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Title: New and confused...
Post by: KarenWinter on May 02, 2019, 06:52:57 PM
Hi all,

Just registered, but I've been lurking in the forums for a while. I'm late 40's married and male, but wondering if at least one of those descriptions might need to change.

Been dressing in women's clothes for a long as I can remember, in a familiar cycle of activity and purging. Always wondered about my sexuality but recently have started to wonder if it is a gender issue.

To be honest I don't know where I am, but the more I read on here the more I think other people here have had the same thoughts, feelings and needs.

Karen is my chosen name, say hi. I'm new. And a little lost.
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: Alice V on May 02, 2019, 07:01:51 PM
Aww, don't be lost, Karen, welcome :)
Be sure you aren't alone and people here actually had same thoughts or even still have it ;) Here we have support for both transgenders (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,4.0.html) and crossdressers (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,23.0.html) - enjoy :)
In a few moments other people will give you bunch of links, reading them will help you a bit.
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: KathyLauren on May 02, 2019, 07:32:42 PM
Hi, Karen!

Welcome to Susan's Place.

Relax, you are in the right place!  Your story sounds like a lot of members' stories.  I had quite a few buy and purge cycles, until I realized at age 61 that I had to do something about it.

Here is some information that we like to share with new members:

Things that you should read




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Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: KarenWinter on May 02, 2019, 08:17:15 PM
Thanks. Feel like I have a lot of exploring to do, both here and in life.
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: Janes Groove on May 02, 2019, 08:29:05 PM
Welcome to Susan's Karen. 
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: Northern Star Girl on May 02, 2019, 08:41:16 PM
Quote from: KarenWinter on May 02, 2019, 06:52:57 PM
Hi all,

Just registered, but I've been lurking in the forums for a while. I'm late 40's married and male, but wondering if at least one of those descriptions might need to change.

Been dressing in women's clothes for a long as I can remember, in a familiar cycle of activity and purging. Always wondered about my sexuality but recently have started to wonder if it is a gender issue.

To be honest I don't know where I am, but the more I read on here the more I think other people here have had the same thoughts, feelings and needs.

Karen is my chosen name, say hi. I'm new. And a little lost.

@KarenWinter 
Dear Karen
     I am so very glad that you have come out of the LURKER ZONE, become a member here and that you have started posting in the Forums.
     
    As you continue to post on the forums you will be able to exchange thoughts and comments with others that are experiencing many of the same things that you are.   I expect that you will be getting many members offering their thoughts and suggestions as you continue to post here. 
   
     For sure this is the right place for you to be to find out what others may have to say that may have been in your circumstances and with your questions and concerns.
    There are a lot of members here that will be able to identify with your situation and as you continue to feel free to share with all of us.

     I see that our lovely member @KathyLauren  has already given you a big WELCOME ...
...but please allow me to also warmly WELCOME you to Susan's Place
You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.

    As you are certainly aware you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other like-minded members.  When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. .... There is a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new like-minded friends here on the Forums.
     Please come in and continue to be involved at your own pace.
   
    Attached at the end of  KathyLauren's  Welcome Message are important and informative LINKS that will help you to navigate around the Forums and will allow you to enjoy the features here.     
Please look closely at the LINKS in RED, answers are there to many questions that new members ask.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place.
Danielle
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: CynthiaAnn on May 02, 2019, 08:45:12 PM
Welcome Karen, and this is a great site to explore yourself...

Cynthia -
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: V M on May 02, 2019, 09:16:36 PM
Hi Karen  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: Bea1968 on May 03, 2019, 10:29:44 AM
Welcome Karen,

I am 50. I'm in my second marriage and have dressed since a child.  The Dysphoria caused me to question my sexual orientation and I explored that a bit but after a few uneasy and unsatisfying experiences I sought out therapy where my dysphoria was diagnosed and is now being addressed.  Living in a world unsure of anything including yourself can feel lonely and crazy at times.  Don't be either.  What you feel is normal. 

Best regards,

Bea
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: KarenWinter on May 03, 2019, 04:48:42 PM
Thanks again to all the people that have welcomed me.

Danielle - I confess to having read all of your thread (new and old) in my lurking days. You are beautiful inside and out.

Bea - you seem to be speaking my thoughts. How is everything going for you now? How did it feel to discuss disphoria and did you immediately recognize this as the cause or did it take time to accept?

K.
Title: Re: New and confused...
Post by: MeTony on May 05, 2019, 08:22:53 AM
Welcome Karen!

You made the right decision to not be a lurker anymore. This is a great place to find a  direction in life that feels right for you.

I am also 40+. Married. 2 teenagers.


Tony