude is the instead of trying to find the perfect top, I have had more success sticking with a simple top and then accessorizing it. So I'll take a very simple (but high quality) 3/4 white cotton jewelneck tee (I also keep arms covered) but then I'll add a scarf or a tailored cardigan or a shawl. Add a simple necklace it looks really nice with either jeans or dressier pants or midi skirt.
So that's what I'm kinda transitioning my shopping to: shifting largely to basics for tops but then using accessories or partial covers to make it interesting.
Title: Re: Nothing I Wear Feels Right
Post by: Northern Star Girl on October 26, 2018, 02:58:19 PM
Post by: Northern Star Girl on October 26, 2018, 02:58:19 PM
@sarahc @Reyes
Dear Ladies; Women's tops can be very difficult to get accustomed to.... sleeveless tops, low cut tops, bare back tops, crop tops, racerback tops, strappy tops, etc... and unless you select styles carefully most women's tops are tighter fitting..... these things can take time to start feeling like they feel right.
The good news is that there are women's tops that look more like and fit more like the men's style tops that you might feel more comfortable wearing, but of course you may miss out on the lace, frills and skin bearing features.
It is for sure that more shopping and trying on may be in order for you.
Hugs,
Danielle
Dear Ladies; Women's tops can be very difficult to get accustomed to.... sleeveless tops, low cut tops, bare back tops, crop tops, racerback tops, strappy tops, etc... and unless you select styles carefully most women's tops are tighter fitting..... these things can take time to start feeling like they feel right.
The good news is that there are women's tops that look more like and fit more like the men's style tops that you might feel more comfortable wearing, but of course you may miss out on the lace, frills and skin bearing features.
It is for sure that more shopping and trying on may be in order for you.
Hugs,
Danielle
Title: Re: Nothing I Wear Feels Right
Post by: KathyLauren on October 26, 2018, 03:32:01 PM
Post by: KathyLauren on October 26, 2018, 03:32:01 PM
Do you shop on your own? It may help to go shopping with someone. (It's also a lot of fun!) Someone else can tell you if something looks good on you, or can suggest items that will look good.
I'd be lost if I didn't have my wife along to help me!
I'd be lost if I didn't have my wife along to help me!