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As a MTF, do you enjoy a feminine look or a more androgynous appearance?

I am clearly enjoying femininity, except those times I think it is wise to still present otherwise.  I do not go overboard though, I simply enjoy having my female lifestyle and appearance that is appropriate for my age and situation.  It is nice to be treated in good ways, just like other women.

Chrissy

Great question. I'm also MTF and the more feminine the better, ideally. Although realistically, I have other looks depending on the situation!

Hugs
Mandy

Definitely feminine.  When considering purchasing an item of clothing, one of the questions I ask myself is, "Would a man ever wear this?"  If the answer is yes, I don't want it.  If it is no, then I am interested.

I look feminine regardless of clothing. I don't really worry about whether or not the clothing item itself looks feminine. If I like it, I wear it.

Both I suspect - It depends on the day. There are certain things that are must haves for my feminine side, ear rings, nails (currently red French tipped) and a nice comfy top with sorts. I have also been sporting a t-shirt dress. Most of my clothes are feminine and the t-shirts are androgynous. Does this help?

Total androgyny. I live in cotton comfort. The advantage of my indifference to my appearance is that if do something extraordinary like brushing my hair, people are so impressed.

Feminine, not "girly". I do not, in any way, shape or form, feel that I "missed out" on dressing up or wearing anything that I need to make up for now... so in building my wardrobe it's really just been age appropriate stuff in which I feel comfortable.

I do think in the last month or so it's gotten a bit more feminine, but that's just as I've gotten more comfortable in my own skin.

I will brush my hair daily (I don't have the luxury of not doing so, O&C -- that's something I miss a bit!) and I have started to wear a bit of makeup. Mascara for occasions (a nice dinner, the theater, etc), and lips most days when doing public-facing events.

 

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on July 29, 2024, 08:44:55 PMTotal androgyny. I live in cotton comfort. The advantage of my indifference to my appearance is that if do something extraordinary like brushing my hair, people are so impressed.

I do think it is important to brush your hair, eat reasonably, watch out for overall health and wellbeing, maintain proper hygiene, and to be presentable without having to make a "presentation" to attract attention.

I bet you look quite nice O&C, you just do not want to make any fuss.

Chrissy

I look okey-dokey, Chrissy. Just another old lady riding Life's bus. Like many old ladies, I am so comfy.

Quote from: KathyLauren on July 29, 2024, 07:43:02 AMDefinitely feminine.  When considering purchasing an item of clothing, one of the questions I ask myself is, "Would a man ever wear this?"  If the answer is yes, I don't want it.  If it is no, then I am interested.

I vote with Kathy! I won't buy anything marketed as 'men's' (even socks). I also avoid 'unisex' clothing whenever possible. I treat the 'men's department' like a minefield or radioactive zone and try to stay as far away as possible.

Love always -- Jess

I prefer feminine. The only men's clothing or even androgynous clothing I own is my "mining grubbies". Men's jeans, leather boots, and lined flannel shirts. They seem to be more durable than women's clothing and mining is very rough on outerwear. And its purpose is to protect my skin, not make me look good. I would be heartbroken if I ripped a hole in my designer jeans (even though that's the latest fad).

Feminine as it makes it far easier to socialize.
When I wear heels in grocery stores folks politely get out of the way for me.
I get around really well in them.

Marion

Even though I am not completely out, I do prefer to be feminine.  When I do go full-time, my work uniform will be just what I wear today.  I hope it will be a little more curvy, but the name tag will say Gwen.  That is a day to which I am looking forward.

For out side of work, I am building a feminine wardrobe in anticipation of my coming out to full-time day.

Gwen

I find that just with putting my hair in a ponytail or something else I'm able to bring out my feminine features that way and people are starting to look.

I switched from ponytails to pigtails as it makes me look more feminine!
It is long and curly.

Marion

Quote from: imallie on July 29, 2024, 11:22:10 PMFeminine, not "girly". I do not, in any way, shape or form, feel that I "missed out" on dressing up or wearing anything that I need to make up for now... so in building my wardrobe it's really just been age appropriate stuff in which I feel comfortable.

I do think in the last year month or so it's gotten a bit more feminine, but that's just as I've gotten more comfortable in my own skin.

I'd like say I'm not vain, but I'd be lying.

I'm such a mix these days.  At an age where comfort and dealing with the vagaries of the weather is more important.  My jeans come from Torrid (Make my bum look good), my undies (unseen by those who needn't see them) mostly from Glamorize [front clip c ups, 2XL panties] or Kohl's and misc. online shops, my tops from Torrid or souvenir sweatshirts/T's mostly androgenous.  I'm plus sized so where most clothes are for below size 12, my 16-25 aren't the most flattering.

I look at some of my earlier transition clothes and they were definitely more of an acrogenous nature. The further along the more feminine they became.

I like looking like a woman.  Would be weird if I did not as I am a woman.

Wish I looked like a very pretty woman.

But, I am okay as I am. 


Chrissy

Feminine Look, I am a girly girl.

I enjoy and love using make-up and perfume. I have long hair, have long nails (love getting my nails done), I love wearing dresses, skirts, pantyhose, cute earrings  and heels (The higher the better)

I also have way too many pairs of shoes and love shopping

I have 5 very feminine tattoos on my body, they help to enhance my feminine appearance.

The one girly girl thing, I am not that into, is the color pink. I have very few pink items of clothing, but I will admit as time has gone on, I do now sometimes wear pink nail polish on my toes (A wear a dust pink or dusty rose color). Also now, one of my fav date night underwear is a little pink panty and bra set, my husband loves it when I wear it.

I have a girly tan that makes it obvious that I were feminine clothes all the time!

I am very early on in my transition. Have not come out to many people. I'm not even on HRT yet. I unfortunately dress masculine. I have a few feminine articles of clothing. I can get away with under dressing more than I can outer wear. I have 1 or two female tank tops, and 1 or 2 female cargo shorts that can probably be taken either way. Not too far off from my tanks and shorts that are designed for men, so they don't look out of place when I where them.

I can't wait for the day that I can wear things that show more skin like reg jean shorts and not mom shorts etc, or a dress that shows off curves, or even female active wear such as leggings/yoga pants, sport bras or tank tops that have bra built in. And the colors I'm choosing are still in the realm of normal, I don't have any outer wear where the colors are more pastel or fem.

One day though I'll be feminine 100% of the time ( the day can't come soon enough) but even then I think I'd be more on the side of comfort than fashionable or something over the top feminine.

It is nice to be dressed appropriately for sure.

As your body changes shape, even ever so slightly, it is nice to wear clothing that perhaps accentuates those nice changes.

Enjoy your journey!

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 05, 2024, 01:42:56 PMIt is nice to be dressed appropriately for sure.

As your body changes shape, even ever so slightly, it is nice to wear clothing that perhaps accentuates those nice changes.

Enjoy your journey!

Chrissy

Or even clothing that fits better.

Wish I was back in graduate school or even after high school and started my HRT back then.
Those lost years could have made a difference for my transition body changes, but who knows, maybe not. I was a cross dresser back then, not realizing I was transgender.  I guess it takes time for some of us to obtain clarity of who we are.  It is better later than never to try to correct the situation though.

Hugs,

Chrissy

Chrissy, you personify kindness. If I had a fairy's magic wand, I would wave it and your external beauty would  equal your internal beauty.

Chrissy, you are heart of susans.org. I, at best, am the gall bladder.

Quote from: Lori Dee on August 05, 2024, 02:12:53 PMOr even clothing that fits better.

My guy clothing never fit! It was a hassle to find clothes to wear.

 Now clothes shopping is too easy!

From what I've heard dieting may be easier when you aren't on HRT yet.
Learning what works for you in terms of diet and exercise can go a long way towards a feminine presentation.

Marion

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on August 06, 2024, 06:59:33 AMChrissy, you personify kindness. If I had a fairy's magic wand, I would wave it and your external beauty would  equal your internal beauty.

Chrissy, you are heart of susans.org. I, at best, am the gall bladder.

Whaaaaaaaat?  You are brainy for sure with a heart.

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 06, 2024, 06:39:30 PMWhaaaaaaaat?  You are brainy for sure with a heart.

Chrissy

Chrissy, don't dare have the gall to doubt that I'm the gall bladder! ;-)

Without any doubt, I prefer and enjoy my feminine appearance.
 
At the beginning of my transition journey before I came out I obviously had times that
I felt that I had to appear male, then gradually and eventually androgynous for a time.

It was a lot of work, expense and personal dedication to come to the finish line and
finally become full-time Danielle...
....there is no going back, appearing as my female self is what I do every minute of
each and every day no matter where I am and where I go.

In my humble opinion...as an MTF appearing as a woman, I believe it is very important to
try to fit in with other women... noting what they are wearing and how they appear in whatever
setting that I find myself in. 
Because transgender women can be cruelly scrutinized by some others, I usually do not wear
flashy skin bearing clothing when around town or at my business.  I always wish to give the
appearance of being conservatively dressed as a respectable woman.  Obviously if at the beach, the
swimming pool, out hiking in the summer with accepting friends I can wear what I feel
appropriate and comfortable. 

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

Dressing appropriately for the occasion / situation is very important.

Chrissy

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on August 07, 2024, 01:02:57 PMI believe it is very important to
try to fit in with other women... noting what they are wearing and how they appear in whatever
setting that I find myself in. 
Because transgender women can be cruelly scrutinized by some others, I usually do not wear
flashy skin bearing clothing when around town or at my business.  I always wish to give the
appearance of being conservatively dressed as a respectable woman. 

Exactly this. Blending in leads to acceptance, which is both affirming and safer. We already are being targeted, no need to help them find us.

Blending in is the way to go.

Chrissy

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on August 07, 2024, 06:59:48 AMChrissy, don't dare have the gall to doubt that I'm the gall bladder! ;-)

You have a lot more meaningful posts than me.  So you are brainy.

If I was offline for a couple of weeks or so, no one at all would wonder where I was at or miss me at all.   However not so for you. 

You are an integral part of this Forum for many of us here. You are special.  You are wonderful.  I hope you are always around here, except for vacations and responsibilities away, of course.

Hugs,

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 07, 2024, 06:31:18 PMIf I was offline for a couple of weeks or so, no one at all would wonder where I was at or miss me at all. 

Don't underestimate your value here, Chrissy. You were gone for a few days recently, and we noticed. You are part of the sunshine here.

And you will not be allowed vacations. ;D
 

Hi Everyone

Ever since Sarah changed her life around, including the two Christmas before.  I have always dressed appropriately for my age, was comfortable, as the situation demanded and of course what I liked wearing.  As for androgynous appearance, I would not really not know what that means and it's only through Susan's that I have really become aware of it.

Yes, I prefer feminine clothing over androgynous and the way other women in the country town, tend to not care about what they wear.  Which in a sense makes me stand out.  However, when at home I dress crappy and the same goes when I go around to my brothers or a quick visit to the shops.

I don't wear mens clothing, why would I?  Except for maybe socks, because it was hard to find a pair of socks in a womens size that would fit me (however I noticed just recently that they have the larger sizes for women, finally) and that includes runners or joggers.

Yes, I prefer the feminine look, although through all the years, I have never worried about that aspect of my life.  What I did was feminine, without me realizing it.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter

Hi Chrissy

You said;

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 07, 2024, 06:31:18 PMIf I was offline for a couple of weeks or so, no one at all would wonder where I was at or miss me at all.  However not so for you.

I noticed you were gone for a couple of days, just recently and I'm not the only one who noticed your absence and as Lori said;

Quote from: Lori Dee on August 07, 2024, 07:51:42 PMDon't underestimate your value here, Chrissy. You were gone for a few days recently, and we noticed. You are part of the sunshine here.

And you will not be allowed vacations. ;D

However, I will allow you holidays as long as you tell us about them!

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
@ChrissyRyan
@Lori Dee

Quote from: Sarah B on August 07, 2024, 10:13:02 PMHowever, I will allow you holidays as long as you tell us about them!

We can't have her gone that long! Bathroom breaks only.  ;D

We love you, Chrissy!

@ChrissyRyan
Dear Chrissy:
You are incorrect .... the last time that you went "silent" for a week or so in early June we
had exchanged a couple of Forum messages regarding your unannounced vacation... and at that
time I certainty did miss your presence here on the Forum and was concerned for your well being.

As with many regular members here I will indeed notice if they are away for more than 
several days. You are not the only member that I have worried about and communicated with
regarding their unannounced silence on the Forum. 

I am very glad that you are actively involved here on the Forum to share your thoughts
and comments.

HUGS, Danielle  [Northern Star Girl]

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 07, 2024, 06:31:18 PMYou have a lot more meaningful posts than me.  So you are brainy.

If I was offline for a couple of weeks or so, no one at all would wonder where I was at or miss me at all.  However not so for you.

You are an integral part of this Forum for many of us here. You are special.  You are wonderful.  I hope you are always around here, except for vacations and responsibilities away, of course.

Hugs,

Chrissy

There are others here that are more helpful than my insignificant posts.  Staff should follow up on all regulars of course.
For mainstream members, many others, such as O&C and Jess, many more, and staff, would be more missed than I.
This is simply the facts.

Thanks though.  This does not mean I think lowly of myself, I am simply stating what I perceive.

Chrissy

Christine, you are the gentle breeze which brings a welcome calm and the scent of wildflowers into the room. You're just as important as the person who always knows the right words to say, or knows the right questions to ask. We love you.

Love always -- Jess

Hi Chrissy

You are being very humble when you say:

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 08, 2024, 06:55:47 AMThere are others here that are more helpful than my insignificant posts.  Staff should follow up on all regulars of course.

First and foremost your posts are not insignificant ones, why?  Your posts provide thought provoking questions more so than any other member and by doing so you are helping others, hopefully to understand themselves.  So your contribution are extremely valuable to the community on Susan's.  So please do not think your posts are insignificant, they are definitely are not.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 08, 2024, 06:55:47 AMFor mainstream members, many others, such as O&C and Jess, many more, and staff, would be more missed than I.
This is simply the facts.

I left Susan's over 12 years ago, I do not know if I was missed when I left.  However, Susan's place has survived.  People come and go and this is just the ebb and flow of life.  Yes, there will be members that will be missed, some more so than others.  I know, there are members who were around when I was here the first time and I miss their contributions to Susan's.

You have been here a lot longer than I have and I sure someone is going to say you will be missed so sorely, more so than I.  If you moved on.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 08, 2024, 06:55:47 AMThanks though.  This does not mean I think lowly of myself, I am simply stating what I perceive.

Chrissy

You are being humble, thinking your contributions are not worthy, unfortunately as I have already said.  They are worth more than you think they are.  This is what I know, not perceive.

Take care Chrissy and I wish all your dreams come true.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
@ChrissyRyan

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on August 08, 2024, 06:55:47 AMThere are others here that are more helpful than my insignificant posts. 

Chrissy, it is not what you post that is significant. It is how you post and that you are regularly posting friendly and uplifting messages. Your motto below your name and the wisdom in your signature line is not just there for decoration, you live it. It is how your personality shines through. You have a gentle manner, you are kind, cheerful, polite, and understanding. Those values are very much needed in today's world. Here at Susan's, we have people who come here feeling down, confused, or upset. They come here looking for support, not necessarily information. And that is where you shine. You never fail to put a smile on my face. Thank you.

Quote from: Sarah B on August 08, 2024, 08:02:20 AMHi Chrissy

You are being very humble when you say:

First and foremost your posts are not insignificant ones, why?  Your posts provide thought provoking questions more so than any other member and by doing so you are helping others, hopefully to understand themselves.  So your contribution are extremely valuable to the community on Susan's.  So please do not think your posts are insignificant, they are definitely are not.

I left Susan's over 12 years ago, I do not know if I was missed when I left.  However, Susan's place has survived.  People come and go and this is just the ebb and flow of life.  Yes, there will be members that will be missed, some more so than others.  I know, there are members who were around when I was here the first time and I miss their contributions to Susan's.

You have been here a lot longer than I have and I sure someone is going to say you will be missed so sorely, more so than I.  If you moved on.

You are being humble, thinking your contributions are not worthy, unfortunately as I have already said.  They are worth more than you think they are.  This is what I know, not perceive.

Take care Chrissy and I wish all your dreams come true.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
Official Greeter
@ChrissyRyan

Sarah,

Thank you for your thoughts.  Staff have been kind here, they do their work, and I appreciate it.

Non-staff too also, for sure.

I do not do much though, but thanks again.

Chrissy

Following up on one of my previous reply comments on this thread regarding
how transgender women can be cruelly scrutinized by some others:
Around town or at my business I always wish to give the appearance of being
conservatively dressed as a respectable woman...
....especially at my CPA accounting and financial advising business where I am
dealing with and meeting with my business and personal clients regarding their
payroll, finances, business ledgers, their investments, and their tax liabilities.
 
At my office I usually wear a dressy pantsuit, skirt and blouse, or a dress...
... and for footwear at work I will wear comfortable low to mid high heals.
          (https://i.imgur.com/BsKcZIml.jpg)

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

Looking good, Danielle!
Love that smile.  ;D

I can't keep up with any of this, lol.

Danielle.. You are stunning. You are the rare kind of person that has a smile which reaches their eyes. You'd be amazed how many people that is not the case for. Every single picture of you I've ever seen... you are in the moment the picture was taken.


That's a testament to you.

Not gonna lie, though, I wish I lived way further north. I love snow. Hate British summers. I would totally give anything to up-sticks and move over there if I could <3

Lots of beauty shared here by all!

Chrissy

I kind of think people find their own rhythm.

I think we are all secretly hoping that you maybe will sometime show yourself, Chrissy :)

I did it back in the day... and for all you people around then... I apologise, lol. I think we all want to put an image of the forums... I mean if you want to :)