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The main reason I've create an account here after some time reading topics here as a guest, is the clock ticking, after years of postponing decisions (still in that phase yet). I went to a costume party at friends for New Year's Eve, and the theme was "misgendering". I went wearing a skirt, pantyhose, make up and jewels, dressed half female, half male, first time in my life I did it in public and with friends.

I didn't expect it would give me so much to think at. There's was of course the traditional stupid jokes, but I noticed it pleased other girls, who had a lot of comments to do and questions to ask.

I'm usually a shy guy, having difficulties to make contacts, and chat, and having not much fun at dancing and partying. Quite the contrary that  evening, I danced like I never did, and had lot of talks with women. To the point that some girlfriends who knows me noticed it, and talked about it the days after, as one told me.

I'm since myself questioning it, I know being costumed can help to socialize, but it was so natural to me to do and enjoy things who are difficult for me usually. I even find an excuse to go back home in the Parisian night, walking in my skirt back home. And feeling good.

I'm sorry, I'm trying my best to write in English, it's hard to really tell things like I want to. I hope it's not too silly to read. But this evening really makes me wonder if wearing "only" a skirt and pantyhose could have changed me so much.

Stéphanie, X X

@Stéphanie.FR
Dear Stéphanie:
Thank you for posting and sharing your story here on the Forum...

... by the way, your writing in English is very good... no worries, it is good.

I will be looking for more of your postings.

HUGS,
Danielle

Stéphanie, being in an environment where you are comfortable being yourself is a wonderful experience. So much of who we are is hidden, because we are afraid about what others may think. Wearing different clothes didn't change you. It sounds like the party allowed part of your soul to have a taste of freedom. I hope you'll explore this side of yourself more, you may find someone beautiful hiding in the shadows.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

Stéphanie

What you did at the 'misgendering' party New Years Eve, was to let your hair down, so to speak.  You, were truly being yourself and you felt it was the right thing to do.

When you do similar feminine things in the future, I'm sure they will bring you peace of mind.

By the way, your English is excellent.  Stop worrying about it.

All the best for the future.

Kind regards to you
Sarah B

Thank you for your kind words. I don't use any online translator, so it take me time to write. My main concern was to not be able to tell things properly, and to make from something interesting from my point of view something boring or seeming silly. I'm missing the right words or idioms, and the fluidity of writing in my native language. But I won't worry much more about it...

Hello Sister!

It sounds like the evening offered you some important new perspectives to consider on what it feels like to express yourself and find yourself a bit more in the company of others... most of us wait a long time to begin really seeking the answers to all of this... Go into these things wish a heart filled with hope that you will find amazing things and a spirit of adventure befitting the beginning of a great adventure! I wish you all good things as you find your way forward to what you want and need!

Onward Brave Sister!!

Ashley 😀💕🌻

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Bonjour ma sœur ! On dirait que la soirée vous a offert de nouvelles perspectives importantes à considérer sur ce que c'est que de s'exprimer et de se retrouver un peu plus en compagnie des autres... La plupart d'entre nous attendent longtemps avant de commencer à vraiment chercher les réponses à tout cela... Lancez-vous dans ces choses avec un cœur rempli d'espoir que vous trouverez des choses étonnantes et un esprit d'aventure digne du début d'une grande aventure ! Je vous souhaite à tous de bonnes choses alors que vous trouvez votre chemin vers ce que vous voulez et ce dont vous avez besoin !

En avant

Ashley 😀💕🌻

Being able to express oneself for the first time is an amazing feeling. Apt for new year, that pop of the cork that lets everything just come out. Your inner self that has been stuck in that bottle just flows  unstoping.

This feeling and seeming change of personality is something experienced by many. Your description of the out going girl is the you you have been all the time just stuck in that bottle. The start of your journey? Welcome sister

Hugs
Jessica xxx