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Title: It is so nice when you can work as the woman you are without “gender” grief
Post by: ChrissyRyan on January 14, 2025, 08:44:57 AM
It is so nice when you can work as the woman you are without "gender changing" related grief.

I never wanted special treatment, just equal treatment.  I have never wanted to be sought out for a job primarily for my "category" instead of my abilities and potential.

It is nice to be able to work in your true gender and not get hassled, passed over, and other bad treatment because of your transitioning.

It is nice to be where you can shine and are valued.  I wish the same for each of you.

Chrissy


Title: Re: It is so nice when you can work as the woman you are without “gender” grief
Post by: Jessica_Rose on January 14, 2025, 06:59:27 PM
I agree 100% Chrissy. My employer, my manager, and my co-workers, have been awesome. I transitioned nearly seven years ago. There is no dead naming, no misgendering. I still have the same position, and work with the same people. I've received regular raises, and a few really nice ones. My position was even upgraded to a higher pay band. I don't have even the slightest feeling that my transition has been detrimental to my career. I know this is going to sound like a recruitment spiel, but if you want to work at a place where management wants you to be your authentic self, check out what Progressive Insurance has to offer.

Love always -- Jessica Rose
Title: Re: It is so nice when you can work as the woman you are without “gender” grief
Post by: NatalieRene on January 14, 2025, 07:13:57 PM
I transitioned at GWU. Everyone was great on the surface but I got passed up for promotion when my boss was promoted.

There are times I miss that job but then all the stuff I have learned since leaving might not have been learned.

I have worked as female since 2010 and hit my head on the glass ceiling more then a few times. However right now I am in a position that while I still get the typical male pushback from the lower ranked programmers I have managed to learn the art of talking them through the changes I want and getting them to feel like it was their idea on how to make it better when they doing exactly what I told them to do from the start.
Title: Re: It is so nice when you can work as the woman you are without “gender” grief
Post by: ChrissyRyan on January 14, 2025, 07:23:56 PM
Quote from: Jessica_Rose on January 14, 2025, 06:59:27 PMI agree 100% Chrissy. My employer, my manager, and my co-workers, have been awesome. I transitioned nearly seven years ago. There is no dead naming, no misgendering. I still have the same position, and work with the same people. I've received regular raises, and a few really nice ones. My position was even upgraded to a higher pay band. I don't have even the slightest feeling that my transition has been detrimental to my career. I know this is going to sound like a recruitment spiel, but if you want to work at a place where management wants you to be your authentic self, check out what Progressive Insurance has to offer.

Love always -- Jessica Rose


That sounds good for a big company like that.  Plus if you have a valuable skill set, especially if it is not possessed by all that many people, that should be an incentive to any employer to have you around. 

Based on how you have handled your transition and helping your father, I would think that you are a valuable member of your employer's team.

Chrissy


Quote from: NatalieRene on January 14, 2025, 07:13:57 PMI transitioned at GWU. Everyone was great on the surface but I got passed up for promotion when my boss was promoted.

There are times I miss that job but then all the stuff I have learned since leaving might not have been learned.

I have worked as female since 2010 and hit my head on the glass ceiling more then a few times. However right now I am in a position that while I still get the typical male pushback from the lower ranked programmers I have managed to learn the art of talking them through the changes I want and getting them to feel like it was their idea on how to make it better when they doing exactly what I told them to do from the start.

Bravo.

Getting others to think it was their idea, other than by brainwashing or with evil intent, is an excellent way to get right things done the right way. 

This goes with the excellent leadership practice of having them learn from each set of new experiences, so they grow.  They need to know the value of doing things this way over that way.

I should write more about related matters; but, I am too busy, which is okay if you have a good life balance.

Chrissy

Title: Re: It is so nice when you can work as the woman you are without “gender” grief
Post by: ChrissyRyan on January 20, 2025, 10:23:30 AM
May all your work situations be good ones.

I cannot imagine the frustrations it would be now looking for work.  Or perhaps I can.
There are many job postings that are fake.  Job seekers hear back from fewer employers than ever, if you believe what has been stated in the media. 

Of course, when the job market favored employees, many employees ghosted employers.
The power between employers and employees have shifted and it will continue to shift back and forth over the years.  It is supply and demand.

Perhaps our economy will become better over time, it may be good for some if you have a good job.
But many do not, they have to have two part time jobs.  It is not good for many. 

Hugs,

Chrissy

Title: Re: It is so nice when you can work as the woman you are without “gender” grief
Post by: DawnOday on January 24, 2025, 12:47:42 AM
I wish that were true back in the 70's through 2010. But we went to work as men and spent the evenings as women in secret. Today in Seattle I would have no fear being in public. I am blessed that I have never been taunted or even approached. I wear dark red lipstick and smile alot. Even though I am 6'4" I have lots of straight people who love me for the courage it took to come out. Alot of them are my elementary and high school friends and only one rejected me. The theme was. We always knew you were weird.
Title: Re: It is so nice when you can work as the woman you are without “gender” grief
Post by: ChrissyRyan on January 24, 2025, 07:04:22 AM
Quote from: DawnOday on January 24, 2025, 12:47:42 AMI wish that were true back in the 70's through 2010. But we went to work as men and spent the evenings as women in secret. Today in Seattle I would have no fear being in public. I am blessed that I have never been taunted or even approached. I wear dark red lipstick and smile alot. Even though I am 6'4" I have lots of straight people who love me for the courage it took to come out. Alot of them are my elementary and high school friends and only one rejected me. The theme was. We always knew you were weird.


Dawn,

It was nice to see you here and and your post.

Chrissy