General Discussions => General discussions => ARGHHH! => Topic started by: AnamethatstartswithE on November 30, 2018, 07:05:30 PM Return to Full Version
Title: dead named by someone I just met
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on November 30, 2018, 07:05:30 PM
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on November 30, 2018, 07:05:30 PM
So at work I am doing a slightly different job from normal for a couple of weeks. On Wednesday I first met one of the people I'm coordinating with, he referred to me with my current name both Wednesday and Thursday. After our planning meeting he approached me to change something in the schedule. I did it and he said "thank you [deadname]"
I'm sure someone else told him that, and it doesn't help that a lot of people slip up with pronouns a lot. This isn't the first time I've had to deal with people who should know better doing that.
I just needed to vent, it's still bugging me.
I'm sure someone else told him that, and it doesn't help that a lot of people slip up with pronouns a lot. This isn't the first time I've had to deal with people who should know better doing that.
I just needed to vent, it's still bugging me.
Title: Re: dead named by someone I just met
Post by: Stevie on November 30, 2018, 07:11:27 PM
Post by: Stevie on November 30, 2018, 07:11:27 PM
If this person had no experience with you prior to transition then it was done with some degree of malevolence.
Title: Re: dead named by someone I just met
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on November 30, 2018, 07:50:55 PM
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on November 30, 2018, 07:50:55 PM
Quote from: Stevie on November 30, 2018, 07:11:27 PM
If this person had no experience with you prior to transition then it was done with some degree of malevolence.
Honestly I don't think it was. I'm guessing that up close I'm not 100% passing, so me having a male name made sense to him and his brain did it unconsciously.