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Title: Possible Intersex descovery
Post by: Hache on May 28, 2019, 11:15:54 PM
Post by: Hache on May 28, 2019, 11:15:54 PM
I think my girlfriend is intersex. Been dating her on an off. I realy got a close look when she spend 4 days with me up in the mountains. I love her and explained my discovery to her. She said we talk more when we be together for more time. She has a hard time trusting anyone. And this has opened up a lot of questions fot me.. i need help on how to procede cause i love her the way she is
Title: Re: Possible Intersex descovery
Post by: Lexxi on May 28, 2019, 11:25:08 PM
Post by: Lexxi on May 28, 2019, 11:25:08 PM
Hi Hache,
I just wanted to welcome you to Susan's Place. I have no experience with intersex though. But I will say that if you like her just give her time and she'll probably start trusting you. I wouldn't pressure her or anything like that. She'll tell you everything you need to know when she's ready.
Good luck!!
Lexxi
I just wanted to welcome you to Susan's Place. I have no experience with intersex though. But I will say that if you like her just give her time and she'll probably start trusting you. I wouldn't pressure her or anything like that. She'll tell you everything you need to know when she's ready.
Good luck!!
Lexxi
Title: Re: Possible Intersex descovery
Post by: Dena on May 28, 2019, 11:34:43 PM
Post by: Dena on May 28, 2019, 11:34:43 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. The best way to gain her trust is never to lie or mislead her. I don't know is an acceptable answer if you don't really know. As you mentioned intersex, probably the best thing to do would be to print off what you find or provide links so that she can make up her own mind and verify the information with her doctor.
She probably has been hurt in the past and the only way you can gain her trust is to prove that you're different and deserve her trust. It will be a slow process but given enough time you should be able to gain her trust.
She probably has been hurt in the past and the only way you can gain her trust is to prove that you're different and deserve her trust. It will be a slow process but given enough time you should be able to gain her trust.
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Title: Re: Possible Intersex descovery
Post by: Robbyv213 on May 24, 2024, 05:20:05 PM
Post by: Robbyv213 on May 24, 2024, 05:20:05 PM
My only suggestion is if you love and care about her. Just continue to be consistent, continue to do everything the same way from day one. Keep showing up for her and the relationship the same way. What ever it is that you do to show her you love and care for her just keep doing that and being consistent with it every day. And eventually when she is ready you guys will have what ever talks you need to have.