Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi. I'm new (obviously) but have been lurking on and off for a while. I actually first found this site years ago, but I was still in denial then. I officially started my journey on December 7th, 2018 with my first HRT dose. I wish so much I had started earlier, but I bet I'm not alone in that.

I'm 35, turning 36 next month. I have a really good job that I enjoy but am worried about transitioning on the job. The hardest things is that I'm married. Luckily we don't have any kids, but I know I am a huge ->-bleeped-<- for getting married at all. I don't have the excuse that I didn't know I was trans, I've know I should have been a girl for as long as I can remember. What I didn't know was that I would reach the point where I couldn't keep hiding it. I really thought I could just keep burying my dysphoria. I knew I would never be 100% happy, but I thought I could be OK. Obviously I wasn't so here I am. We are trying to work out things but I don't know if its going to last. I love her so much, and I believe she loves me, but I don't know if we will remain compatible as I transition to who I am supposed to be.

Sorry I got so heavy in my first post! I was just going to introduce myself, but here I am. I'm very excited to be on hormones and am kind of obsessing over everything to do with my transition right now. I am glad to be part of this community.

Welcome Dana,
    I'm sure you'll find a path where you can both be happy and where you can become the woman you've always wanted to be.  Enjoy the journey and stay positive.
Deb

Thanks Deb. I appreciate the welcome.

Quote from: Dana Thompson on January 20, 2019, 04:26:27 PM
Hi. I'm new (obviously) but have been lurking on and off for a while. I actually first found this site years ago, but I was still in denial then. I officially started my journey on December 7th, 2018 with my first HRT dose. I wish so much I had started earlier, but I bet I'm not alone in that.

I'm 35, turning 36 next month. I have a really good job that I enjoy but am worried about transitioning on the job. The hardest things is that I'm married. Luckily we don't have any kids, but I know I am a huge ->-bleeped-<- for getting married at all. I don't have the excuse that I didn't know I was trans, I've know I should have been a girl for as long as I can remember. What I didn't know was that I would reach the point where I couldn't keep hiding it. I really thought I could just keep burying my dysphoria. I knew I would never be 100% happy, but I thought I could be OK. Obviously I wasn't so here I am. We are trying to work out things but I don't know if its going to last. I love her so much, and I believe she loves me, but I don't know if we will remain compatible as I transition to who I am supposed to be.

Sorry I got so heavy in my first post! I was just going to introduce myself, but here I am. I'm very excited to be on hormones and am kind of obsessing over everything to do with my transition right now. I am glad to be part of this community.

@Dana Thompson
Dear Dana:
        I am so very happy to see that you have departed the "Lurker Zone" and have now joined Susan's Place and that you have submitted your first posting on the Forums.
I am also happy for you that you started your transition journey with HRT last month.  I will be eagerly looking for your updates as you continue on.

    As you post here on the forums you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you are.

    This is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation as you continue to feel free to share it.

    I also want to warmly WELCOME you to Susan's Place. 
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you are certainly aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
     ***There is a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new like-minded friends here. 

    Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
   
    There is information and important LINKS that I have included below.   You will find information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.   
Please look closely at the LINKS in RED, answers are there to many questions that new members ask.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle

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Dana,


     Welcome!    :)


Chrissy

Hi Dana  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

Thanks everyone. Happy to be here!

<grin> you started HRT 1 month exactly after I did, and 15 years younger.

Grats! and welcome!

Welcome Dana, it's a pleasure to meet you.  I'm also relatively new to medically transitioning.  It's been a wild journey so far.  There's been a lot of change, ups and a few downs but the best decision I've made in years.  Thanks for sharing a bit of your life. Hope to hear more in the future.

Take Care,
Susan R🌷

Hello Dana

Welcome aboard   Im glad you took the time to introduce yourself. Hang in there and maybe your wife will come around. My wife (of 30 years) is about 85% onboard.   

Cheers

Hello Dana and welcome.  I'm fairly new here as well.  I certainly wish you luck with the relationship concerns.  Who knows?  Hopefully it works out better then you imagine.  Ditto to work concerns.  Its a changing world and I think its better in some ways. 

Welcome!

Sorry to hear about your relationship issues.  I think the only  way to fix her understandable trust issues is to be as honest as possible with her.