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Title: First time at work with binder on
Post by: MeTony on December 16, 2018, 02:19:15 PM
Post by: MeTony on December 16, 2018, 02:19:15 PM
Last tuesday was the first day with a binder on at work. Noone said a word about it. I was sure someone comment my missing upper parts. Maybe people don't see them. Lol. Only I do.
Tomorrow...I will do it again.
Another great thing. I don't wash my binders secretly anymore. My husband has seen them hanging to dry.
He's not so keen on my transition. But it's a path I need to walk.
Tony
Tomorrow...I will do it again.
Another great thing. I don't wash my binders secretly anymore. My husband has seen them hanging to dry.
He's not so keen on my transition. But it's a path I need to walk.
Tony
Title: Re: First time at work with binder on
Post by: mr_marc91 on December 16, 2018, 02:25:37 PM
Post by: mr_marc91 on December 16, 2018, 02:25:37 PM
They're uncomfortable for shift work, especially when it's a 14 hour shift lol.
But I don't really bother wearing them if I can help it as I can get away with out one with a hoody on thankfully :icon_cool:
But I don't really bother wearing them if I can help it as I can get away with out one with a hoody on thankfully :icon_cool:
Title: Re: First time at work with binder on
Post by: Ryuichi13 on December 16, 2018, 10:12:04 PM
Post by: Ryuichi13 on December 16, 2018, 10:12:04 PM
*snip*
Honestly, you hit the nail on the head. Hopefully, you can find a therapist that can help him realize that you may need to transition in order to be happy with yourself. The decision to transition is one that only you can make. You shouldn't have to hide who you are from him. If he can't accept the real you, then maybe discussions and couples therapy is the way to go.
And congrats on wearing your binder at work! I find mine to be pretty comfy for the most part, but not everyone feels that way.
Whatever path you take, good luck.
Ryuichi
Quote from: MeTony on December 16, 2018, 02:19:15 PMit's a path I need to walk.
Honestly, you hit the nail on the head. Hopefully, you can find a therapist that can help him realize that you may need to transition in order to be happy with yourself. The decision to transition is one that only you can make. You shouldn't have to hide who you are from him. If he can't accept the real you, then maybe discussions and couples therapy is the way to go.
And congrats on wearing your binder at work! I find mine to be pretty comfy for the most part, but not everyone feels that way.
Whatever path you take, good luck.
Ryuichi
Title: Re: First time at work with binder on
Post by: Northern Star Girl on December 16, 2018, 10:22:02 PM
Post by: Northern Star Girl on December 16, 2018, 10:22:02 PM
@MeTony
Dear Tony:
Thanks for posting and sharing your thoughts.
Continue on with your apparently successful efforts to build your self-assurance and continue to increase your self-confidence at your work, at your home and in your personal relationships.
I am so very happy for you and have enjoyed your positive postings and photos.
We are your biggest fans and we are always rooting for you.
You can count on our support.
Thank you for your frequent posts, comments and updates.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Dear Tony:
Thanks for posting and sharing your thoughts.
Continue on with your apparently successful efforts to build your self-assurance and continue to increase your self-confidence at your work, at your home and in your personal relationships.
I am so very happy for you and have enjoyed your positive postings and photos.
We are your biggest fans and we are always rooting for you.
You can count on our support.
Thank you for your frequent posts, comments and updates.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Quote from: MeTony on December 16, 2018, 02:19:15 PM
Last tuesday was the first day with a binder on at work. Noone said a word about it. I was sure someone comment my missing upper parts. Maybe people don't see them. Lol. Only I do.
Tomorrow...I will do it again.
Another great thing. I don't wash my binders secretly anymore. My husband has seen them hanging to dry.
He's not so keen on my transition. But it's a path I need to walk.
Tony
Title: Re: First time at work with binder on
Post by: MeTony on December 16, 2018, 11:49:42 PM
Post by: MeTony on December 16, 2018, 11:49:42 PM
Thank you people.
I wish I could hide my undesired parts with a hoodie. But I have a G-cup.
I work shift too. 12-13 hours. Have a bra with me, just in case I need to change. My binder I wear at work is one size bigger than a snug fit.
Thank you Danielle, you are always so supportive. I send you a huge holiday hug.
Tony
I wish I could hide my undesired parts with a hoodie. But I have a G-cup.
I work shift too. 12-13 hours. Have a bra with me, just in case I need to change. My binder I wear at work is one size bigger than a snug fit.
Thank you Danielle, you are always so supportive. I send you a huge holiday hug.
Tony
Title: Re: First time at work with binder on
Post by: mm on December 21, 2018, 02:04:54 PM
Post by: mm on December 21, 2018, 02:04:54 PM
MeTony, You probably best going with a larger size, being a G and working a longer shift. mr_marc91, I like to go with a sports bra and hoodie in the winter when I can, can't go without nothing as I don't like the bouncing feeling all day.