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I was imagining this.. that tomorrow morning.. I wake up as my fully transitioned.. ideal self. No dysphoria, no waiting, no medical hurdles. Everything in my body, voice, legal documents, and social acceptance, just done.

Would you take this opportunity without hesitation? Or do you feel that the journey, self-discovery, resilience, and personal growth, is too important to skip?

For me instant transition would be a dream come true, freeing me from years of struggle. I read some where from others, that the journey itself is what gives their identity meaning.

What about you? Would you press the button? Why or why not?

The journey isn't always just about ourselves, it often includes family, friends, other loved ones, and even co-workers. As much as I would have loved a short-cut, which would save both time and money, waking up from a decades-long nightmare into a completely new reality could be a life-shattering experience. With no time to adjust for you or anyone in your life, many relationships would not survive.

If the situation was more like waking up from a bad dream, and everyone in your life already knew you as your fully transitioned self, then yes, I would take the red pill and try to forget the nightmare of my past.

Love always -- Jess

When I was in high school, I read about someone undergoing "sex-change" surgery. I thought I would do it if I ever won the lottery. GRS, FFS. BA, Voice surgery, the works. Get it over with quickly, heal up, and begin my new life.

When we are young, our lives are more resilient. An abrupt change like that is a minor speedbump and everything else sort of smoothes out along the way. But when we are older, we have been in relationships longer, people have become more set in their ways, and as Jess pointed out, many relationships cannot survive that.

Having lived the long-drawn-out (unnecessarily slow) version of transition has helped me to see that you can't just flip a switch and be on your way. The body needs time to adjust to hormones. It took me four years of trying different dosages, brands, and methods just to get my hormones steady in the proper range. It takes time to learn different behaviors. As a kid, I learned that to prevent being bullied, I had to become a bully. Even today, if I feel threatened, I become very aggressive. That takes time to unlearn and is one of many things that therapy is helping me with.

Would I love the snap-my-fingers-and-it's-done method? Absolutely! But I don't believe that is the best way for most people. I think that most transitions take far longer than they need to, for a variety of reasons. But I also think that it is not something that can easily be rushed. I think if it were, there would be many, many more people regretting their decision and wanting to detransition. The slow process provides time for contemplation to be certain that this is the path you want to take.

Quote from: Lilis on February 13, 2025, 05:29:24 AMI was imagining this.. that tomorrow morning.. I wake up as my fully transitioned.. ideal self. No dysphoria, no waiting, no medical hurdles. Everything in my body, voice, legal documents, and social acceptance, just done.

Would you take this opportunity without hesitation? Or do you feel that the journey, self-discovery, resilience, and personal growth, is too important to skip?

For me instant transition would be a dream come true, freeing me from years of struggle. I read some where from others, that the journey itself is what gives their identity meaning.

What about you? Would you press the button? Why or why not?

I've actually been thinking about this alot lately as well. Now that vaginoplasty is something that is a reachable goal for me I am really thinking about this.

 Objectively all the other aspects of my transition are complete. I'm getting those thoughts of "Well, won't getting this surgery just be the end of the road for me?"

It would definitely be a dream come true for me. This is why I'm just trying to enjoy that something good is coming rather than pushing fast forward.

No.

Not unless time was turned back so I would grow up as female and I would not experienced everything I have in actual life.


Chrissy

Hi Everyone

I wake up to the gentle sunlight streaming through my window but something feels different today. I don't feel any hesitation dysphoria or lingering doubts. I reach for the little pill sitting on my nightstand the one that has the power to change everything. Without a moment of hesitation I swallow it.

A warmth washes over me. It is not painful just deep and fulfilling. My skin feels softer my curves settle into place and my voice shifts so effortlessly. Every part of me feels right as if I have always existed this way. There is no struggle no waiting no medical barriers. It is just me a female.

I step in front of the mirror and for the first time there is no disconnect. The reflection looking back at me is truly me entirely. Without a second thought I embrace the life that was always meant for me and I enter the world contented.

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
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Quote from: Lilis on February 13, 2025, 05:29:24 AMI was imagining this.. that tomorrow morning.. I wake up as my fully transitioned.. ideal self. No dysphoria, no waiting, no medical hurdles. Everything in my body, voice, legal documents, and social acceptance, just done.

Would you take this opportunity without hesitation? Or do you feel that the journey, self-discovery, resilience, and personal growth, is too important to skip?

For me instant transition would be a dream come true, freeing me from years of struggle. I read some where from others, that the journey itself is what gives their identity meaning.

What about you? Would you press the button? Why or why not?

Everything you go through in life makes you who you are. Be that good or bad. You are who you are because of everything you've gone through in your life. It's easy to say "I would skip this or that, if things were different." And while I understand that, it would not make you you. If you did that, you would be someone else.

If you're okay with that, then okay.

What you're proposing is slightly different though, Lilis. You aren't suggesting to erase the past. Only shape the future. Would I do that? In a heartbeat. Because I don't have to let go of everything else. It's the best of all worlds.