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What was it like for your first visit to a salon for a feminine hairstyle?
Or are you in wait for this wonderful experience?

It was so nice for me.

Sometimes though it may not turn out the way you hoped.  Perhaps the stylist misunderstood what you wanted, botched it, or you otherwise left unsatisfied.

Was your experience a good one or disappointing?


Chrissy

"For a feminine hairstyle"?  No such luck.  I don't have enough left for that.  I go in just to get it cut to length.  If they can make it look not too masculine, that's a plus.

When I take off my wig, the hairdresser will often comment that she didn't know it was a wig.

I was nervous during my first visit. I didn't know what I wanted, so I asked the stylist to do what she felt would look best. Big mistake, it was horrid. I returned a few weeks later to try again. Same stylist. I told her I didn't really like the style she tried on my previous trip. She tried something different. I cried. For the first time in my life, I saw a woman staring back from the mirror. It's been six years now, and I still go to the same stylist.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

At my first appointment I explained that I was transgender and wanted a fully feminine hairstyle. I had been growing my hair out from a crew cut for five years. I asked her what most women my age would have done and she said "They say 'I have grey hair, fix it!'" So she chopped off about five inches and made me a blonde.  :)

Hugs, Devlyn

The first time I went to a stylist for a feminine cut I did not say that I was looking for a feminine cut and I did not leave with a feminine cut.

The first time I leveled with a stylist that I am transgender and wanted to move to a feminine cut was a smart thing to do.  My hair became progressively more feminine looking over time.  In fact, when I had some highlighting also, my hair looked too feminine and I decided to revert back to my natural color because my hair could not look that feminine at that time because my transitioning progress was not ready for that.

So if you want a feminine cut be open with your stylist.  If she is willing to help you as a transgender woman (MTF) then keep returning, tip well, and enjoy your transformation over time.  You might be able to get a stylist referral from a transgender group, even the group's Web site, or a LGBTQ+ Web site.

If you are scared, or do not particularly want your hair styled with other customers around, try to see if you can get an early morning or last of day style appointment.  You can call for an appointment and say you are transgender and desire a beginning or end of day appointment for more privacy.

It does not likely matter, I do not think, if you are presenting as female when you go to the stylist but as you transition female appearance in all ways will just be the natural way to go. 

Chrissy

QuoteI had been growing my hair out from a crew cut for five years.

Whoa! Five years would put my hair below my bum. I know because I've grown it that long a couple times.

My first time, I was more concerned about what my stylist thought of my botched hairline than anything else. It was a couple years after beginning my transition before my hair was long enough, and then, I just had the length trimmed. Sense then, I've made a few trips to the salon to get makeovers for special events.

Hugs!
Donica

Had a long straight style with bangs (fringe) for a couple of  years, it was about 3 inches below my shoulders & left with a long spiral perm. It was great & she did a brilliant job.

Lovely woman, my stylist!  Wife's urging to use the same person as she.  I wound up with a perm and a very light trim with an admonition to let it grow out so she could "do something more to make me pretty."

My hair is so white naturally it shows as extremely pale blonde with hair care products applied.  My avatar shows applied hair color like my sisters.  Eyebrows are still dark though.  No suggestions for that.

I was a little nervous as I went dressed very feminine. I just started to transition and spent most of my time as <deadname>. But the salon staff was very professional.

Here is photo after my first visit.
(https://i.imgur.com/7MFJL5e.jpeg)

I could comb this cut into a male style or a female style like above.

Ellen

What do you think of bangs?  Not side swept bangs but the bangs that come straight down. 

Chrissy

I did my own hair for years. I wouldn't like how I looked anyways, so why waste money on it? So with almost no experience — probably like three or four actual haircuts for big events — I went into the salon and asked for "an Audrey Hepburn style haircut." I was experimenting and not fully out yet at the time. They did the best they could but it was a bad choice of hairstyle for my face shape. Not nearly enough framing. Lessons were learned, and I am a long hair gal for life now.

I decided against the bangs, but maybe I will style that into a new long hair wig, should I ever buy another.

Chrissy

No bangs for me either. Swept across is okay though.  I've not settled on a style yet.  What ever I wind up with in about another 6 months will be soft waves rather than tight curls though.  I've got an appointment on Friday for a trim.  Patience needed.
Avatar bangs won't fly on my much older face.

Quote from: D'Amalie on February 12, 2024, 07:32:09 AMNo bangs for me either. Swept across is okay though.  I've not settled on a style yet.  What ever I wind up with in about another 6 months will be soft waves rather than tight curls though.  I've got an appointment on Friday for a trim.  Patience needed.
Avatar bangs won't fly on my much older face.

You look nice.  I wonder at times how old can you be and still look age appropriate with long hair, and by long I mean coming down your front and back to your boobs.  I do not wear a long hair wig much but I still like to at times. 

I do not know but I do think if a woman wants to wear long hair, that is her choice.  Why not?  I admit it makes me feel younger.  I dress age appropriate and modestly.

I guess this is not that important as I wear my natural shorter hair most of the time,  it is easy to take care of.  But it is harder to wear a bob style with each passing year if out as a guy, it is a young men's look.  So I may just have to finally say goodbye to the guy.  Or get a pixie cut. 

Perhaps I am overthinking this. 

I should get to work, have a good day everyone!

Chrissy

Now you've got me thinking. I'll have to look up a pixie cut.   

I'm pretty sure bangs are out, long hair works if tied back or plaited/braided?  My hair is white now and below collar length.  It seems like it's taking forever to grow out on the sides.  I'm careful to avoid the mutton dressed as lamb ..... or at least I hope so.

I also think that no makeup is better than too much.  I'll use mascara, eye liner nothing more, although these days it seems I have perpetual darkeness under my eyes.

Quote from: D'Amalie on February 13, 2024, 11:55:56 AMNow you've got me thinking. I'll have to look up a pixie cut. 

I'm pretty sure bangs are out, long hair works if tied back or plaited/braided?  My hair is white now and below collar length.  It seems like it's taking forever to grow out on the sides.  I'm careful to avoid the mutton dressed as lamb ..... or at least I hope so.

I also think that no makeup is better than too much.  I'll use mascara, eye liner nothing more, although these days it seems I have perpetual darkeness under my eyes.

On the Star Trek Voyager show, Kes had a nice pixie cut.  It could pass as a male hairstyle much easier than a bob cut, but not on her.  No mistake she appeared female. 

http://images3.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20090412144145/memoryalpha/en/images/b/bb/Kes_hologram2371.jpg

What is so nice is that there are so many styles we can wear compared to guys it seems. 

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 13, 2024, 01:50:10 PMWhat is so nice is that there are so many styles we can wear compared to guys it seems. 

Chrissy

Wait, guys can have different hairstyles? My dad was in the military, and so was I. I had the same hairstyle for over 50 years, and I never expected it to change. Now my hairstyle changes whenever the wind blows!

Love always -- Jess

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on February 13, 2024, 02:05:17 PMWait, guys can have different hairstyles? My dad was in the military, and so was I. I had the same hairstyle for over 50 years, and I never expected it to change. Now my hairstyle changes whenever the wind blows!

Love always -- Jess

Jess,

Yes, guys can have different hairstyles, such as short, even shorter, mullet, ponytail, crew cut, bald cut, flattop, words etched in the hair, etc.  They can even part their hair from the left or the right.

Bor-ring.


Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 12, 2024, 07:59:55 AM...

I guess this is not that important as I wear my natural shorter hair most of the time,  it is easy to take care of.  But it is harder to wear a bob style with each passing year if out as a guy, it is a young men's look.  So I may just have to finally say goodbye to the guy.  Or get a pixie cut. 

Perhaps I am overthinking this. 

I should get to work, have a good day everyone!

Chrissy

Since I wrote this I have come to the conclusion that I really do not want to cut my hair as I love my style and it is affirming.  So for now, I will keep it the just the way I like it.

Chrissy

The first time for me was about ten years ago or so when I decided to get a wig customized. I went to wig store in Hollywood that has a hair salon attached to it with private rooms. The lady was super nice. I had a good time and the wig looked better, but it wasn't as amazing as my mind made it out to be. I did the same thing about a year ago with my latest hair and again it was sadly kind of a let down. Maybe it'd be different if I had real hair?

I had a style appointment and my hair looks nice.

Swish!


Chrissy

My wig supplier also has a hair salon. The wigs are kind of a side gig, but she is able to color and style as needed for a match.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 05, 2024, 01:48:04 PMI had a style appointment and my hair looks nice.

Swish!


Chrissy

Good for you Chrissy!

Hair makes SO much of a difference!

The day I got mine everything clicked and I was instantly full time the moment I walked out of the salon.

Yes. Hairstyle is critical and probably the most important in presenting as a woman. I had many trials and errors, but nowadays I visit my favorite hair salon once or twice every year. The stylist is very kind, taking care of the whole of my family. There used to be miscommunication with her, but now I know what she can do for me.

The hair salon: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/kb6peK8c73A

Once a hair specialist came to my home while a cinema team made an independent film of me. The movie will be completed and opened to the public this fall.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/eJyM7dcpSq4

Cheers,

barbie~~

Quote from: imallie on August 05, 2024, 04:02:16 PMGood for you Chrissy!

Hair makes SO much of a difference!

The day I got mine everything clicked and I was instantly full time the moment I walked out of the salon.

It is nice to chit chat with my stylist as she does her wonder with my hair.  I always leave feeling better and looking better than when I arrived.

I still have my Bob cut, it is so cute.  Makes it harder as I age to look like a male at first glance, but I really do not want to look like a male as a MTF.  I am getting a few strands of grey so I may need to regularly color to hide rather than instead of simply when I want to change color or highlight.  Then again, maybe I should simply age gracefully with all natural hair.  I did not think one would get grey hair until like you get into your 60s, but I have heard more of us ladies do get them in their 40s too. So I am not that unusual.   My hair is full and I can even swish it a little, more if I grew it out.  But I like my style.

Hugs,

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 06, 2024, 06:40:24 AMIt is nice to chit chat with my stylist as she does her wonder with my hair.  I always leave feeling better and looking better than when I arrived.

I still have my Bob cut, it is so cute.  Makes it harder as I age to look like a male at first glance, but I really do not want to look like a male as a MTF.  I am getting a few strands of grey so I may need to regularly color to hide rather than instead of simply when I want to change color or highlight.  Then again, maybe I should simply age gracefully with all natural hair.  I did not think one would get grey hair until like you get into your 60s, but I have heard more of us ladies do get them in their 40s too. So I am not that unusual.   My hair is full and I can even swish it a little, more if I grew it out.  But I like my style.

Hugs,
Chrissy

I started going gray when I was 16... was full-on salt & pepper by the end of high school, and mostly gray by the time I graduated college.

But now, in my late 50's? I'm a blonde. 😉

So a) there's no standard timing for that stuff and b) you can be what you wanna be!

So glad you enjoyed the experience!!!

Quote from: imallie on August 06, 2024, 07:44:03 AMI started going gray when I was 16... was full-on salt & pepper by the end of high school, and mostly gray by the time I graduated college.

But now, in my late 50's? I'm a blonde. 😉

So a) there's no standard timing for that stuff and b) you can be what you wanna be!

So glad you enjoyed the experience!!!

Wow!  At 16!

Do blondes have more fun?

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 06, 2024, 01:21:04 PMWow!  At 16!

Do blondes have more fun?

Chrissy

I mean, I have say yes... but a LOT more than my hair has changed, so not sure how much credit its color really deserves. 😉

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 06, 2024, 01:21:04 PMDo blondes have more fun?

I can confirm this. But I am hardly unbiased.  ;D
 

Quote from: Lori Dee on August 06, 2024, 04:28:33 PMI can confirm this. But I am hardly unbiased.  ;D
 

Quote from: imallie on August 06, 2024, 01:56:33 PMI mean, I have say yes... but a LOT more than my hair has changed, so not sure how much credit its color really deserves. 😉

Good for you!  Glad you have lots of fun!


Chrissy

Quote from: Lori Dee on August 06, 2024, 04:28:33 PMI can confirm this. But I am hardly unbiased.  ;D
 

Good for you too Lori!

Cannot say I have tried blonde.  Have tried reddish highlights though.

Chrissy