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I identify as Cassgender, as I said in the title, and I'm proud of that. I think I might be agender or neutrois as well.

I haven't had any internal sense of gender as a kid and unknowingly broke gender stereotypes (yippee!). I played with any toys I liked, no matter what others deemed the toy for whatever gender. I didn't see the world as gendered, and still don't. I never really cared about what restroom I go to, because I just see them as bathrooms. I don't care if outfits are gender neutral, masculine, or feminine. I just pick what I like and what's comfortable. Their just clothes. I don't really feel anything gender wise, and even if I want to be a specific gender, I don't feel like it. And I'm perfectly fine with that. I'm neither a man nor a woman, nor anything in between. I find more of a connection towards unalignment, and the agender spectrum. I'm kinda repulsed with binary pronouns, and honorifics, but also don't really care, which ties into me being cassgender. I never really cared about gender and my lack of it, but focused on life and having fun and stuff. Gender was and is nothing, nor important to me (with the exception of my 4 year gender crisis).

My partners said I sound and look more androgynous, and even friends said so. So I don't think much about going on hormones or anything to improve my androgyny. All I really want is top surgery, so I'm flat chested, because I hate my chest. I also want to bleach my hair, straighten it, and leave a specific short length, like Will from Stranger things I think. I love baggy clothes, and the grunge style, so I've got the outfit thing down pat. I don't think I'm gonna have a big significant transition since it isn't all that big to me anymore. Just tol surgery, working on my hair, legally and socially transitioning, and going for.the style I want. I'm not too big on pronouns, but occasionally will use they/them. And I'm going by Finley (yes I know people would see it as a masculine name, but I believe it's gender neutral, right?).

Should I go for identifying as a gender as well? Part of me wants to, just so people ask, but I see my identity as a cassgender individual playing a bigger part because it essentially highlights my attitude towards my own gender identity. And I'm not too big on specifying with labels, but the label agender is also quite neat. Am I entitled to identify this way?

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Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 17, 2025, 05:08:18 PMHi!

Welcome Asher!

The official welcoming crew will be by shortly to greet you.  Meanwhile, continue to explore this Web site. 

Hope you have a great weekend.


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Thank you!!

Quote from: Asher0971 on January 17, 2025, 05:02:52 PMI identify as Cassgender, as I said in the title, and I'm proud of that. I think I might be agender or neutrois as well.

I haven't had any internal sense of gender as a kid and unknowingly broke gender stereotypes (yippee!). I played with any toys I liked, no matter what others deemed the toy for whatever gender. I didn't see the world as gendered, and still don't. I never really cared about what restroom I go to, because I just see them as bathrooms. I don't care if outfits are gender neutral, masculine, or feminine. I just pick what I like and what's comfortable. Their just clothes. I don't really feel anything gender wise, and even if I want to be a specific gender, I don't feel like it. And I'm perfectly fine with that. I'm neither a man nor a woman, nor anything in between. I find more of a connection towards unalignment, and the agender spectrum. I'm kinda repulsed with binary pronouns, and honorifics, but also don't really care, which ties into me being cassgender. I never really cared about gender and my lack of it, but focused on life and having fun and stuff. Gender was and is nothing, nor important to me (with the exception of my 4 year gender crisis).

My partners said I sound and look more androgynous, and even friends said so. So I don't think much about going on hormones or anything to improve my androgyny. All I really want is top surgery, so I'm flat chested, because I hate my chest. I also want to bleach my hair, straighten it, and leave a specific short length, like Will from Stranger things I think. I love baggy clothes, and the grunge style, so I've got the outfit thing down pat. I don't think I'm gonna have a big significant transition since it isn't all that big to me anymore. Just tol surgery, working on my hair, legally and socially transitioning, and going for.the style I want. I'm not too big on pronouns, but occasionally will use they/them. And I'm going by Finley (yes I know people would see it as a masculine name, but I believe it's gender neutral, right?).

Should I go for identifying as a gender as well? Part of me wants to, just so people ask, but I see my identity as a cassgender individual playing a bigger part because it essentially highlights my attitude towards my own gender identity. And I'm not too big on specifying with labels, but the label agender is also quite neat. Am I entitled to identify this way?

You have a freedom a lot of people would envy, honestly. You see the world outside the world. And that is a very special thing.

Don't think of it as if you're entitled to feel something, Fin. Think of it as it's how you feel. And that matters, because you matter. Do you. Love doing you. Be happy. And let people's hang ups apply to them, okay?

Your viewpoint is very refreshing, honestly.

Quote from: Asher0971 on January 17, 2025, 05:02:52 PMI identify as Cassgender, as I said in the title, and I'm proud of that. I think I might be agender or neutrois as well.

Hi Finley, it's refreshing to meet someone who identifies as cassgender, neutrois, or agender. I'm not very familiar with these identities, but that's one of the things I appreciate about the community, its massive and diverse. I'm always eager to learn more from others with experiences different from mine.

QuoteI haven't had any internal sense of gender as a kid and unknowingly broke gender stereotypes (yippee!). I played with any toys I liked, no matter what others deemed the toy for whatever gender. I didn't see the world as gendered, and still don't. I never really cared about what restroom I go to, because I just see them as bathrooms. I don't care if outfits are gender neutral, masculine, or feminine. I just pick what I like and what's comfortable. Their just clothes. I don't really feel anything gender wise, and even if I want to be a specific gender, I don't feel like it. And I'm perfectly fine with that. I'm neither a man nor a woman, nor anything in between. I find more of a connection towards unalignment, and the agender spectrum. I'm kinda repulsed with binary pronouns, and honorifics, but also don't really care, which ties into me being cassgender. I never really cared about gender and my lack of it, but focused on life and having fun and stuff. Gender was and is nothing, nor important to me (with the exception of my 4 year gender crisis).

It sounds like you have a strong understanding of who you are and are fully embracing your authentic self. It's such a beautiful thing to see someone align so perfectly with their true identity.

QuoteMy partners said I sound and look more androgynous, and even friends said so. So I don't think much about going on hormones or anything to improve my androgyny. All I really want is top surgery, so I'm flat chested, because I hate my chest.

Yeah, there are many ways to transition, and talking with a therapist you can come with a plan specifically for you and what you want to achieve.

QuoteI also want to bleach my hair, straighten it, and leave a specific short length, like Will from Stranger things I think. I love baggy clothes, and the grunge style, so I've got the outfit thing down pat. I don't think I'm gonna have a big significant transition since it isn't all that big to me anymore. Just tol surgery, working on my hair, legally and socially transitioning, and going for.the style I want. I'm not too big on pronouns, but occasionally will use they/them. And I'm going by Finley (yes I know people would see it as a masculine name, but I believe it's gender neutral, right?).

Should I go for identifying as a gender as well? Part of me wants to, just so people ask, but I see my identity as a cassgender individual playing a bigger part because it essentially highlights my attitude towards my own gender identity. And I'm not too big on specifying with labels, but the label agender is also quite neat. Am I entitled to identify this way?

Exactly! It sounds like you're free to show the world who Finley truly is, rather than conforming to what the world expects. It's so liberating to break free from the mental constraints that hold us back from embracing our true selves.

Thank you all so much. <333