Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everyone!   :)

For context, I am 22 years old, and would regularly tell my parents as a young child that I wanted to be a girl when I grew up. I'm at square one of transition, pre-hrt, haven't chosen a name etc.

The path I'd like to take is to come out to my dad, select friends and then begin HRT and undergo a slowish step by step transition. Here's my first draft of my letter to my Dad. I really want to keep it short and open. Let me know what you think?
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Dad,

Part of me wonders if you have been expecting this day since I was younger, but that doesn't make it any easier in writing to you. Growing up, I've always felt different. Like my body doesn't match who I am, and right now it's proving painful hiding who I am any longer.

Over the past few weeks I have been speaking to a private GP who specialises in Gender Dysphoria and thinking deeply about how I want to live my life. Our chats over Christmas about reaching later life and having lifelong regret is something that I absolutely do not want to go through, and why now is the perfect time to start living as my authentic self.

I've decided to begin a transition to match my external sense of gender to my internal sense, which is female. This will be a slow journey, but it is a journey I'd like you to be a part of. The next steps in my journey are ones of experimenting, re-finding myself and learning to love myself. Hormone Replacement Therapy is on my radar, and something I'd like to begin to kickstart my medical transition. I have some .pdf information I can send you for more info about that.

It's still early days, and I have no big reveal planned. No a-ha moment. I'm just asking that you start this journey with me. Your love and guidance has helped shape the path to where I am today, and only hope that will continue to go on in the future.

I know this might be a lot to digest, but I am still myself and I love you. For the time being, I've deactivated some of my social accounts and ask that you contact me via email (on xxxxx) and keep this to yourself.

Love,

I think you have written a very nice, thoughtful letter.  Short and sweet. 

I don't know if you intended to limit response to email, or if phone is an additional option - just mentioning in case that was an oversight. 

One other thing I noticed is the acronym GP - not everyone knows that's a General Practitioner or General Physician.  I'd replace GP with physician.

I didn't use a letter when I had this conversation with my parents 18 months ago, but a letter often works best.  Great letter, and thank you for sharing. 

Kendra

It's a good letter, my hope is that this will bring you and your dad even closer.

Quote from: Kendra on January 03, 2019, 06:40:57 PM
I think you have written a very nice, thoughtful letter.  Short and sweet. 

I don't know if you intended to limit response to email, or if phone is an additional option - just mentioning in case that was an oversight. 

One other thing I noticed is the acronym GP - not everyone knows that's a General Practitioner or General Physician.  I'd replace GP with physician.

I didn't use a letter when I had this conversation with my parents 18 months ago, but a letter often works best.  Great letter, and thank you for sharing. 

Kendra

Thankyou so much kendra :)
Maybe I should have mentioned I'm from the U.K. so we almost exclusively use GP here rather than the full term :)

I will also add that bit about phone!
Thanks again :)

Quote from: Janes Groove on January 03, 2019, 10:00:17 PM
It's a good letter, my hope is that this will bring you and your dad even closer.

Thankyou Jane :)
I hope so too.